Naughty Caramel

Peggy, I am one who doesn't much look at profiles (most of the time). If someone IMs me and I don't know them, I usually open up the profile just to see who they are. I had some guy IM me a while back, and we chatted for a while. Not consistently, maybe a message every 15 or so minutes. I was busy at the time, so I didn't read it. Eventually he says something to me that showed he had read everything on my profile. I felt guilty so I looked at his and had to return the compliment LOL. I've also been guilty of not even immediately looking at the avatar who is talking to me. I've talked and flirted with guys for 30 minutes to an hour before I even bothered to look at their avatar or profile. I tend to go in spurts. Sometimes I'm a profile perv, and others could care less. It depends on boredom. If bored, I look at profiles, if I'm having fun, I rarely do. In response to the OP, I don't do angry profiles. I usually avoid talking to those people as much as possible. Same with the "use chat logs".

Not everyone on my list is a FRIEND. It takes time to get to that level. Some people were added just because they requested. Personally, I think being invisible is a lot better than: Having had a really crappy day, and just wanting to get online and shop, play dress up, but not talk to anyone... "Hi" "Hi, sorry, I'm really not in the mood to talk right now" "Hi, I'm a little busy right now" or *pretending I'm afk because I just don't feel like talking* "Oh, ok. Are you ok?" ":Not really, which is why I don't feel like talking" "What's wrong?" "Nothing" (I don't feel like talking/you're not a close enough contact for me to want to talk about it) "Oh, you want to go hunting, dancing, vote for me?" "OMG, you won't believe what HE did, I'm so mad, pissed, happyyyyyy!" "Kids are calling, I have to go, I'll talk to you later!" Why am I NOT allowed to be online without being bothered if I don't want to be bothered? So either you tick the Hide Me button, delete the person that wants to make you feel guilty for wanting privacy, or make an alt so you don't hurt someone's feelings?

Right, your first complaint was not liking that you couldn't see that little tickmark anymore that informed you who was hiding from you. The second was someone hiding when being out in public and being seen. Seems like some person hid from you and you bumped into them. If it was a special someone who was, I can see being upset. If it was a special someone who was busted being with someone else, I can understand that too. I mentioned earlier that little tickmark was a cause of a lot of drama and hurt feelings. I'm on Phoenix, and when I could see that someone unticked me, my first instinct was to be hurt, "Dang, whyyyyyyyy?" Then I got over it. People are entitled to not wanting to be bugged. The only time I really got pissy was when my ex & I were having some problems, and he did it. I unfriended, he said "OMG" and agreed not to do that anymore. LOL I'd much rather that little box be gone. If I can't tell who is *hiding* then the only people I see online are the ones who are online. And, I don't have to have that little nagging voice in the back of my head that says, "What did I do, are they mad at me or are they just busy, or, or, or, whyyyyyyyyyyyy?" Anyone else who is offline and I have something to say, I can IM them

As soon as I learned how to get rid of that *busy* thing if I was afk for more than 15 minutes, I did. I didn't want to be logged out. Also, if you're busy, you don't get inventory. Or are you talking the auto-response thingy? Again, maybe I only want to be visible to a certain person/people. I am not signed in, but isn't auto response to "everyone," "non friends" and "muted?" So I can't do that for specific people. Still boils down someone would see me on and IM me, thereby interrupting my "preferred not to be bothered." Seriously, maybe I'm having a bad day/week/month/life, and I don't feel like laying all my crappy *ish on other people. Maybe I only want to be visible to my bff/boyfriend/girlfriend/master/mistress/child/pet. If someone is a REAL friend to you, you should be able to IM them an ask "What's going on? Why are you hiding?" If they are a REAL friend to you, they'll tell you. If someone isn't a REAL friend, they'll be offended by you asking and lie or delete you for asking. Either way, you have your answer.

Verena Vuckovic wrote: "But for anyone else, it is quite preposterous to suggest that they can be on a public sim........where any Tom, Dick, or Harry who happens to be there can see they are online.........whilst pretending to the world they are not even online. It is not 'privacy' at all.....because for all they know the person they are hiding their status from could well be on that sim ! One then has the sheer absurdity of bumping into someone who is........er.......'offline'. LOL ! I've worked with DJs and hostesses who did that right while I was with them. While we were in the same club, I saw them go offline. Reason being was they were working and didn't want to be interrupted. They had enough to focus on dealing with the guests. Your belief that you have a right to know if I am invisible or not, and that it trumps my right to be invisible is 100% wrong. And, again, there are still ways around it. If you want to talk to someone who is offline, send a message. If they're on, you won't get the "Whosit is offline and will get your message when they sign in." I was talking to someone the other day and crashed. It wasn't a "constant" conversation where I felt obligated to sign on and say I crashed. I crashed and went to fix dinner and do some other stuff. So an hour later I check my email and see something that came through long after I crashed (30ish mins, so it should have shown the "Naughty is offline") "Where are you?" "Are you around?" I had to laugh because it was obvious he was testing the offline notification thingie. I've also gotten a few offline "His" if I havent been on in a few days.

I've said this elsewhere, but I'll say it again. I have used Yahoo/AIM/other messengers, and I'm usually invisible on those. Sometimes to everyone, sometimes visible to a select few. I've even IM'd people while invisible and had them say, "Could ya at least unstealth just to me so I can *see* you while I talk to you?" Others don't care. Those who know I'm usually invisible and have something important to say can always send an offlne, "Are you around?" Caller ID, same thing. I can see who calls and choose to answer not answer. Sometimes I just don't want to talk to anyone. I agree with whoever said, I can understand why people would hide their status to you. If you're as dramatic inworld as you are over this, and I had to have you on my list because of work/business, I'd untick you. One thing in particular that I untick for is spam tps. Especially from people who I don't talk to at all except to get spam tps. I unticked one girl in particular for that (she worked at a club I managed). But then she'd also open up a friends conference and do the same thing. And berate people who asked her not to spam them. So remove me from your list! Everytime she'd say that, she'd lose about 5 people. For some reason (spam maybe) she had that account cancelled, and created a new one. I ignored every friend request she sent when we had to work together. Finally 3 days later she asked why, and I told her I didn't like the constant tps and friends conference. She yelled at ME for insulting her. I muted her stupid azz. It's MY SL. And that stupid tickmark caused all sorts of drama from people like you and that is why its gone. I know who my real friends are whether they are hidden or not. Pardon my rant.

Welcome! Do a search in events. Use the drop down and choose Education. Type "Scripting" "Textures" "Building" or whatever it is you wish to learn. Or you can do a search for these actual places (click the Places tab). The places I can think of off the top of my head are: New Citizens Incorporated (NCI), Caledon Oxbridge, Builders Brewery, Happy Hippos. There are others. These are learning centers for new and old avatars. They hold classes on just about everything you want to learn. Don't focus on making money, or even lots of money right now. You don't really need money for anything. It's just nice to have. Take your time, learn what you can, and have fun learning it. I started off on just freebies, then hosting to make a little bit of spending money and to have a place to call home, and still lived on freebies. Took me almost two years to try and make clothes. And I'm still in a position that I'm happy just to make enough money to pay my little bit of tier.

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Over 40 here, and can always use new friends!

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