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    Second Life is filled with petty and rude people.

    in General Discussion Forum

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    18 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

    One thing I did in the past was to keep two note cards in SL, writing down positive experiences in one and negative in the other. There was always far, far more positive....but if I try to think back and determine the reality I usually remember the most negative ones!

    I remember a study some years back that theorized our minds more easily remember the difficult or painful experiences so that we're less likely to repeat them in the future.

    So just a suggestion Ashlyn.....it really helped me.

     

    Thanks for the suggestion, Luna, but if I could think seriously for a moment the negative outweigh the positive. 

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    Second Life is filled with petty and rude people.

    in General Discussion Forum

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    12 minutes ago, Avaraia Aljon said:

    I think rudeness needs to happen if its deserved. if you get triggered because i rate your one star worthy item with one star and decide the best thing to do is to im me with your triggeredness over the coarse of 3 months untill i decide i'm out of popcorn and block you (really happened) you better bet i'm gonna get hellah rude sister.

    another thing is people on sl come from different backgrounds, upbringings, and cultures. so even if you think you've been decidedly mild you may have done something to spark the rudeness.

     

    also do you make or post on any threads where you arn't complaining about something?

    Oh, most certainly Avaraia. Right on point. ??

    Also, Avaraia. To the latter, I suppose I could, but I am not active on the community board as many of you are. My sincere apologies, Avaraia. ?? I had no idea I was complaining about ‘something’ all the time as you put it. 

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    Second Life is filled with petty and rude people.

    in General Discussion Forum

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    24 minutes ago, Callum Meriman said:

    Maybe it's me, but I sense bitterness behind these responses. I hope I am just misreading the tone, text is a terrible indicator of true emotions and meaning.

    But if I am, Ashlyn, maybe you need to consider a sea change. There are a lot of nice people in SL, a whole bunch. But you gotta to be nice to notice them.

    No worries Callum about the ‘be nice’ aspect of things. I assure you I have been. ?? Also, I’ve interpreted text words the very same way as do all. And, I’ve read them as either sarcastic or rude. But, it’s text, right? How can we know?

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    Second Life is filled with petty and rude people.

    in General Discussion Forum

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    1 hour ago, BilliJo Aldrin said:

    Maybe I don't meet rude people because I read profiles before  I say hello to anyone, or say much past hello in reply when I'm imed.

    Rude people tend to have rude profiles.

     

    That’s nice, BilliJo. ??

    1 hour ago, Nalytha said:

    I remember the thread where you admit to having a past you aren't proud of and want to move on from. 

    So, why is it so strange that Second Life might be filled with other people who do stuff they might later regret (or should)? 

    I don’t know, you tell me. ??

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    Second Life is filled with petty and rude people.

    in General Discussion Forum

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    I’d considered SL a game if only because people don’t seem to consider the feelings of others here and are able to be as rude as possible without feeling any sort of guilt about it. As if you’re just some random NPC on a regular video game. 

    I like SL originally because it seemed fun to customize characters (avatars) and take pictures. And, it seems like a fun idea to interact with people who you never thought to otherwise or don’t have the ability to. But then it just got worse and worse overtime and then you have people who tries to sabotage any sort of experience you want to have like someone who commented on this thread just a few minutes ago.

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    Second Life is filled with petty and rude people.

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    11 minutes ago, Zeta Vandyke said:

    So you come here telling us we are all non decent, petty and rude people? Thats rude.

    Have you ever considered that if everyone you encounter ends up being not friendly with you, there might be a problem at the source? Looking at this and your previous topics and posts on this forum you could come to the conclusion that a social platform like SL is just not the thing for you.

    Maybe. 

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    Race Play

    in General Discussion Forum

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    On 11/18/2017 at 8:22 AM, BilliJo Aldrin said:

    how is it race play if the person is of that race? Not gonna tell a white guy to stuff his big n****r dick in me, that makes no sense.

    Some blacks like refer to them selves as n****r, and it empowers them more to have a white girl refer to their manhood as a n****r dick.

    If its race play hes the one playing not me, I'm just trying to please him, regardless of his race.

    Guess I'll just call all well built males studs instead then , instead of buck or bull

     

    As I know who this thread is about (a shame you didn’t go in-world to say so), I can’t help but put my own two cents in your thread as a black person myself. And, I’m laughing so hard right now, but it’s okay to be ignorant of a race you’re not a part of. Because...one, not every black person uses n*gga (you said n*gger like what black person calls each other that with the hard ‘er’ like bruh...they don’t say that trust me lmao, but it’s okay you’re not one of us so how would you know). 

    Secondly, mentioning your partner’s race in your profile, in my opinion (key word here is opinion), is really unnecessary and makes it seem like his race is more important to you than him as a person. Then again, it’s just my opinion. 

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    Looking for friends who won’t judge me or my past.

    in Make Friends

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    42 minutes ago, BilliJo Aldrin said:

     I googled you too, so I know your secret. I almost got into a big fight with another avatar on the other thread you started about this, but  I deleted my last three posts and the thread died. What you are in rl makes no difference to me. We could hang out or be friends if you like.

    Thank you so much for this. The next time I log in-world, I’ll message you 

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    Looking for friends who won’t judge me or my past.

    in Make Friends

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    24 minutes ago, BilliJo Aldrin said:

    Cindy wrote:

    That’s all I’m asking for is just a friend. Seriously. I hate constantly being outed and it’s just truly hurtful. And I’ve tried EVERYTHING I could to change and I’m STILL being followed around just to prevent me from doing much of anything.

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    Outed? are you a rl guy?

    I've had  friends in here that are girls but they fell in love with another girl, and decided they just had to tell the truth knowing their love interest will understand and accept them because doncha know its whats inside that really counts. Of course their love interest is devasted and accuses them of horrible things and dumps them The friend is so devasted that she vows it will never happen again, so she puts a declaration on the profile that yes shes a rl guy, and now everyone avoids her and shes always miserable.

    At this point i would tell them to ditch everyone that ever knew, remove that ridiculous statement from your profile and  just be the girl you are in sl.

    Oh and yes, if you are interested, I'd love to be friends

    No, the issue I’m having is much different.

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    Looking for friends who won’t judge me or my past.

    in Make Friends

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    52 minutes ago, Cinnamon Mistwood said:

    @Ashlyn Voir you mentioned you were tired of being outted.  Have you already made some alts?  If so, how are people finding out who you were?  Making an alt to start over only works if you start over.  That means you do NOT go to the same places, you do NOT contact the same old friends.   New alt, New Secondlife.  No one knows you or your past mistakes or drama.  No one.  It may not be as easy to start over as you wish it to be, but someone you are contacting is telling others who you are or were.

    I think this advice is stupid. It only enforces to keep running away instead of just being honest. I’ve spent a lot of money on this account and it’s stupid as hell to just run away because some people don’t want me to make friends on the game. Unlike the most of you, I don’t have money just to throw away to make alts and fix them up. 

    Thats then whole purpose of making the thread was to ‘make friends’/‘find friends’. And so far no one has offered anything except asinine “advice”.

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    Looking for friends who won’t judge me or my past.

    in Make Friends

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    1 minute ago, Cindy Evanier said:

    Well I guess you guys will find out bringing personal drama and grudges to these forums won't get you far.  At best it will be ignored. at worst it will end up having the thread removed.  

    I’m not...I haven’t done anything. All I’m asking for is to just make a friend on the game and I’m so sick and tired of being like the one person always trying to stop that from happening because they keep bringing up my past in order to prevent anyone from getting to ask me about it first or at least get some clarification of anything. And it’s sickening. 

     

    And every hobby or community I’ve wanted to rejoin or join is ruined by people like this who won’t ecen bother trying to give me a chance. 

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    Looking for friends who won’t judge me or my past.

    in Make Friends

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    I’m avoided in SL and SL Flickr. And, I feel outed and alone and it would be nice to have some friends that won’t judge me for any misdeeds I’ve said or done in my past. I’ve had people take pictures with me and delete them because they don’t want to be associated with my avatar or me as an individual. I’m just trying to move on past it and finally make some friends who want to get to know me. 

    I have a lot of interests and I enjoy talking about many things. I promise I can be a good friend.

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    Let's try this a third time, shall we?

    in Make Friends

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    I've been on SL for years, but have never been able to hold down friendships in-world. I always felt I had to IM people first or spark up a conversation to keep them talking to me. And just recently my feelings were hurt--as silly as it sounds--by a person who I thought really liked me. They won't even IM me at this point even when I try so hard to be friendly to them. I've tried this method of meeting friends before, but it always ended terribly. Yet, I'm out of options and I would like to do things on SL other than shop or take photos. I'm quiet shy and will take time to open up, but once I feel comfortable I am fun to be around. If anyone would like a friendship, I am available. 

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