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Why does it have to be 'dirty old man' rather than 'old man that is appreciating the beauty of youth'? One phrase implies an ill-intent as the default, or that there is something going wrong.
I liked the start of your post which seemed positive then ended up being negative.
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13 hours ago, Madison10292018 said:
Those people were not your friends. Real friends would not reject someone over their selection of what computer program to use. They are scum and you are better off without them.
Yes, I am and thanks for that. Been cleaning house the last few years on that matter, both offline and online.
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1 minute ago, Robin Kiyori said:
As someone with low empathy and really poor mentalth health, I've faced allot of stigma and issues offline and online.
people have dismissed my problems, I've had benefits unfairly taken away becaue I wasn't "sick enough" even when struggling to stay alive. People like me are called monsters because of our low or lack of empathy. Even when we have so much compassion and care.
Never mind that my headmates very person-hood is constantly put into question simply because the world can't wrap their head around the fact that plurality exists.
Compassion and care are the root of empathy though. empathy is about beign able to put ourselves in other people's shoes, to try to see their point of view, and to understand it. You don't have to agree with them, or enable them on something you don't want to.. That is empathy. And it's based on having compassion for others and care for others.
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6 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:
You were asking for an example of someone using a stigmatization of mental illness to dismiss those with whom they disagree?
Before I respond, I would point out that you take out 3 words out of an entire post that provides context and just respond to that instead?
How is describing a personality type of someone I and others would have encountered in our lives who are 'predatory, manipulative weirdo types" a stigmatization of mental illness? Where did I equate my experience with an individual(s) to people with mental illness ?
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6 minutes ago, Arielle Popstar said:
I would still be insane in thinking I can change others. One popular definition for insanity is trying the same thing over and over again expecting a different result. I did that for a long time trying to get others to behave and treat me right. I failed and hit a bottom of sorts having become obsessive and compulsive in attempting to change those who were not going to change.
This is a bit iffy position, as we all go through our lives trying to convince others to our point of view. Sometimes it's successful. Hell some of us made a living out of it through sales - Sales is literally trying to change other people's mind, by making a convincing argument.
What you are referring to (which I'm guilty of as well at times) of trying to change people's minds who are not open to changing their minds, or engaging in honest conversation or debate - they will not change their minds because they won't. Sometimes we get suckered in because it's a 'well if I rephrase it this way or maybe say it differently", but I don't know if that's a bad trait. Being able to convince others towards something that you believe will benefit them isn't 'crazy'.
It would just be crazy to engage with an individual that has no interest in learning or changing anything. Also as I may guess that you've had experience with some NPD types, not everyone is like that and to keep your head up and DONT lose your argumentative spirit. Hey I'm taking my own advice here and say we just gotta know when it's no point with some people in our lives is all. There can be some very good benefits from debating things with your friends and even if it can be frustrating at times, sometimes you get a few win points in and maybe even concede a few yourself with new information, and the interaction feels great.
Staying away from predatory, manipulative weirdo types is a pretty good idea though. I've had a few in my personal life that had to go, because they were stuck in some ideal or even a year haha and weren't going to 'grow' or leave it and I had to let it go.
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1 minute ago, Coffee Pancake said:
Good for you, the bullies won.
No, she is correct. If we get defensive or angry or uncomfortable about what someone else says about us, self-assessing our reaction to it is a valuable skill to have.
Psychiatrists will say If we are bothered by other people's words (Not physical damage), that there may be some truth to it, and if we look within, it is strong to admit that maybe they are right - and to make the relevant changes. If not, then we just discard their words and move on.
This is all part of maturing and gaining self-confidence.
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I liked some of the old designs. I'd like to see a high ceiling type warehouse, open floor plan style house as that is my preference. Then I can build to taste. Call it a studio home or whatever.
I don't prefer newer home styles or the Boston Colonial type (which i think the currents seem based on) that IMO have to many walls, to many small rooms, not my style.
Need an artist's studio, warehouse style open floor plan please. Even in my older SL home that I just abandoned, I only used one large room and ignored the rest.
I think most people are like me in the sense they have limited things in those, as they were actually quite large, but the texture scale was way out of whack. If you recycled those designs with some modern texture changes (the new houses have good scale now) I'd be interested.
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1 hour ago, LittleMe Jewell said:
They definitely would not do this. LL actually put in ambiance sounds in Bellisseria -- birds, water, and a few other misc sounds. Lots of folks leave the 'sound' thing unchecked because they want to hear the LL provided sounds.
I thought they referred to gesture sounds and object sounds made from objects on your property...
In any case the solution would be to separate region/parcel/LL sounds from ACTUAL gesture (created from avatars) and objects (placed by the owner/renter) of the parcel.
Solutions not abuse reports I would like any platform to gravitate to, first.
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2 minutes ago, Arielle Popstar said:
Let's face it, if S/l can't develop anything of interest to attract and retain new users, the time will come when the market you create for will just shrink more and more until you leave for more lucrative markets that may require you to join Facebook!
Nooooooooooo! But seriously, I would just give up any 3d artistic goals if it mean I was locked into Facebook - I just wont do it.
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7 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:
Mental health has long been weaponized as a means of dismissing or denigrating the very real issues faced both by those with actual mental health issues, and those who have merely expressed a perspective that is "different" from those of the norms of our culture.
How has mental health been weaponized?
How would we see this in practice? Some examples?
What perspectives would be considered 'different' from those of the norms of our culture and how are they dismissed?
7 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:It's a two-pronged attack: employ misinformation and ridicule to stigmatize actual mental health issues in such a way as to silence those who struggle with them, and then throw the accusation of being "mentally unfit" or "unwell" at anyone whose views are perceived as being at all transgressive. At the heart of this approach is an attempt to establish a "norm" of mental health, which is actually a political perspective, and define anyone who falls outside of that norm as "warped" or "crazy" or "unfit."
What kinds of misinformation would be employed and relating to which mental health issues, and how do they silence those that struggle with said mental issues?
Who throws accusations of "mentally unfit" or "unwell" and which transgressive views are we speaking of exactly?
There is a 'normal' range of any issue. It is referred to as a 'bell curve' or 'median' or 'average' or 'general' trend, state or character of a thing, things or persons or groups. When people fall outside of this spectrum, the majority will recognize them as the 'exception, not the rule', and scientifically it makes sense to treat such minority percentages as they are. Hence the 'exception to the rule' should not be argued as a general rule, nor should be an exception used to apply a method, limit, law or rule on the majority.
Who is calling people on the end of the bell curve 'crazy' or 'warped'?
7 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:It's a perspective that can certainly be found in SL, both in-world and, on occasion, in these forums. There are a great many ways to combat it, of which perhaps the most effective is education: understanding mental health issues removes a great deal of the stigma and fear that surrounds them.
All perspectives can be found in SL, both in world and on these forums. It doesn't mean it's wrong or right, it's just a perspective, which is just another word for saying "someone's opinion".
Education is fine, but most people are quite educated on a number of issues, yet still hold their opinion - mainly because they HAVE actually educated themselves, looked at both sides of the equation, and came to their own conclusion over it.
Which ways would you suggest that would help combat a difference of opinion, perception or worldview?
7 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:it's also useful to employ empathy.
It seems to me that empathy is one important way to learn to understand mental health issues, and is, at the same time, an exercise in mental wellness. Empathy makes us better; it makes us stronger. And it makes us much less afraid.
Yes, empathy is an important trait to have - the ability to put oneself into another person's shoes, to understand their perspective, to recognize their perspective, to respect their perspective...
and yet still disagree with it.
A bit more empathy for everyone and by everyone in this world (on all issues) is certainly needed.
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LL should have "Restrict gestures and object sounds to this parcel" checked by default. Or even as a non-optional choice. I don't see too many use cases where this would be unchecked. If it came as a default for sounds on parcel, then UNCHECKING it and then having annoying generator sounds on your parcel would warrant an Abuse Report.
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1 hour ago, Arielle Popstar said:
I realize you posted that to laugh at and try to convince others how ridiculous it is because of people's reactions but to me while I think a lot of the incidents were funny, it kept striking me how immersed people were from putting on the headset. I can be pretty involved in Secondlife with a regular monitor and even the Lumiya VR option was pretty good before the Lab buggered up that mobile viewer, but never to the extent that the players in the video did. I am of the opinion that if the Lab put some development into a VR viewer, they could attract a fair few new users and give existing creators new lines of products and experiences to work on. That might even give existing users enough of an interest that they don't need to multitask to keep from getting bored within S/L itself because that is what multitasking is often about.
Yes, this can be very true and a point I make to some VR advocates. Of course I would never say VR is less immersive than a desktop - it's just that I've gamed for years and know when I am immersed versus not.
In some scary games, it could be as simple as turning off all the lights in the room and the only viewport being the screen - yikes.
Or just becoming focused on a FPS game and being 'dialed in' and no one's stopping you.
The advantage of no VR of course is that you can immediately get up and go make a cup of coffee, or respond to an email without all the extra work of removing the equipment.
I'm not in a hurry for VR simply because I guess the immersive benefit doesn't outweigh the cons for ME personally as a multitasker, getting up and down from workstation working in different software and engines etc.. would only be for 100% leisure time (which is rare for a creative because there is ALWAYS something to make, learn, improve hard for us to actually enjoy something as leisure)
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Mark is a scumbag. Never signed up for a Facebook account because I took the time to read their Terms of Service and Privacy Policy, and said 'no thanks'. I then suffered social loss by my own friends who 'punished' me by going to events they organized on Facebook and didn't inform me, then said "Well you don't have Facebook".
Only a year in to Facebook, though I can't find a quote, I remember Zuck saying he was amazed that people submitted their info to Facebook, that what suckers they were... it's only later in the following link we could verify an actual statement testified..
Shortly after Mark Zuckerberg Called People Who Handed Over Their Data "Dumb F****", and accounts compromised, and people not able to delete their info when deleting accounts, and Facebook being used by stalkers and even potential employers - judging people by what they had on their profiles..
No regrets.
Now scumbag wants to REALLY lure us in with the promise of Utopia and 3D happiness - his evil offer definitely appealing to people like me - creators and artists - who want to create worlds and cool stuff - but will come at the cost of our privacy and dignity - and he will RULE us.
Just the fact right now that I cannot participate in Meta or use an Oculus without submitting to a disgusting Facebook account right now underscores the problem. he's hoping to lure people like me in who haven't otherwised, with the promise of creative opportunities (and backed with $$$)
Zuckerberg is also an advocate of 'you will own nothing and be happy' and may support aims that will literally DRIVE people to his 'metaverse' by means of pandemic fears.
As tempting as his offer is, I will sadly have to leave it behind and give up some dreams on the matter - even if Oculus and Meta are the biggest VR sales right now. If they gain the market in that department there will be no stopping them, and (hopefully not) in their "Utopian" future - you will be on a dirty mattress sharing a house with 8 other people, but you have an Oculus on your head and your clout, status and social credit and 'immaterial' goods will be hosted by Zucks' Meta - and you will be under their control.
Much like other platforms have already demonstrated, one that was headed up by LL itself - that they are more than willing to control behaviour by threatening forfeiture of your hard work and world creations, and loss of your account.
Don't give scumbag Zuck that power, we already know what he thinks of us, he said so, and we should not forget it.
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1 minute ago, Aria Aurelia said:
Some of you are very against this but anyone taking it out has a choice to either not bother or make sure they get the money they’ve spent out of it in free uploads. The point I’m making is that it does give you incentive to make things if you have the will and want to do it.
For those of us who may have 1-2 materials per object >:-D it isn't really a draw.Good for those who put 8 x textures on 8 linked objects though
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I'm surprised no one has mentioned or said they want an increase in Li .
That is my main beef with SL. Not enough Li in relation to the land size.
I don't need a bigger land size. I can do alot on a 1024 sqm plot, whether it be a club, or a starter store area.
Part of the attraction of coming to a land would be the immersion and detail, and right now one runs out of Li long before they can do that.
I was recently visiting a friend on their Belissaria plot and they effectively have a 271 land impact house AND 351 prims on a 1024 lot = 622 Li? Is this true or did I miss something.
In any case I could really use 512-650 Li on 1024 plot land and it would be more than enough for what I want to do. When things are used and built to real world scale (x 1.1 or 1.2 multiplier scaling) you have lots of room to do all sorts of things.
For me, it is the singlemost restricting thing to building things for the last 10 years, and buying/renting a bigger plot of land at 2k just has the same problems = low LI per sqm.
I would have thought Premium Plus, and for that price would give an Li boost, whatever they decided relating to land size, etc - which would cause me to build MORE and then require free texture uploads, etc.
But at the current levels I don't need it
I use SL to build, create, learn and explore: Social not so much anymore due to reasons, so it's even hard to value the Premium account at this point.
Where's the builder/creators package..?
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8 hours ago, Akane Nacht said:
From a usage perspective - The way I use SL, I've got multiple windows open and am doing other things, as well as attending to RL things. It would be hard to carve out a time for full immersion VR, which is why I've never more than taken a quick look at VR on other platforms, gone "oh neat.." and never touched it again.
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8 minutes ago, Nalates Urriah said:
Perhaps you don't message forum users. But there are those of us that do.
However, I've never been harassed via messages and very few have been derogatory.
Often I will respond to technical asides via PM rather than clutter a thread with off topic. Other times I see a new one arguing with a known troll or attempting to fight an idea numerous SL residents consider a part of the PC gospel. I warn them about where they are going.
Most won't even take so-called 'disputes' to PMs even when they are invited. The few that do engage clearly have no real beef with you, but rather enjoy performing in the public arena instead - seeing how far they can push it before moderators have to step in. Seemingly their aim is to not understand another person but to antagonize them into getting angry enough to have their own posts go outside the rules. Very manipulative, and becoming more common - hopefully a discerning eye to this fact by moderators already exists.
49 minutes ago, victoravatar said:I am getting several DM's of people trying to attack me in a way and i honestly don't have the time for that nor the energy. I am now scared because i get DM's from different people on here.
I do not want to argue with anyone or reply if you are going to be disturbing me like that.
I like positivity only and i surround myself around positive people.
I feel harrassed in a way.
Everything that i post everyone thinks that it sucks. They read my post go through the comments of the post and then IM me talking about a certain thing about the post (and trust me it is not positive) . They pay attention to all of my posts and then IM me to tell me Um your post is this, your post is that..
It really feels uncomfortable.
If you have something to say to me say it in the post section not in my DM's
I registered here because i like to read other people's posts and comment and give them a like and just give my opinion if i have one.
But this is getting way too uncomfortable for me.
Every word that i say some of you are against it.
I am honestly not trying to be mean to anyone on here and i am sorry if it seems that way.
I just want some peace and can you let me express myself freely?
Or now all of my posts will make no sense to you and all of my posts will get deleted?
As if i am saying something really really wrong.
I'm even scared to pick a title now because a lot of you say that my title's make no sense.
Even my title's get bullied.
In some forum categories and especially General, it is the experience and observation that this behaviour is pretty common and there is nothing to be done but to ignore the people who post and reply like that. To stop posting how you like though, is not the answer either - as then those people win and silence you - so that they can always have center stage in their own eyes.
It's just the way it is around here.
It's much better to stick to the technical channels (which IMO SL should limit conversations to anyway to avoid drama and probably would amount to less moderation) where the topic is clear and defined.
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Dad's are awesome!
Who's with me?
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14 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:
How about "Deadbeat"?
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3 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:
No I'm not alright, I'm OFFENDED. Get over it.
I love you.
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1 minute ago, Luna Bliss said:
There are many who only want to destroy, and they come to SL to disrupt and annoy people. It has nothing to do with the 'fault' of those they choose as victims.
In the case described by the OP, what in the world could the three women be doing wrong except 'existing'? Yet you blame them? I'm not sure you're aware of how persistent some griefers can be...they come back again and again, for years. Nobody should have to put up with that no matter our Block tool.
You'll be alright.
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17 minutes ago, Nalates Urriah said:
A couple of things have not been mentioned.
It has been some time since the vigilantes were making the news in SL. Those people have not disappeared. There are still groups of people that think if enough people Abuse Report a person the Lab will do something. In the past the Lab got played and on occasion probably still does. Griefers teamed up to use the Governance Team to abuse people. But, now they are aware of the game and take steps to avoid the trap and be part of the abuse.
Also, there are numbers of us who have received a warning, been locked out for a time, and have friends that have received warnings and bans. My friends that have received week or month long time-outs were not habitual offenders. I suspect they had accumulated some warnings they didn't want to talk about. I do know what they were up to in a general way and they didn't get away with much.
So the idea the Lindens NEVER do anything is misinformed opinion. Most such statements boil down to 'the Lindens didn't do what I wanted done when I wanted it done.'
Orwar pointed out why people's opinions are skewed toward 'nothing' happens. The Lab is simply not going to give feed back on what they do. So, if the person is still on and still doing what the "reporter" thinks is wrong then OBVIOUSLY the Lab didn't do anything. But that isn't likely. Often the person feeling harassed and pointing to what they think is definitely harassment is overly sensitive. The Lab looks at every AR. Some action is taken. It may make the reporter unhappy that the call is just strike #1 or ball. But a call was made.
So, if there is some repeated problem and it is continuing... the next question is about the person writing the AR. Do they have a clue how to report abuse? I suspect they don't. The times I've had a complaint I made sure I gave the Lindens the information they needed to find the server logs. Time, date, region, names... and often the TOS clause designation. I've never had a problem continue. Nor do I allow griefers to make me a victim. While I am definitely a target for many, that doesn't make me a victim.
Understanding the mental deficiencies of griefers and the things they want and are trying for provides you the means to deprive them of their rewards.
Indeed, because a sort of tattle-tale culture has been growing over the last few years, where many normal and non-offensive people have been affected - because someone else took offense and when they make a report - the details are commonly severely exaggerated or the altercation was actually continued and allowed it to escalate - which means the dispute becomes almost a consensual act and there are no more victims, only participants.
Some people will actually head right back into the dispute after calling for authorities, or trying to incite or escalate the situation to embolden their position. So in general it's best that people are not victimized by others by encouraging blocking and other empowering means - and to even extend it to the person who may have not even wanted to offend - but now need to block the person in return as an act of self-defense.
I'm glad LL doesn't come rushing to every report - as on other platforms that this happens on it has a devastating effect and can actually deter new users, rather than the existing ones leaving because they didn't get satisfaction in seeing someone else be 'disciplined'.
Griefers and trolls are not born, they are made. And seemingly the biggest targets for them are those who react the most, who 'feed' them, or even have wronged them in the past and are now back for revenge. The only way to stop the cycle is for one or both parties to have nothing to do with the other.
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1 minute ago, Coffee Pancake said:
Please stop attacking me.
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8 minutes ago, Coffee Pancake said:
Please stop attacking the victim
Quit playing a victim as a way of harnessing powers over others.
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What blows me away is that there are no shortage of qualified artists to create interesting and stylized clothing and avatars - they're all over the place. Believe me as a constantly growing artist it can be discouraging, awe-inspiring then after the shock buckle down and raise one's bar for oneself and improve...
Yet companies with thousands and millions of dollars still can't make avatars that are cool.
Companies seemingly refuse to use a standardized base rig so that users can upload their own avatars, and use those avatars on various platforms.
Everyone talks 'metaverse' and a 'universe' to explore between companies, and at the same time each platform still forces proprietary things.
And no, adding stripes to suit pants and suit jacket isn't cool, isn't hip so fire the artist and hire ones that will actually make cool clothing
What users want universally it seems, even if they can't create it themselves, is a unique avatar. Mixing and matching a limited set of stuff means nothing - in the long term a user will want more that represents them.