There’s another reason people state they are lesbians in profile. It’s because they are straight men in real life playing lesbian female avatars in second life and as straight men in real life, getting hit on by other men in second life freaks them out. So it’s a way for men role-playing females to make sure only females hit on them, which also tend to be other men role-playing females in a lot of cases.
The point about original topic is we are not our bodies, we have a body. And whatever our real life body is sex wise, it has nothing to do with what it is in sl. I have met a lot of men playing female avatars in sl and roleplaying lesbians. It’s actually more than role playing its making up a fake real life story that “proves” they are also female in real life. Also, I know women who plays males in second life and marry women in second life who believe they are male in real life as well.
The amount of men who play lesbians in sl and on net as whole is huge. Myspace used to have lesbian groups who traded pics and were something like 99% males as far as real gender. If you see two men in second life standing together and start to wonder what their real life sexual orientation is, number one you are probably a sex addict, but besides your obsession with sex, another thing you might want to consider is the fact sl sex has nothing to do with rl sex. Males play females and females play males in a lot of cases. Playing various sexual orientations in sl and sexes don’t make it anymore real than roleplaying a goblin or monster in warcraft. It’s fantasy nothing more unless you disclose what you are in real life and so does partner and nobody is lying. Even then, it’s in the realm of fantasy though says more about what you are in real life as far as orientations.
Every animal on this planet has sex. It exists to make the species continue that’s about it. It has a strong pleasure drug like component to it to ensure we do it and the species continues. But it is not who we are. It’s a pleasure or a way to make a baby. A pleasure like eating ice cream or whatever. To get your identity or to judge others based on such a trivial thing makes not much sense. It’s how you treat yourself and others what defines you, how moral and compassionate you are, how free and open you are. So I see two males standing together I don’t care what they do to get off. All I care about is if they have morals and ethics and are kind people. That’s what I judge them on and how I define them. The body is something we have for a few years then let go of. It is not us.
It always seems odd to me to define yourself or others based on something you do for pleasure. Imagine helping some old lady cross the street then you get to the other side and she says, “so are you strait or gay?” What does that say about the old ladies morals and intelligence? Why is she preoccupied with such an unimportant thing? A thing that says nothing about who you are?