[Just Ignore and let this one die]

1 minute ago, Maureen Boccaccio said:

It had to be done.

Thank you.  It's been referred to a couple times in other threads, but it needed it's own.  

[How do I question an unexplained ban?]

1 minute ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

The very (worryingly?) few times that's happened to me, it's been more amusing than annoying. SL affords tools for addressing unwelcome behavior I can only dream of in RL. Using them can be a blast. When I hear an "every 10 minutes all day" claim and I wonder how that happens.

And maybe that's why neither of us carries a chip on our shoulder. Giving the benefit of the doubt usually works pretty well. Even if there is room for a little doubt here, men don't own all the enthusiastic awkwardness.  I suspect you and I have proved that... and still have potential.

 

Yeah!  Like when you get bored dealing with it, you click that 'outfit' and morph into your giant dragon, breathe some fire, and fly away!  Waving and saying.... 'bye, boy.'.   (it's SL...) Seeing the avatar of your dreams morph into a green flying creature will take it down some, every time..... works for me.  

[Does anybody from the Forum Cartel use these forums any more?]

OMG I can't, with you oldbies.  

[Does anybody from the Forum Cartel use these forums any more?]

3 minutes ago, LittleMe Jewell said:

I haven't attended any events inworld in forever - is it really all voice now?

Hi there!  I don't know, I don't move in 'voice' circles.  Occasionally, I am contacted by a frustrated fellow deaf person who says no one will text with them, but everyone is in voice.  personally, I don't know.  If it's not offered in text instead of, or as well as, voice, I just don't go.  It's just a non-issue for me.  Great to see you tho!  

[Does anybody from the Forum Cartel use these forums any more?]

I need a pic with the cat on the floor reading the book, he's more my type than the bar dancing.  

[Does anybody from the Forum Cartel use these forums any more?]

5 hours ago, Maureen Boccaccio said:

Question for you Cartelians - is anyone interested in events at the Hangout?  Over the past few years, we've tried to host some gatherings -- Halloween, St. Patrick's Day, Talk Like a Pirate Day, Ghosty DJing for an hour or two, etc., but the turnout was pretty low.

I'm keen to get folks back to hanging there...suggestions?

I'd go but I'm such an introverted isolationist that I'm no fun at parties, and I like to dance by myself.  I can't demand that everyone text, because I am deaf, because that isn't fair to those who prefer voice.  So while I've seen the occasional party invite, truth is I've chosen not to go.  I'll go though, if you'd like to try to revive the group.  Just leave me alone to dance by myself.    Who's paying tier over there now anyway?  

[Does anybody from the Forum Cartel use these forums any more?]

11 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

Not until we see a picture, you aren't.

I don't have one.  I just went and looked, that's sad.  How about a notecard from 2009 telling how to donate tier to the group? That I have.  I'm also a chat moderator, not sure how it happened, but I think Mo just kinda did that.  But no pics, no proof!  (Is this a bad thing?)  Hey I am still claimin'......... oh wait, I found one.  

[Does anybody from the Forum Cartel use these forums any more?]

Present.  

[Is this normal for second life?]

2 hours ago, Nalytha said:

I live in a residential sim and would be thrilled to login to see someone in my house. It would break the monotony. In my 'About Land,' I even make it clear that anyone is welcome inside. 

Just curious, Nalytha, is your land also open to anyone to build?  And is your land on a mainland sim or private estate?  Curious about how other folks are doing things like this.  

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[Is this normal for second life?]

4 minutes ago, Talligurl said:

As for whether there is a way to know when you are about to enter an area you will get booted from, I really am not sure, sometimes you get a warning first, it might be that you are not getting them for some reason, but I wouldn't worry about it to much. Being teleported back home isn't the worse thing that can happen, I get that some people want thier privacy, but if no one is in a house I have a hard time understanding why going in is such a big deal, put locks on your doors if you don't want me admiring your decorating skills while you are at work in RL, it isn't like I can steal your TV. I have only once had someone get upset with me for being in thier house, and I think that had more to do with the fact that I was in a skimpy bikini and his girlfriend showed up to. I sent him an IM, and a picture of his house that I took standing next to mine. And told him he shouldn't have a blimp on his roof if he didn't want people stopping by to check it out. He then sent me a friend request and an invitation to come ride his blimp with him someday.

In my early SL, things like people in my house bothered me a lot.  I cared.  As time went on and I learned 'stuff', I just stopped caring.  I know some people do care, a lot.  My sim, Cape Able, has the residential parcels around the rim, and the middle is public land, art galleries, service center, etc, where anyone can wander.  Once people know how to look at 'About Land' to see if it's owned by an avatar, to get a clue if it's private, it becomes easier.  If I found someone in my house today, I might ask why but I wouldn't actually care.  

[Spammers - Paperless Paper Trail]

I was wondering why names of different universities are attached to the spam emails.  Odd.

[Group for my Land settings]

So possibly my answer is correct then.  The deed over-rides the group role/abilities.  Apparantly cant do both, and seperate the role's abilities.  Mine works, I guess, because it's 'set' and not deeded to the group. 

 

[Second Life Funeral]

OMGosh.  Thanks for pointing out the date,  Rhonda.  I was just about to respond about the SL memorial service for my dear RL/SL friend, who died in RL last September.  We did a big service, via Virtual Ability, and it's not our first.   Thanks for the heads up about the necro-post, doubt if this poster is even reading.  

[Group for my Land settings]

It sounds like they are saying, if you 'deed' the land to the group, the deed over-rides any group role abilities.  If you just 'set' the land to the group, the group role abilities over-ride.  That's what I think they're saying.  The reason I think that is, that I have a long time group, and it works exactly the way you are expecting yours to work.  But its not deeded, just set.  And then the role abilities work, in the group, like you are expecting your role abilities to work, but they aren't..  I hope you keep posting/updating, I am following to see how this is resolved for you.  

[What do you eat or drink while you're on Second Life?]

1 hour ago, CheriColette said:

Dont the potato chips make your keyboard greasy, Treasure?

For me it depends on what time of the day Im here, breakfast/lunch/dinner/supper....but always something easy to eat with a spoon ')

Yes, but I'm drinking wine so I don't care if my keyboard is greasy.  

[SL should stop banning people]

4 minutes ago, Marianne McCann said:

Your friend should check her email. She will likely find some information there.

Right.  Because even if the friend COULD post in the forums, there's no help for her here.  She's got to deal directly with LL.  And they're not going to talk to 'her friend' at all.  

[SL should stop banning people]

1 hour ago, Aislin Ceawlin said:

Exactly, Amythest. I had completely forgotten that incident. No haunting here, either.

I remember it.  And am also not haunted in the least.  

[What do you eat or drink while you're on Second Life?]

Wait, the SL logo (the eye within the hand) reminds you of food?  Or you mean these community pages, bistro type shot at the top?  I'm lost......  no clue why.  I snack and drink whatever is handy, lol.  Right now I have a glass of wine and some potato chips.  

[Is this normal for second life?]

I too wanted to send you a friend request inworld, but your profile was very clear that you wanted to be left alone, so I decided not to intrude, but to just try to assist, and wish you well here on the Forums.  I manage Cape Able, one of the 3 Virtual Ability residential sims, we sell land parcels to everyone, not only disabled.  *shameless plug, don't come for me, Forum-ites*   I do hope you're having a better time of it, and feel more comfortable.  

[Have home and Sky Box need land - Help]

Here's your answer, but depends how many prims your house and skybox have.  175 isn't many prims to play with, and that's all you're allowed with a size 512 square meter parcel.  If you go Premium, you get a size 512 parcel, if you don't get the Linden home.  

https://secondlife.com/land/pricing.php

 

 

 

[Unable to leave a group]

Hi Sooby!  This JUST happened to me few days ago.  I was in a group that was set up specifically for planning a party.  That party is long past, and somehow, I got set as a group owner, and all the other owners left.  So I couldn't leave.  I sent out  a notice to the few folks still left in the group, told them I was closing it, ejected them all, and the group then disappeared in a couple days, as I was the only one left.  Good luck!  

[HIdden Objects]

10 minutes ago, Whirly Fizzle said:

Just use CTRL+ALT+T again to turn it off.

Thanks; for some reason, CTRL/ALT/T hightlights 'everything' for me, all objects AND transparancies, everything, lol.  And doing it again didn't turn it off; I had to go to the Advanced menu and turn it off there, BUT maybe that's because I am on Firestorm, I don't know.  I did get it turned off tho.......

[HIdden Objects]

And then, how do you get rid of the highlights?

[Can someone help me, please!!]

I know this is 'old school SL technology', but I am thinking maybe she's ghosted somewhere.  In the old days, sometimes if you could get to a ghosted avatar, and bump them, or pay them a dollar, or push them, it would help to log them off.  Otherwise, they'd stay stuck there until a sim restart.  Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't, was worth a try.   Again, that was old days, haven't seen a ghosted avatar for awhile, but.....  just a thought.  Nellaflor, do you know what sim you were on when you left SL?  The name of the sim?

[Participation in our research]

1 hour ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

Hi Nickylion,

First of all, welcome to the forums! The response that you are getting is, I'm afraid, a fairly standard one for researchers and students who come here to do their research. I might note that you'll get something of the same response from a great many people inworld, too, when they discover that you are doing research. I'm sure that you can understand why people might feel this way, but the very fact that they do will tell you something, I think, about the difference(s) between most users of Second Life, and those involved in MMORPGs. For a great many people here, this is not a "game": it truly is an alternate world, and a place to experiment with and play with identity. Many people "live" here, in a very real, if virtual sense, and identity -- including gender, biological sex, sexual identity, and even species -- is a very meaningful thing.

A couple of quick points that might help: Treasure's point about IRBs is well-taken, but if you don't have those in Utrecht, a possible alternative is to be as forthcoming as you possibly can about your research, your program, and even about your selves. In general, as you probably know, RL identity is often jealously guarded here (which is, btw, one reason why you might find that many potential interviewees will steer clear of you if you insist upon using Skype), but I've seen researchers here who have been quite open about their real life academic identities, as a method of building trust and establishing bona fides. The more verifiable or detailed information you can provide, the more likely people are to have faith in you. And a really well-explained and interesting research design does get a good response here often.

I'm a little puzzled that you can't offer compensation for interviewees: that's actually a pretty standard thing for qualitative and quantitative data collection here in North America. It will improve your odds of attracting participants, although spreading your net wider does, as you intimate, probably increase the chances of your data being contaminated.

The suggestion that this is not exactly a new topic of research is, I'm afraid, true. There actually has been a fair amount, both scholarly and more generalist, published on this subject, as even a quick literature or even Google search should reveal. You might also check out the Journal of Virtual Worlds Research. If you have a slightly different angle on this issue that makes it fresh, then you should tell us, as it will likely increase the number of people interested in participating.

In response to what "Avery" says above, I think I might somewhat agree that there are not more benefits for women here, but I'd say that there are perhaps some different ones. It is physically "safer" here, obviously, for women, but not necessarily emotionally so, and there is no shortage of harassment, abusive language, misogyny, and so forth. A great difference, of course, is that these are easier to ignore or escape from. One real benefit for some women, particularly those who have felt disempowered by emotional or physical abuse in real life, is that here they have much greater control over such situations in a virtual environment, a fact that means that -- again, for some -- the experience of virtual abuse and misogyny can actually in an odd way be a bit "empowering" and therapeutic.

Overall, though, I'd agree that women are not special beneficiaries here. And you might consider, in this context, the rather naive nature of your question: when you say "women," do you mean "real life" biological females? What about those who represent as women here, but may be biologically (and culturally) males? Their experience of Second Life as women is, I would imagine, different from that of RL "women," but only insofar as they come equipped with different experiences from RL. And then there are trans women (in both RL and SL contexts), of which there is actually a sizable and very active community here: again, the "things" that happen to them here may be the same as those experienced by anyone who represents as female here, but these will take on a very different meaning, I think.

And because gender identity can be assumed, and cast off, with the click of a mouse button, it is much more obviously a "performance" here (think Judith Butler!) than even in RL. How one experiences SL as a woman also depends a great deal on how one chooses to "perform" that role. For instance, there are many who represent as women here who very consciously assume the identity of hyperfeminized or hypersexualized women, because they can with far fewer consequences. So there is an element of the "feminine" in SL that is sometimes a bit cartoon-like. (The same is true, but maybe to a lesser extent, of representing masculinity here.)

What I guess I'm getting at is that you need to elaborate or complicate (or "unpack," as academics are wont to say in English) your notion of "gender," because, as complicated as this idea of socially determined identity is in RL, it is even more so here.

Ok. Guess I've said enough? 

Good luck with your research!

And this is why I love you!