Psyche Starling
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And apparently going "citation needed" is bugnutz now, lol. The "women all want the top few best looking and richest men" is not just an idle stereotype, but tends to be the stalking horse for some other really gross stuff, and the videos that "prove" it tend to be from that same world.
More money than me is...not a lot of money, but the only partner of mine in RL who made more was a woman.
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3 hours ago, Arielle Popstar said:
Funny, I don't remember saying that even once but even if I did, it would have been in an entirely different context then the one you are trying to imply here. I suspect you have me confused with someone else but are trying to gaslight here as a previous thread implied you have a predilection to do.
Where do you see this "constantly approached for sex" area in SL? Outside of couple of virtual meat markets, I don't get this in spite of having been complimented many times on having an attractive and sexy avatar. Now I do tend to dress more conservative when out shopping or doing other activities but still, I just don't experience this and it makes me wonder when certain people are always going on about it like it is a regular thing. Even when I am approached where slex is in mind, I am still approached like a person normally by well behaved and civil men and women. The only time I may get a bit of an objectification feel is from dom's and domme's but that is sort of expected and par for the course and to be expected to a degree.
I've been hit on at major, laggy shopping events, at which I was wearing a t-shirt and jeans, and it was so laggy they probably just saw a cloud or EvoX cyclops anyway. I'm just trying to get my stuff and get out and Ping! "Hi pretty lady!" followed by a guilt trip when I didn't go home with them. Just chill, people. Lol.
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Just now, Love Zhaoying said:
I like that info I saw in videos recently that showed most women were looking for men not just "above average" in looks, etc. but also "high salary".
So from that point of view, yeah..just yeah.
What info? What videos? If they're someone's random TikToks, they're not the gospel. I swear to all the gods old and new, women are out there dating average-looking, average-earning dudes all the time.
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6 minutes ago, Paul Hexem said:
So there's a good example of unrealistic expectations. That all threads should be for complaining about the issues women have while dismissing the men's issues (or trying to take it off topic), even while there's already threads for that.
So it does happen in SL, or at least on the SL forums, after all.
I'm not dismissing Men's Issues, I'm disputing your stats.
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1 minute ago, Ayashe Ninetails said:
Ahhhhh, why am I not surprised it's an OKCupid stat? LOL, I used to use that site/app back in the day and had quite a few dates from it, and omg, now it's starting to make sense. Yeah, I wouldn't put any faith into those numbers whatsoever knowing the source. That place was toxic as hell and there's a reason why I thought most dates might end in my demise (but being the sunny optimist I am, took the chance and went anyway, lol). I had less frightening experiences meeting guys in MMOs.
Knowing that, yeah, I'd say SL has very little at all to do with that. Male avatars here are nothing like those guys in my experience and are quite pleasant in comparison - even when using the good ole tried n true basic "hi" approach.
It is, and it gets repeated all over Reddit on the daily by people who've never even looked at it, just heard about it secondhand and thirdhand and fourthhand. It's the telephone game of statistics, but there's a whole contingent of people who think it's real trufax and proves something about every woman in existence.
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So there's a theory called the Pareto Principle, and it's where the 80/20 rhetoric comes from, but it was never meant to be about dating, nor was it ever meant to be applicable to all situations. It was originally about wealth being concentrated in a small number of rich people.
Additionally, the rhetoric that women rate most men below average comes from an old OkCupid study, and what people never mention is that, even if you pretend it's representative of the whole population, they additionally found that women (while they did rate men's profiles more harshly) still messaged people they rated below average, while men only messaged the most beautiful. Given how bad men's profiles were on OKCupid back when I was on it, I would guess the real takeaway is more like "I'll give you a chance IRL even though you took your profile pic in a grotty bathroom and can't spell."
Anyway, it's SL. Everyone is hot. It's just weird to jump into a stranger's IMs out of nowhere and either just go "hi" or jump straight into a sexual proposition. I don't really want to talk backchannel unless we've been talking in local for a few minutes first. Don't be weird.
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2 hours ago, Trinity Blakewell said:
I haven't gotten around to Scandalize in recent months (hasn't been a priority because most of it is not my style). But I will eventually. Personally, I have a bunch more on my list, and finding new ones every day (but it will get more difficult after most of the better-known brands are posted here).
As far as overwhelm in places like Scandalize, IMO it's usually best to start with the most recent items (which you can typically tell by the range of bodies covered - older items will have Slink, Freya, etc and newer ones will have EBody Reborn, possibly Kupra, Erika, etc.). Really old items may lack texture detail, use of materials, etc.And old autohides!
Some of my older Scandalize gifts do that thing on Maitreya where your body stays alphaed after you take the clothes off. It annoys me, so I've gradually been culling older items that do that.
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I'm potentially interested--about what year in RL time are you analogous to, if any?
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Frank's is what you want. They require formal or semiformal dress, and for a lot of the events you have to be a group member, which is expensive (which further keeps people from showing up who aren't into that vibe). There are a couple of different Frank's at this point. The one I'm a member of is called Franks Place Elite Club.
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Regarding Uber, I just picked up the gifts this morning and while I've only unpacked...a whopping one gift so far, it's exactly what I like in a gift! 🥰
The booth is selling a dress. It's a nice dress. The gift is another color of that same dress. I like it a lot and plan to go back and buy another color or maybe even the fatpack. The gift serves as a wearable demo of sorts, and piqued my interest in a store I've never heard of before.
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35 minutes ago, Chic Aeon said:
I admit that I didn't read ALL of this thread so far as most posts were from folks who hadn't even been there (yes, well) BUT "I" was there right after the event opened, had no issues at all with textures rezzing. The important thing is that the creators apparently HAD A CHOICE as many gifts were right there to be picked up. There were some "additional huds for the products being sold" given as "gifts" and I agree that is tacky for sure.
Another important note from someone who picked up many of the gifts (like 50) given out at the event (not makeup that I can't wear and a few other things I avoided) and opened all those boxes --- this has some of the nicest clothing of any even of late -- right up there with some of the Shop and Hops but with much less work. I have two blog posts in my queue for next week and I had a great time doing the fashion show portion -- something I can just barely remember having fun with.
So instead of everyone complaining -- maybe actually doing some homework before saying stuff that isn't really true might be a better idea.
Personally I am keeping more from this event (again didn't go to the main stores) as any of late. Some venues don't even blog because they are so poor.
THANKS to the designers who went the extra mile and made worthwhile presents.
Oh, that is good to hear! I just picked up the Warehouse ones today so I'll go look at Uber in a day or two.
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55 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:
As to the OP, a LM as a gift would 99.9% of the time have me NOT visit the store. I *do* appreciate it when creators *have* a LM vendor to click on at their booths. (Some people make it difficult to even know who is the creator, like how hard is a brand sign, people?) If the stuff at the event is intriguing enough then I will TP over there, but to make it a "gift"? ffs, no
The only time I want to follow an additional landmark to get the gift is if you at least have a picture of it so I know what I'm going there to get. I remember Petite Mort had an ad pic plus a link to one of their gifts at SL20B, and I liked the chair so I went. Breathe had a pair of shoes for the Uber event two years ago that--I forget where I saw the pic, maybe it was on Fabfree or something--I saw them and liked them and they're still staples in my wardrobe. So if you give me an idea of what I'm going to get, I'm not averse to going there. But not for a mystery gift lol.
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22 minutes ago, Orwar said:
I feel as if a fair few creators do their darndest to make their gifts as awful as they can, as if they only give one away because the event requires it. There are exceptions, of course, which is why we still bother picking gifts up and spending hours sorting through them to see if there's anything nice, but rather than generating goodwill and making brands look like competent creators it just makes me scream 'why teal?!'.
The whole thing puts a lot more creators on my personal 'nah, not worth checking out because their stuff is junk'-list than 'I should check these guys out more often, they make good stuff'-list.
I'll take all the teal things! Lol!
But I have also experienced what you describe. Like...you're a clothing store, this is your chance to show me what you can do with clothing, even if it's just a single color and maybe a weird color so I can at least get an idea of your abilities and whether I want to go check out more of your stuff. And in your gift box instead is...a sign saying Happy (whatever holiday). It's a big missed opportunity to generate goodwill and advertise!
But to agree with AmeliaJ08 as well, yeah, the wildest I saw was a gift card for 500L to a house store, you could only spend it on a house and not any decor, and the houses were thousands of L, and you also had to contact the creator personally before using it. It was so weird!
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Bonbon Sophie! It's got flowers braided in. It's kind of funny because the bottom is rigged to your butt and moves when you walk.
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The NPCs I'm thinking of won't pose. They're like furniture or decor, except shaped like people. I have one who's in a seated position, and I rezzed her to put in a chair in a sort of tableau I made. But she was already sitting. I've got another one who just stands holding a tray.
If you need someone to pose with, creating an alt will probably be easier and more effective.
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5 hours ago, Salt Peppermint said:
general stats about "grid snapshots" as in what body is worn most often , do not really say anything about how different stores sell certain sizes. Sales depend on so many different factors and a lot on the store's style as well as customer base and what kind of people they draw in. Which is why some stores have similar stats to certain body sizes and some absolutely not. Some sell Lara so well that it everyting after only comes with a gap (salewise), some sell other sizes way better up to the point that they could drop selling Lara at all. Same goes for male sizes . Because some stats say Gianni is before Jake, it does not mean that stores have the same experience in sales. going by those general stats, GenX is barely to be found. Must be all ghosts shopping in my store buying GenX sizes, cause I certainly can't complain about those sales . I would have never kept body support if it would be just 5% of less. So I can only encourage each store to collect their own stats and focus on those.
Yep! And as someone who bought GenX recently, support for it is a factor in whether I buy a new thing! Because I have enough clothes for Maitreya now that I could log into SL every day until the heat death of the universe and not run out of clothes. But I do need more clothes for GenX, so I seek it out. And if a Maitreya size comes with it too, I'm not going to toss it or anything, but finding stuff for it isn't currently a priority.
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2 hours ago, AmeliaJ08 said:
The whole Midnight Madness thing for Lucybody has to be hurting adoption... just get rid of it, give it away and continue to charge for the BOM HUD would be my recommendation but what do I know.
The whole TMP/Legacy thing just seems confusing to me, I think maybe the naming isn't helping things either... if you search for "Legacy Classic" clothes you'll find a few (and a whole lot of false positives) but... from what you're saying this actually fits clothes that are labelled TMP? I'm out of the loop on Legacy stuff in general but I suspect a lot of people are getting that body and then realizing it isn't "Legacy" and there's not much they can easily find to wear.
Meshbody Classic, TMP, and sometimes Legacy Classic will mean the free one. But making it extra confusing, some creators will name their size for new!Legacy "Legacy Classic" to distinguish it from Legacy Perky!
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43 minutes ago, SueWorthly said:
That's a good reason. Add to this that Genus Strong, according to Lucia Nightifire's today stats, is only 7.2% of the heads (females and males) and the sum of all the Genus heads is < 10%, while the sum of all the Lelutka heads is definitively more, about 44% (the rest is 13% Catwa and a bunch of various, less popular, brands: Akeruka, Logo, Vista, etc). Still, they aren't few, also Lelutka has an Evo-mode too, that's somewhat compatible with other old skins; but costumers would likely buy skins and makeups for their new heads.
Another example is the female Meshbody Classic (that's basically Legacy with a different shape and it's free): according to Lucia's stats, it is the 4th most popular female body, it's not so far from the female Meshbody Legacy, and yet almost nobody makes outfits for it, but few:
#1 : Maitreya - Lara : 149834 : 31.3%
#2 : Signature - Gianni : 33286 : 6.9%
#3 : Belleza - Jake : 26618 : 5.5%
#4 : eBODY - Reborn : 24538 : 5.1%
#5 : MeshBody - Legacy (Female) : 23408 : 4.9%
#6 : MeshBody - Classic (Female) : 18132 : 3.7%
#7 : MeshBody - Legacy (Athletic Male) : 16066 : 3.3%
#8 : MeshBody - Legacy (Male) : 14530 : 3.0%
#9 : Inithium - Kupra : 14053 : 2.9%
#10 : LucyBody - Atenea : 12451 : 2.6%
#11 : MeshBody - Classic (Male) : 11244 : 2.3%
#12 : MeshBody - Legacy Perky : 9492 : 1.9%
#13 : Niramyth - Aesthetic Mesh Body : 7515 : 1.5%
#14 : Belleza - Freya : 6992 : 1.4%To be fair, though, Lara X for free is going to be delivered to whom purchased Maitreya Lara (as a free "update"), so they aren't necessarily people who only look for freebies.
Oh wow, look at Reborn go!
The Genus head was kind of a starter head to me, and helped me figure out how to use a mesh head, but once I tried a Lelutka I was hooked. Ironically, the Lilly, which I paid full price for because I missed the giveaway for it. 🤣 But it had the look I wanted.
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Did you accidentally rezz an unpacker hud? Sometimes when I do that, the hud is transparent on all sides but one, so I just think it didn't rezz at all, until I see the room from a different angle and there's a random rectangle just sitting there.
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There's one vendor for men's shirts that I've experienced this with. You get the mesh models in the box, but for the shadow maps and stuff you have to go to a link and download a zip file. If the zip file isn't working, contact the vendor.
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I was going to suggest Death Row Designs. They have a whole voodoo shop and some other occult shops. Lantian/Flox has some stuff.
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On 7/25/2023 at 10:05 AM, Lindal Kidd said:
Chin, you are quite correct. Nevertheless, I still pay very close attention to Avatar Complexity. I might not worry about it when demo'ing clothing, because most clothing adds little to your complexity. But I do take note of it when assembling an outfit. Hair and jewelry are the biggest contributors. I have one beautiful jewelry set that I never wear anymore because it shoots my complexity up over 400,000. I have a lot of very pretty flexi hairstyles that I seldom wear, for the same reason.
I've got a dress in my inventory. First time I put it on, I put on everything in the folder and my complexity shot up to 500,000. 😲
I thought it was the flexi skirt. Nope. Systematically took off every piece until I found the culprit. It was two ornamental roses on the belt. They blended in with the dress such that they could barely be seen anyway. Without them, I was a very manageable complexity of like 40,000 or so. Roses went into the trash.
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There is a creator called Prehistorica that does dino and dragon avatars.
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48 minutes ago, Ayashe Ninetails said:
Yes! I love it because there are times I'm so indecisive. Should I be in the sky? On the beach? In the mountains? How about yes? Let them know I cleared out my plot and left and where I'm going and within an hour, the new place has some time on it.
Yep, my landlords did this for me when I switched parcels on the same sim.
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Some of my older Scandalize gifts do that thing on Maitreya where your body stays alphaed after you take the clothes off. It annoys me, so I've gradually been culling older items that do that.
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A cooling pad changed my life! There are a variety of them out there, depending on whether you want it on your lap, on a desk, etc.