Canoro Philipp wrote:
i dont find androgynes attractive, what i find attractive is femininity, that thing that only women can do best, that is not fake or learned, that it comes naturally, those aspects that separate us as genders, physically, psychologically and emotionally.
nobody is better then them at that, doesnt matter if an androgyne uses a lot of makeup and even have a sex change operation, men are never gonna become a woman, because our gender is hardcoded from even before we are born.
i like women, so i find no androgyne attractive.
You seem to be implying that anyone who isn't cisgendered is somehow fake or that traits/gender cues that they display, are some sort of affectation rather than something which is natural to them.
I can't speak for other transsexuals or androdgynous people, but from my perspective, it was society that tried to force me to be something that was wholly unnatural to me. The person that I've grown to become, goes right back as far as I can remember. To use your term, I would suggest that my gender identity is as "hardcoded" in me as anyone else's is in them. From a very early age though, I learned that if I was to be accepted, then I had to hide who I was, and not talk about it. So for years, I buried who I was, to the point that it quite literally nearly killed me.
I don't wear makeup or try to convince people that I'm something I'm not. I dress in a completely neutral manner, as that's how I feel most comfortable, and it suits my lifestyle. That it seems to cause so much consternation when I'm out and about, appears to me to say far more about society than it does about me. I'm not surprised though, as I've long since felt that as much as society binds people together, it also drives them apart. Race, religion, politics, sexuality, all these things, with constant reinforcement from the media, drive a wedge between people, and potentially set up conflicts that need not exist.
And it's because of all this, that I limit my contact with most of society. I only involve myself in it as much as I need too, and no more. I'm not unhappy about it though, as I've grown to value my privacy, and as odd as I may seem to some people, I can assure you, society at large seems equally odd to me.
Whether someone is cisgendered, intersex, trans, andro, or any point inbetween, is irrelevant to me. All that matters is what they've got going on upstairs.