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    Do you need to vent about things COVID-19?

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    Right now I rarely leave my house unless I have to. I had to pick up some necessities at the local grocery today. When going out I do wear mask and gloves and still try my best to socially distance. Today while I was trying to get my tomatoes in a bag, a complete stranger felt it was okay to grab my wheelchair and push me to the side. This is the second time it has happened during the pandemic. 

    To invade someone's space and feel it is alright to touch part of their person (which my wheelchair indeed is in a manner of speaking) and physically move them without a word is beyond rude. It made me feel like I was less than human. That isn't okay to ever do to someone.

    I'm deaf and in a wheelchair so already feel pretty helpless most of the time, but this adds a whole new level of anxiety. Some people just suck!

     

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    JOBS and INCOME - What do they pay on average and what do you make?

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    I worked as a hostess for six years about before my hearing loss made it impossible for me to comfortably continue. I would make around 300L on a good night because I was an attentive, polite and personable hostess. It paid for my home, my daughter's necessities and savings I could put towards things I wanted or needed in SL. I worked three hour shifts/five days a week. I've never heard of anyone making 500K Linden per week working as host, DJ, CSR, etc.

    Successful content creators work long hard hours to make their businesses lucrative. It also takes time and dedication to learn the necessary skills. Same with land moguls who run estates.

    I get being ambitious, but it seems far reaching for not even having a set plan of action for yourself.

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    What are some more of your pet peeves?

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    5 hours ago, Gatogateau said:

    I agree. I do and I don't compare. I don't beat myself up that I handle my pain differently than my bff did. I admire how she was able to do it, though. Some people just have grace. Me... not so much. But you are right, I can't compare my pain to yours, or yours to me. It does no good when people say, "Oh, you should just be grateful you don't have it as bad as so-and-so." (That dismisses your situation and is a crappy thing to say to someone.)

    Chronic pain sucks. Period.

    I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry your friend went through that. I'm sorry you went through that. No one deserves to go through chronic pain. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I'm glad you don't compare yourself to others as you explained. It is hard to watch people do that to themselves because we really can be our own worst enemy at times. I know I am at times!

    Take care and be safe everyone.

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    What are some more of your pet peeves?

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    12 minutes ago, Gatogateau said:

    @Dafadilia Wayfarer Chronic pain sucks. One of my best friends died of lupus, but before she did I often wondered how anyone lives with chronic pain (and she did with so much grace). Now I too have chronic, daily pain, different from yours but enough to be on SSDI. I haven't found a way to put a positive spin on chronic pain. Whereas my friend lived with it with grace, I'm a whiney wuss. I get your "peeve" and think "peeve" is a bit of an understatement. :/

    May I offer you a hug and advice please? 

    One thing. Never try to compare your experiences with others. That isn't being fair to yourself. You're invalidating your own life experiences by doing so and you're worth so much more than that! Be kind to yourself. 🤗 

    Edited to add that I apologize since I tend to be a rather sappy person. Take my advice with a grain of salt.

    I just take things daily. I'm just having a difficult day. Most of the time, I just try to focus on the good. I can't at times though so I peeved here a bit. I'm sorry if I've caused bad feelings to stir.

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    What are some more of your pet peeves?

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    I get migraines on a regular basis, but at the moment my peeve is constant pain I experience from congenital scoliosis that went untreated until I was eight years old. It causes constant daily nerve and muscle spasms along my entire spine. They became unbearable in the last few years when pain levels escalate to ten daily. I'm on heavy pain meds as a form of pain management that takes the pain level to three on very good days. Level five most days. Sometimes I just get so sick of chronic pain. I love life, but I get sick of pain. I also have fibromyalgia and cfs so yes...sick of pain. 

    My dad taught me to try to love my scoliosis curve. I do for the most part because it's part of me. I'm not fond of the pain though. 

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    2020 an SL noob’s first impressions...

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    10 minutes ago, Amina Sopwith said:

    No, Velk, the problem is that, as usual, you blundered in asserting yourself as the wise and all-knowlegeable of judge of everything - who's clever, what misogyny is (thank you for that, sir), what words are for - and missed every target.

    This is one of the very reasons I stopped myself in responding further. What is the use?

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    2020 an SL noob’s first impressions...

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    23 minutes ago, Velk Kerang said:

    I completely agree with this. I probably shouldn't be so hard on the kid. Just for one the way she does her voice she just reminded me of the girl at the beginning of that old rap video Baby Got Back. lol And for two I consider myself generally good at reading people given my former profession. I think she has a lot more intelligence then what she portrays in her videos. There are subtle hints I picked up on listening to her talk just for that short time and it's just a pet peeve of mine when smart people try to talk dumb or act all ghetto. Well in her case valley girl ghetto. lol I simply just can't stand it mate. lol I think she should just be herself and not try to hide her intelligence for the sake of views or to appeal to certain ignorant audiences. That's just me though. I hope she has fun though. I wish her all the best of luck. :)

    I'm deaf so have no idea what she sounds like. From her actions and commentary through closed caption, she simply seems to be enjoying herself. If being this way makes her happy, I find that completely acceptable. She isn't hurting anyone by doing so. I think she is putting a fresh perspective on Second Life to a younger generation who watches her. Besides that, she has enough self awareness and maturity where she can actually laugh at herself. She doesn't take herself too seriously. That I admire in itself.

    13 minutes ago, Fauve Aeon said:

    That’s the reason I started the thread, I feel the same way. I’m enjoying these so much. Do I agree with everything and love each presentation? No...but it’s not a deal breaker either. I don’t see youtube ads and I skim, skip about and speed-watch longer content. 

    Exactly! My personality is much more conservative to an extent, but it really is fascinating to watch her learning and actually enjoying her journey doing so. I've watched a few of her other videos and although some make me cringe, what is important is she is having fun.

    I needed to add that this has been an enjoyable thread to read through! Great idea! Plus it's good to see you back in the forums. :)

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    2020 an SL noob’s first impressions...

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    I found her adorable! She is so youthful and enthusiastic. It's nice to see a younger generation checking out Second Life. I know I've read her voice is annoying. I can't hear her so have no idea. She just seems to be having fun and being silly. It is also interesting to see Second Life through someone who is learning how things work.

    A bit nostalgic.

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    What are some more of your pet peeves?

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    7 hours ago, Cinos Field said:

    People who don't understand that the lack of a dot above my head means voice is disabled.

    I had someone apparently talk at me on voice for like ten minutes before starting to complain about me ignoring them, and it's not the first time either.

    This has happened to me many times. I'm deaf and when others have done this in the past after I apologize and explain I'm deaf, I get accused of lying. I found that those who act that way aren't worth the worry or my time most often than not. I cannot change their attitude and the only person"s behavior and actions I have control over is myself. I'm sorry anyone has gone through this. It can be extremely unpleasant.

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