[What kind of land/parcel owner are you?]

We have several places. I own a Linden home, one of the oldest ones and I love it. Partner has a houseboat which he is considering abandoning. He is the primary owner of our Thistle Cove,, a public place for rez'ing boats, having parties, just hanging out. I am the primary owner of Mowry Bay Village and Docks, our attempt to, if not recreate the historical Mowry Bay Yacht Club and Village (associated with East River Community), at least honor those places and keep the area available for visitors and sailors. I have changed the general look of the Cove a few times but have now decided it's about right so leaving it alone. Mowry gets a few changes, mostly landscaping and small details.  I also have a hidey hole place in the Snowlands where I go to be at peace. I don't make many changes there, either. I am not the sort to change things...at least not like my maternal grandmother who changed her furniture around with alarming frequency. As a rule, we try to fit whatever we are creating into the local environment...I like the look and feel of neighborhoods..doesn't matter if I know anyone nearby or not. I LOVE creating places in SL that make the two of us happy and some that exist so that we can share with others.

 

 

[Why be a friend collector?]

On 10/3/2022 at 10:28 AM, undevoted said:

and it is now more about how many people you know rather than the quality of people you know. 

That is your perception, not mine. It's sad that you feel that way and I hope you find ways to make SL better for yourself.

 

[New friends for the 'elderly']

On 10/1/2022 at 7:13 AM, Niniane Oh said:

Ideas anyone?

I am not elderly, I am plain old OLD. I don't seek out other old people to hang with...I go where the music or the activity interests me and most times I get along pretty well with others. It's not uncommon for me to discover that there are other old people around me, but it is uncommon to be treated in a different way because I am older than most. Well,, ok, there might be a LOT of teasing but I can handle that. If it makes me laugh, so be it. So, my advice is to go looking for activities and music that make you smile and then see what happens.

 

[Makes you wonder why people are such .. jerks]

2 hours ago, Kate Ayashi said:

This is why I distrust people so much here!!!

What Lewis advised...a roll-back might fix it all. Then, think about the people in your group and ponder why each of them as added. Perhaps you can make a new group, one that is made up of those closest to you or created by you. It's also possible that an angry outsider with tricks managed to crash the sim..can be done, has been done. Might not be one person in your group. Sorry for what you are going through. But, in the end, it's SL so it can be done over..and locked down.

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

33 minutes ago, Lewis Luminos said:

I really don't think I was very good at being a woman, and I was desperately unhappy. 

Thank you for sharing this, Lewis, and I SO hope the unhappiness is long gone now. Hugs!

 

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

4 hours ago, Love Zhaoying said:

My college team, the Texas A&M Aggies

Ah, my sis-in-law went there for her Masters. She was brainy so no more Aggie jokes from my side of the family. (My father went to SMU.)

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

6 hours ago, GoSpeed Racer said:

*pulls Cate's finger*

Yep, you can bear witness, GO.

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

5 minutes ago, Maitimo said:

So a bunch of us were chilling out by the campfire and a few of the guys started with some childish fart jokes and I IM'd my friend and said "okay, well they are not women in RL."

I think of myself as cis-gender female in RL, I have lived my RL as a female. I present  myself most times in SL as a female. (Ok sometimes I am a gender neutral mouse or ferret or male dinky cat.) But I love fart jokes in RL and in SL I am armed with fart gestures, fart bombs, whatever I can find to defile the environment around me when I am in the mood. Does that mean I am not really a woman? Bah!

 

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

10 minutes ago, kali Wylder said:

I have a few male avs in the alt army.  They never interact with others.  I'm not comfortable with being a male.  I doubt that I am "good" at it.  The first time I made a male av, I took him out to a club and danced with a stranger.  She bought it.  I felt uncomfortable with it and did not do it again. 

Interesting. When I have felt this way, it's been about me being deceitful. If I ever finish updating my male avie and take him out into the world, I'll see if the same thing happens. In the past, when I made it clear that my male avie was actually me, when I was the "male" dance partner for female friends, I had no bad feelings at all.  I leave it to somebody else to figure out what all this means..or might mean. 

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

1 hour ago, Katherine Heartsong said:

But, it does weird me out how many men won't even socialize with male-driven female avatar.

My guess,they are afraid of gay. 

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

4 hours ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

Menopause came overnight for me, as the result of an oophorectomy that accompanied my lumpectomy (2-for-1 discount FTW!). The following radiation and chemo masked the worst of the menopause transition by making everything horrible for months, and five years of estrogen blocking oral chemo brought their own unwanted side effects. If I can keep my bones from disintegrating, I'll be a generally happy camper.

Damn!  I am glad you survived and rose out of the pit of *****e...Hurray for you!  Hugs!

 

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

7 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

and the moral panic that not infrequently ensues when someone discovers, or even just suspects, that a friend or lover is representing a different gender in-world, suggests that a great many in SL think otherwise.

Moral panic?  If I found out an SL lover was a different gender in RL, I would be outraged, hurt, and so on and so on. Because the person was a different gender?  No, because a person I trusted was deceitful. Same with SL friends...deceive me, I find out, I am out of there for good.  Is that what you mean by moral panic? Ok then, I react with moral panic when I find I have been deceived by those I have let get close to me. 

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

6 hours ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

By the time they finally figured out to have a kid, in 1970

Great line!  I envy the way your parents raised you. I wish all kids were raised to do whatever needs doing, to take care of themselves and others regardless of the packages they came in.  And I am glad I have lived long enough to see countless folks living free of, or breaking free of, the old  ways. 

[Which continent am I on?]

8 hours ago, Prokofy Neva said:

This is an open script so I made a hand held and a rezzable version of the Continent Locator which you can get here in Ross at Memory Bazaar.

Found it! Grabbed it! Thank you!  When I have a ton more time,, I will go back and look at everything carefully. It's a step into the past, in some ways, Prokofy...a nice step.

[Which continent am I on?]

16 hours ago, Miyuki Takeda said:

I hope Ian left you unscathed. I didn't think that place was sailable. In fact, I sold that parcel in Sansara and bought a sailable one in Corsica. lol

I think Ian is pretty much gone now..doing dirty work up in VA, NY, etc. I have leaves all over my deck and everything is soaking wet, but no damage and I only lost power for a minute or so last night..yay! Thank you for the concern.  As for land, yay, you care about sailing and got land from whiich you can launch yourself! Yay!  Maybe you will find your way to Thistle Cove in Nautilus one day...it's a long sail but can be done.

 

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

4 minutes ago, Modulated said:

The whole point of these kinds of threads elude me...Who cares? Just do you.

Point? Education? Entertainment? You read it, at least part of it...why?

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

5 hours ago, Amina Sopwith said:

and has never been prepared for menopause.

I was intellectually prepared for menopause but, damn, when it became reality it shocked the living crap out of me! Mood swings? Yeah, but men have those, too. 

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

6 hours ago, cunomar said:

I never played the gender game but this made me wonder about a generalization that is perhaps age related ?

Women like shopping and men don't .

Age related..hmm. Interesting. My parents, Americans raised between 1920 and 1940, lived their lives in what I consider to be a narrow cultural bind. Mom did woman things,, Dad did man things. Women shopped,, men paid for the shopping but didn't like doing it, etc. My generation, raised between 1940 and 1960, seem to be a bit more diverse...step outside the lines a bit more so to speak. My partner, in his mid sixties now, loves to shop. I know other men of the more modern generation who love to shop. I love to shop in SL but despise it in RL.. I dunno...gender roles are stupid and confining and I don't like them.

[If you use an avatar of a gender you are not, are you good at portraying that gender?]

3 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

There is no "base behaviour" associated with particular genders. No "right way" to be a woman, or man. Just a variety of right ways to be human.

I agree. I have a male avatar that I haven't "used" for years...working on it again to modernize, update. I created it initially to wander around SL and see if people treated me in a different way. First thing I did was take him to a club I went to regularly as my female self. Immediately, some woman started yelling at me. I hadn't even had time to take a seat and there she was, screaming her head off about how I was her ex and I was there to stalk her. It was really strange. I then realized the dj was somebody I knew well and I immediately felt horrible for being deceitful. So, in IM, I told him who I was. Didn't stay there very long, it didn't feel good.  Next time I took him out, it was to a gathering at another club where I knew just about everybody. Stepped into the area, said Howdy, as I usually do, it comes out me automatically. And the person nearest to me said, Howdy Cate!    ...sigh...  After that, I took him out only a few more times to serve as dance partner for a couple of women I knew who wanted a dance partner but not a woman. They knew who I was, just wanted the visual, you know?  Anyway,, when I finally get this guy ready again, I will take him out and about and make no effort to act male..except for my AO animations which I am hoping are fairly neutral. I am  me, no matter what skin I am in and I will be upfront and honest about being a heterosexual female. I have no interest in fooling anybody...but I am interested to see how I am treated. BTW, my male partner did have a female avie years ago and came away feeling appalled by the behavior of so many men toward women. It was a good learning experience for him. Anyway, IMO, the best thing to do, no matter how we look in SL, is to be ourselves. If we are in transition, then we will be reflecting that as well.

 

[How to save Legacy outfits]

I am working on a male avatar, Legacy body and Lelutka evox head. So far, so good. But I can't figure out how to save an outfit. Used to the easy peasy Maitreya so this one is driving me crazy. Can't find info, etc. Any help appreciated.

[Which continent am I on?]

6 hours ago, diamond Marchant said:

but not used in actual navigation. I have a general idea of where SL continents are but have some border confusion in the Satori/Nautilus/Corsica areas.

I started sailing in SL within a few months of logging on the first time so I have been using the World M Map for a LONG time. The continents have gone through so many changes over time, but sailors tend to keep track because we want more options..more more! The creation of Bellisseria has helped us get more connections, more places to sail. Yay! I don't fly in SL, but I am sure those who do on a regular basis have their own perspectives about World Map, Continents, etc.

[Which continent am I on?]

On 9/29/2022 at 12:55 PM, Miyuki Takeda said:

Cate, I haven't tried sailing yet. Good luck with Ian.

I didn't spend much time checking out the area, but I don't think you can sail out of there and into Mare Secunda. If you mean sailing in SL, period, do give it a try. It's fun!  Thanks for concern about Ian. He is bashing my windows with rain and wind gusts right now but, so far, no problems.. Fingers crossed.

 

[Which continent am I on?]

On 9/29/2022 at 11:52 AM, Yukiko Yeshto said:

For anyone curious about its history, you might find this article on the SL Fandom Wiki interesting:

My brain can't handle the bombardment of ads and things flying around. Had to quit trying before I could figure out where the info was. Did notice Azure Islands something or other. Anyway, thanks!

 

[Which continent am I on?]

15 hours ago, Fritigern Gothly said:

Your region is a bit of an oddball. It looks like it was not originally part of a continent but at some point it did get connected to the continent of Sansara.

It really IS odd. Was looking at it on the map yesterday and wondering how it happened. I mean to go there today to check out the possibilities for sailing.   OOoh wind gust in RL. I think maybe the tippy top of Ian is waving at me. Bye!

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