okay im having an issue with my friendlist

[Rolig Loon 21,499]

Whew.

That is one super long sentence with no punctuation or capitalization. It's very hard to read.  I doesn't sound like you have a problem at all, though.  If I understand correctly, your friend has an unstable connection, crashes every once in a while, and probably isn't getting fully logged in.  She has the problem.  She can consult http://blog.nalates.net/2011/10/26/troubleshoot-your-sl-connection/ for ideas about how to fix it.

[Rolig Loon 21,499]

Whew.

That is one super long sentence with no punctuation or capitalization. It's very hard to read.  I doesn't sound like you have a problem at all, though.  If I understand correctly, your friend has an unstable connection, crashes every once in a while, and probably isn't getting fully logged in.  She has the problem.  She can consult http://blog.nalates.net/2011/10/26/troubleshoot-your-sl-connection/ for ideas about how to fix it.