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Fauve Aeon

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  1. How does it severely limit? I’m not seeing this as an issue unless one is interacting with people who are lying or being ambiguous about it. Steer clear of any adult behavior with (or around) anyone who doesn’t clearly identify as a legal adult in RL or SL. This is not difficult. 

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  2. 13 hours ago, Orwar said:

       Peeve: Going to bed 'early' (i.e. 2 a.m.) only to wake up 40 minutes later and thinking the light in the window is dawn - nope, just a light post. Oh well. Guess that's my sleep for tonight!

    That stinks! I know this feeling. From what you have been speaking of a bit regarding your sleep in general, it sounds a bit worrisome. Please take care and keep an eye on that. 

    my peeve: putting on the default adult human female shape that came with a very popular older mesh head with intent to work on the shape a bit later to compare/contrast new and old heads, blah blah...realizing I was running late so hurrying to my class and getting auto-booted from an adult sim because my avatar suddenly was under an (unpublished) height requirement - detected via script I guess? Maybe a good requirement in theory but certainly overzealous in practice if a widely distributed default adult shape can’t meet it? Rawr. It seemed like human avatar sizes were getting a bit more into the realms of realistic human heights for a while but I’m also noticing a trend of them growing taller again in some circles. ~sigh~

  3. 11 hours ago, PermaRuthed said:

    So pushing the cheekbones and lip fullness to 100 isn't so much a hot idea.

    Yass gurl, shine ON - now just add a crap ton of accessories and blow out the lighting...so good! #mood You can just burn a few important details like your boobs and booty curves back in at post. Work the angles so it looks all artsy. Use a vignette! Try a popular freebie font to sign the work. Fresh, Cool Perfection. 💯 


    Note: not poking at any one person who may do (m)any of these because it’s so common to see them scattered about...but if you do these, might want to reconsider some choices? 

  4. 2 hours ago, CaerolleClaudel said:

    Sometimes people try and try and try to fix themselves but they are so *****ing broken they just can't, and the best they can do is to tell people to stay the ***** away. They tell people to stay the ***** away not to be edgy but because they *dont* want to hurt people, but they know they will in the end do what it takes to survive. At least that is the way I am. I mean really  it is best to just *****ing kill yourself but then that causes a lot of damage to the few people who GAF about you, or I guess to just stay away from others, but that is hard too. Not everyone who is destructive wants to be or just is too lazy to do the work to get better, some people just can't get better.

    Yes. I’m sorry it’s like that too and I wish it wasn’t. I’ve never faced a case where my best or only option was to devastate and hurt other people who genuinely cared for me in order to ensure my survival, much less lived an existence where it was necessary to do it repeatedly as my MO in relationships. But if someone tells me something like that, I’ve also learned to believe them. Or at least to believe that they believe it enough to eventually throw me under the bus in the end over their issues. It’s OK to choose not to have relationships with actively destructive people, there’s no especial virtue in burning with someone as they burn themselves down. 

    I believe it’s also never a completely lost cause for people to continue to seek help and try to get better/become less ‘broken’, even if it’s only very slowly and by a little. Some eventually do. I have had some different types of troubling issues of my own at times and it did get better with help and therapy. I wish it could/would for everyone. But I also know that it is different for everyone. 
     

    Re your second post: I do know that several of us found that behavior and situation so gross, gauche, insulting and drama-inducing that we have long blocked/pushed away all of the parties involved in it way before the ‘big reveal’. 
    No thank you. 

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  5. On 12/17/2020 at 12:24 PM, Pomeline Pancake said:

    Looking at Deadwool sock textures like 🔎

    Impossibru! Ain’t nobody got time for that or trying them all on or quickly remembering which were ‘the good everyday ones’. THIS! 
     

    @MrsSerenthank you, must check them out! That’s so fun.

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  6. Oh, oh, a first life one that comes around this time of year if you have obligations to see people that you don’t usually make an effort to see and you get to remember why that is… People who make jokes that really aren’t funny. Like super not funny, but of course if you point it out ‘oh gosh (Fauve’s Typist) that was just a little joke, wow you just can’t take a joke’.
    Rawr.

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  7. 19 minutes ago, TDD123 said:

    Are you claiming Luna always took residence in the previous peeves threads and started off conversations from being peeved about something turning it into being peeved about someone turning into being peeved about a certain forumite ?

    ETA : I certainly seen YOU do it.

    Most humans are going to do this or that bad behavior occasionally. Because human. No one saying that we’re all saintly?  It’s when they do it consistently, sock puppet consistently, and do it more than one person consistently and over time in thread after thread and continue to do it. That’s the difference. That’s not a fluke or occasional bad behavior, or having a bad day, or getting an a little tiff with one person here and there. Things we all do, but things that almost no one here does on a regular basis… But a couple of people do. If you can’t or won’t see that then I really don’t know what else I can say. I’ve tried to remain pleasant and give thought to this discourse, but I’m losing confidence in any effectiveness that I might continue to have here so there’s really no point in me replying further. The people that you’re giving the steadfast support to really don’t merit it. 

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  8. 1 hour ago, Cindy Evanier said:

    Seems a good enough thread for this

    Santa what I wish for is. Jason wrapped and I'll open it really slow  ...please | Jason momoa, Jason, Jason momoa aquaman


    ~Edit: End of fun reference to Cindy’s post~
     


    @TDD123 - if I was going to pick a battle to fight on the forum, I don’t think it would be surrounding this one person’s behavior, frankly. If I flip the situation and imagine myself under the tender ministrations of said white knighting from said person, my first response would be nuuuu holy shizuuu please don’t defend me - go away go away go away. Because what they do isn’t really defending the person, it’s using the situation as a cover to poke out and punish others. There’s lots of evidence of that in past threads, the name-calling other people, taking very personal pokes at them etc. I don’t even have to say anything more negative than “go look at the body of work in her posts overtime”. 
    So if you align yourself with that, I guess people will think that you approve of that behavior and be very wary of it. Can you blame them after they’ve watched what they’ve watched coming from this person? People here a very long memories. And they watch patterns of behavior over time. Now it’s extending into decades as second life ages. Are all those people wrong and mistaken? I don’t think so

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  9. 7 minutes ago, TDD123 said:

    Sorry, Fauve. I disagree : there are elements in these forums using peeve kinds of threads ( What are your peeves ? ; How do you feel ? ) which are usually harbouring a set of people who all of a sudden tend to turn against a forumite ( whomever ) with small jabs until it forms a pages long tirade how anyone feels about anybody ( notice i say feel : pure emotion ) which generates written anger. Some even master that build up  just to set up others to have a go at eachother for the sake of entertainment.

    This formula needs to be broken if examples of pleasantness like Scylla described to me are meant to resurface and not simply vanish.

    I’ve seen a couple of people do something like this, and I’ve seen one person consistently white knight in a strange way and I just blocked her after saying my piece, not getting through and just saying oh well. The worst name-calling in the whole exchange was me calling her auntie and her calling me pumpkin and that was that. My impression is that quite a few people have done the same thing with her. There’s always been one person who will never stop yelling into the void in every forum that I’ve ever been on so maybe I’m just used to it? But I guess I haven’t seen anything quite as bad as what you’re describing.

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  10. 26 minutes ago, TDD123 said:

    There' s a certain deep level resentment here NOT to gang up on individuals. That' s a general problem in here. It also seems to divide the forums in a way that discussion seems rampant about the subject but only leads to deleted threads.

    We should face that problem.

    I spoke about this yesterday in that I don’t think that it’s a ganging up so much as a gathering of individual replies, sometimes it escalates to a certain degree but I think that may be just in the nature of the medium, and not a form of bullying. My two cents anyway. I’ve completely agreed with several people who have also agreed with others in calling someone out on what is well-documented bad behavior - often admitted by the person committing the behavior even...and none of it was orchestrated, none of it was premeditated, but we all came to the same independent conclusion. That’s a general social behavior and not a form of bullying. When someone’s behavior affects others, they have the right to say some thing about it. If the behavior affects a bunch of people then there’s going to be a bunch of people having something to say about it. Still not bullying. So white knighting is uncalled for in these cases.

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  11. 16 minutes ago, RowanMinx said:

    Peeve.  When a thread gets locked and a new one starts with the exact theme.  Which to me is basically telling the mods , "**** you". 

    Peeve.  Agreeing with @Sassy Kenin....enablers.

    When the containment container gets too full and smelly, you bring in a new container lock down the old one right? It works with event Porta potties 🤣. I’m always in favor of a containment thread. And I’m really going to try to use it correctly. So my peeve of the moment is same as OP. People who don’t use the thread as it was intended. But of course people will interpret it differently than I do. Which is also OK. See? how nice.

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  12. 1 hour ago, Orwar said:

    I'm not a huge fan of people,

    (And acting accordingly...but still with thought and intent)

    thank you for that post, I think understand your reasoning and you are articulate and well-considered, you’ve done a lot of self reflection and work. That’s a considered decision and application, not simply being ‘bad at people-ing’

    I probably was not as clear as I should have been - what I meant by ‘being bad at people-ing’ are the ones who have no considation for others; don’t care anything at all for self-reflects, for adjusting their behavior to reflect who they are and what they want and who just treat people ‘however’ ...they will often self-excuse this complete disregard for others as ‘oh, I’m just not good at people/social stuff’ and continue in the same vein. I was thinking on the example of a RL ex-friend who never had any money for her part of group things yet always could buy herself her own new things...expected others to take up the slack of her portion in group work projects several times when she ‘just didn’t have time’, was always late and keeping people waiting to meet up, who did not return calls ever...did not return things she borrowed unless nagged, etc. etc.

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