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58 minutes ago, CoffeeDujour said:
I concur 100% .. I know you said you don't have space, but.. it's worth making the space. I was on laptops for years for the same reason, in the end I sacrificed the kitchen table. Worth it.
You will be able to get a bigger screen. Buy the parts you want. Assembly is straight forward (and simpler than many lego sets), no shortage of people here who can assist if you need help. You can upgrade as you go & it will last you many years. There are MANY tutorials on YT that show how to build one step by step. It's really easy, you will never go back to buying a box. Like a wedding, it's only as expensive as you make it, set a budget before you start, plan on updating it, so don't fret too much about your first builds actual spec.
You will need.
- Screen. Go a little mad here, this is the thing you will spend all your time looking at. (and maybe a HDMI cable, some include)
- Keyboard. Cheap and cheerful, or fancy mechanical clicky goodness.
- Mouse.
- CPU, suitable motherboard and 16Gb memory. Look for bundles, plenty of places will package these up together so you have no worries about compatibility. MB will come with all the cables you need to connect drives etc.
- SSD .. 200GB ish.
- A Windows licence or Linux
- Graphics card. Nvidia. the second numbers are the important ones .. so a 970 has more grunt than a 1030 ... I would suggest something ending in 50 as the minimum.
- Power supply. These are more efficient when larger then needed. Buy a brand name. There are calculators online, or just get something 800W and don't worry about it. Modular cables are a plus.
- Case to put it all in, pick something pretty with a window ... or a cardboard box from the supermarket if you don't have cats. (done both!!)
The thing is, if I were able to put together my own PC I wouldn’t be asking this question. I am not tech savvy—I mean seriously not at all—and much of that sounds extremely confusing. I’d get frustrated very quickly.
I’d be da*ned to save up for a bunch parts only to completely ruin it or break anything.
I have absolutely no room for a desktop in the first place. I’m interested in a good laptop.
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I currently don’t have enough room in my house to put in a desktop computer and I often enjoy the benefits to having a laptop computer as you can travel with it and it’s compact.
At the moment I’m not financially able to get a new laptop or desktop PC for that matter, but eventually I hope to someday upgrade from the purgatory that is my current—four going on five year old—laptop. My current FPS at any given time is always 0.5-5.0 at any sim that isn’t blank. Even at low settings. So, yeah I think it’s time for an upgrade, but I just wanted to ask what laptop would you guys recommend that would be able to run SL at ultra settings and smoothly? I’m not tech savvy, so I have no idea about computers that much.
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Sim hopping around in the vain hopes people will be nice enough to IM me, but so far nothing.
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Hi to the people in SecondLife.
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I wouldn’t mind being your friend. Unlike most people on the game, I do actually go out of my way to be a decent friend and not ignore you.
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I don’t blame you for making these threads and hoping something good will come out of it. I myself have tried making threads like this and haven’t met a single friend out of any of it. In my experience, people add you and seldom ever chat to you. Second Life is like that in a nutshell. No one talks and the only time you ever talk is in some bad sex role play. But. You know. Good luck finding friends on this game.
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17 minutes ago, Prokofy Neva said:
Well, petty and rude are different things. Maybe "shallow" is the word you want.
I deal with a lot of people in customer service. Most people are pleasant and nice without especially trying. A few are curt because they are preoccupied but not rude. Some are rude and repeatedly so, and aggressive. They're in the minority but they can loom large. I think there are more of them than in RL because anonymity gives them a cover.
I could also note that most people who claim I've been rude to them are utterly oblivious to their own rudeness and getting it right back at them. There are quite a few BDSM types who think anyone is fair game for their "roleplay". Fortunately, there are block and ban options.
If you really want people to assess this, you'd have to say more about your interactions.
I guess to some degree maybe everyone is that way. Maybe not purposely, but it’s human nature I suppose. Either way, this thread accomplished something and I made a new friend from it because they were kind and reached out to me. As many others have said before, what we give out is what we get back. Not always, but for the most part yeah.
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13 minutes ago, Avaraia Aljon said:
confirmed. i suspected people acting that way towards you where just mirroring your own *****ty behavior, but now i don't have to suspect <3
Oh, hunty hush.
29 minutes ago, LyricalBookworm said:To the OP: I won't claim I know your situation so I can only go by what you type out so please bare with me here.
There is such a thing as being too nice. If you're giving linden away, or being someone's constant ear for therapy it can go to an extreme. It all depends on how you're approaching situations. It is setting yourself up to be the selfless and blameless martyr in the relationships you have. That isn't healthy for either person in the friendship. It is harmful because one is wearing themselves thin by constant giving and allowing the other person to constantly take. Friendship is like a scale. Both sides have to give and take for it to actually balance out.
You have to make sure you're replenishing yourself of those things you give to others. Otherwise you can become quite bitter towards everyone around you and begin to play the blame game (which it sadly seems is where you have put yourself).
I believe in being there for my loved ones. It is important to be there if someone needs you to lend them an ear, to have fun with, to be a source of reassurance. You have to make sure you take time to replenish what has been lost during those encounters though. I've personally learned from experience that I'm a better sister, girlfriend and friend when I have time to myself to regroup.
There are always going to be negative people anywhere you go. That is a given in life. I said it before in my last post. Only you can control your own behavior. Only you can control your own outlook. You can allow the negative people you encounter to pull you down to the dark place you seem to be in or you can climb out and get on with things. You're allowing others' behavior to impact your whole existence.
From what I've seen here from the replies you've received, no one has claimed to be a saint.
One of the most beautiful things I find about humanity is we are all perfectly...imperfect.
Thank for for being the only person on this thread to leave a nice and reasonable response to me. And yes, very much true and well said
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9 minutes ago, ThorinII said:
Well, for someone who thinks this virtual world SL were just a game (an assumption that is wrong on many levels in itself), and who isn't a sunshine themselves, I think you are just getting (or have been getting over the years) what you've been out to find.
As the saying goes: "We reap what we sow."
Because I called this game a game? It is a game.
Only one person was decent enough to IM me in-game and was completely polite and cordial. I was the same back. Mutual politeness and mutual respect. I don’t think it’s me, hun.
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It will all end soon enough.
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This thread turned into a mystery novel overnight (I’m going by Second Life time since it’s non-discriminatory and it is the game we are on).
I’ve been called a troll because someone left a snide remark and I decided to respond back? And yet somehow I—of course, I would be of all people because of obvious reasons—am the one who is wrong? Yet, all the passive aggressive and indirect insults that are directed toward me is a-ok? Ahh. I see now.
I don’t doubt there aren’t good people on this game. And I don’t discredit anyone and their experiences with others on the game as well. My own haven’t been too peachy, but it’s not the result of myself. I’ve given people money on the game. I’ve armchair therapied others. I’ve tried being a decent online friend when I could.
I don’t make alts because they’re used to deceive people. Not to mention, I’m not spending money on an alt when none of my items are transferable on this one.
That being said, my encounters have been more bad than good as time went on and I won’t deny some of it was my own paranoia stopping me from getting close to anyone on this game. But, a lot of it was from people IMing me rude things about my avatar or calling it names. People bumping into me for the sake of it being funny. Oh, I have the IMs of people saying downright nasty things to me in-world but of course I can’t share them here.
And, even on SL Flickr when I’ve tried making nice comments on others photos, I’ve been told not to comment when I wrote literally ‘nice photo and nice avatars’. Insane.
Afterwards, I became irritated and made said thread.
But.
Continue your baseless assumptions about me or my SL. From the looks of the replies, calling yourselves saints is sort of over doing it.
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You’ll find friends in no time with the look of your avatar. Good luck
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24 minutes ago, LyricalBookworm said:
To the OP: I've been part of SL since 2009. My experiences have been for the greater majority really positive and rewarding. Friendships that were formed in 2009 are still going strong even now. The only difference are those people are family now. I've been very fortunate and I feel truly blessed at the wonderful people I've met along the way. A few have passed on, but I still try to just remember to be grateful because I had the chance to know such beautiful people. The loss hurt tremendously, but I will take that hurt because they made my world all the more incredible for being part of it.
Negative experiences have been few and far between thankfully. There is a total of two people on my mute list. There are some unpleasant people out there, but why let that ruin your entire SL? That seems like a rather miserable existence to me. You have no control over someone's behavior other than your own so why not focus on what you can do to make yourself happy? You seem to be in such a dark and bitter place. I've always found that what I put out is what I get in return.
The larger majority of people in SL and the forums are a diverse group of people. You're going to get all kinds giving you feedback when you choose to publicly post here. I've read this entire thread and the feedback offered has been trying to help you to see out of the little box you seem to have put yourself into. If you are open enough to take a deeper look at the feedback instead of getting completely worked up about it, it might actually benefit you.
I've been reading these forums for years although I've rarely posted. There have been negative moments, but you find those moments anywhere. It is part of life. For the most part though, this community is really helpful. I've gotten so much help here just by reading threads and the residents who post here regularly really do try to give constructive feedback so you can perhaps find a solution instead of pointless pity that only encourages most to wallow even more into the issue they find themselves in.
It is entirely up to you of course what your attitude will be. Your SL is seriously what you make of it. If you're determined to be miserable, that is what you will be. If you're actually willing to work on your own happiness and well-being, that will get you out of ruts you encounter in Sl and RL.
It is all what we make of it. It is all about your attitude
Great post.
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4 minutes ago, Vanagew said:
I was being somewhat (okay very) sarcastic. If the OP thinks SL is rude, he should check out COD or Aion, the communities there redefine the meaning of the word "toxic". I'm extremely grateful to that lady just so you know and I've received help from others too who I also am extremely grateful to.
I am the OP. ?
Oh, this forum is child’s play compared to what I’ve dealt with in my past. Believe me. This is nothing and is so heavily moderated that it’s almost impossible to be a flaming a**hole.
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5 minutes ago, Vanagew said:
On the second day I joined (about two weeks ago) I had a lady come up to me who was scantily dressed, had a large pair of knockers and a very big butt. Know what she did? She gave me 200 Linden for no reason, showed me around the game, gave me poiners about where not to go (I was and still am a child avatar), helped me out with my outfits and friended me.
Just the other day I was talking to her thanking her for her help when she gave me another 300 Linden. I was rather embarrassed by it, but she said she wanted to help me out and that she was glad that I had found other Child avatar friends. I have had other people who have helped me out immensely since I joined as well. She is one of the nicest people I have ever met online but I completely agree, it was so rude of her and others to be so kind towards me.
‘...but I completely agree, it was so rude of her and others to be so kind towards me’
Huh? I’m not sure why this was said. I never said it was rude to be nice to people—what an oxymoron. There are few nice people who’d even do such a thing and you were lucky to be one of the very few to experience such acts of kindness.
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24 minutes ago, Tari Landar said:
You considered what I said as being passive aggressive (which it really wasn't, I'm either passive, or aggressive, I don't like mingling the two, it's just darn confusing, to be honest). But you don't understand how others can read your words as sarcastic, or perhaps even their own version of passive aggressive shade even? I'm not being a smartass when I ask that, I am actually asking if you really do not see how your words might be perceived as sarcastic passive aggressive retorts.
If your intent was to be polite, it is very clear that your intent was about as clear as muck. It's ok, that happens, humans arne't always the greatest at expressing what it is we really want to say, textually. But it's also super easy to clear up actual confusion too. Thus far, most of your replies read the same, utilize the same text "speech" patterns, and come across the same. I think it's a reasonable conclusion for folks to believe that they are, in fact, not sincere politeness, but actually passive aggressiveness. If everyone else is so mistaken, and everyone has mistaken your words for something they are not....clear them up. I promise, it really is easy as heck..and probably could've been done pages ago (of course that would've eliminated a lot of the banter too).
When you choose not to clear up something you perceive as a mistake on others' part, you're only going to perpetuate the belief that their opinions of your words were actually correct all along.
Shrugs....I forsee you not having a grand a time as you could, be it sl, these forums, or anywhere else, with that kind of approach. But, what do I know, I'm not a fan of creating enemies, personally, especially when what I want is to be able to connect with other people.
Written words are often difficult to interpret and I have that issue a lot. Either way, so much went wrong and I’m to blame for it, but whether or not my experience will change is sort of beyond me at this point.
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1 minute ago, Pamela Galli said:
I have no firm basis for believing she is or is not a member of a particular minority. I do know this: when minorities in the US have their hands full putting up with so much injustice and so many indignities in RL, I have a hard time imagining a real victim pointlessly Trolling the forum. It is an insult to any people she claims to represent.
I disagree with you.
2 minutes ago, Skell Dagger said:You're absolutely right. There's a lot of passive-aggressive shade being thrown in this thread. Here are some examples (emphasis mine, especially on the sarcastic repetition of names , the exaggerated 'unapologetic apology' and the condescending tone of voice) that I found:
In fact, let me fix the first line that I quoted here for you:
There's only one common denominator here, and it isn't "everyone else in SL".
And, I’m only being polite. It’s sarcastic to write names and apologize now or am I missing something?
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2 minutes ago, Hunter Stern said:
Oh I think having a discussion around a point of view is fine for anyone, but I would tread carefully once that discussion turns into a personal chat between myself and another party to which others might not be privy to. It's not very a considerate presentation of said topic then to the rest of us who's ears (eyes) are just agape for the next kernel.
Isn't there a Community Participation Guideline which states thou shalt not create a new thread of a topic from a thread that was closed?
Oh yeah, but this is the 'Rude' thread.
on the matter of 'We'
We, Wii, Oui?Are you peaking French? or is that a turd in your pocket ?
Both threads are different from each other, but what others bring up from old threads to this one—nothing to do with this one—I’ve made is out of my control.
That being said, your humor is adorable.
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1 hour ago, BilliJo Aldrin said:
and the OP plays the race card.
I never mentioned race though. You assumed, BilliJo Aldrin.
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6 hours ago, Tari Landar said:
Oh that wasn't passive aggressive shade, that was direct shade(it also wasn't years ago, but I digress). Your actual inquiry was answered pages ago, by lots of people. Your choice to ignore ALL of the posts that were actually kind to you, and continue to say that people are nothing but petty and rude, is bound to get you precisely what you're looking for.
I know, I know, it's just another "social experiment", right?
Lots of people, including myself, in many posts, have offered other perspectives, even advice, which you've clearly ignored. The past is bound to continue to repeat itself, when you *admittedly choose* to ignore past mistakes.
If you want to find kind, generous, respectable, thoughtful, sweet, and a myriad of other positive attributes one could attach to humans, people...you first have to BE that which you're looking to find. You're making a choice not to, and throwing all kinds of your own brand of shade...at everyone, for no real reason. Most folks don't take too kindly to that kind of stuff, especially here, lol. It'll almost guarantee a derailment.
It’s assumed I haven’t been ‘kind, generous, respectable, thoughtful, sweet, and a myriad of other positive attributes one could attach to humans’ even though I have many times. I can also assume my kind are treated differently in online communities and other subcultures because we are deemed to only like one thing and stick to said stereotype, but I digress.
And joining something outside of that stereotype we are instantly ignored or treated with disrespect even if we are trying to be ‘kind, generous, respectable, thoughtful, sweet, and a myriad of other positive attributes one could attach to humans’. But, as another poster said this thread will be closed shortly and I honestly couldn’t careless at this point, I just wanted to get this last statement out before it was as it’s the only reason I know of for why I made this post in the first place.
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Also, with all the passive aggressive shade being thrown, thank you for walking right into the point I’ve been trying to prove this whole time.*
-please refer to the title of said thread.
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9 minutes ago, Tari Landar said:
I know, huh?
These are two of my favs
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I'm guessing that whole getting attention on sls thing isn't going so well these days, eh?
Of course, hun
Especially considering it was years ago, Tari Landar.
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2 minutes ago, Tari Landar said:
This is so adorable. Your 2004 memes are so cute.
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45 minutes ago, Jerilynn Lemon said:
Frankly, I think your original post has been answered. As I wrote in my earlier post, some don't like the answers they get and find cause to continue to behave as they do.
So...sit on your ass and watch people here try to be helpful, as you think you might be pulling strings like a puppeteer. You haven't won any respect from me with that snide comment, so it shows why people here avoid you like a plague. All this forum shows, as mentioned, people here are kind and adult in conversation.
You just come across as a spoiled princess.
Oh no, that’s horrible, Jerilynn. In no way was my post meant to be a sign of disrespect especially towards you. I’m sincerely sorry if I have no respect from you and even more so why I’m a plague to be avoided as you say. My deepest apologies and I’ll take all the ‘advice’ here as something to completely and utterly abide by.
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What laptop would you recommend for Second Life?
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Posted · Edited by Ashlyn Voir
Hope it works for you then.