I know about resizers, I delete them from every thing that comes with them when possable. Non of my shoes/Boots have any resize scripts or even invisable prims left on them (ones that modable anyway) . As for my hair, its always been manually edited, as for every one else, i did adjust my band width and even double checked cache and cleared it.
as for my system. its up todate and fully capable of running SL and many other high performance software (not at same time, except for Photoshop)
Thank you all for the tips and help.