I find I'm influenced both by appearance and conversation, hence my conflict.. I want nothing to do with guys who run around naked with hardons. That's a moving dickpic. Whenever I see someone with an AV I like, I send them an IM telling them. And usually we become friends. So my initial reason to approach or not approach is based purely on appearance.
And then there are these forums, where we can't always know what a person's AV looks like. I love chatting with you AdminGirl, but I haven't the slightest clue about your AV. So this where I conflict with myself.
But maybe not as much as I think. Here our personalities are our AV's.