Okay, this does pop up often in this forum & I agree, it seems difficult to make friends in SL but I have found that it really isn't that difficult after all, but you have to put in the effort & drop some ego. I'll tell you what has worked for me. The biggest attraction of SL for me is music so I go to clubs & live music events. I found a few DJs & clubs I enjoy, I've joined their groups & I go to those repeatedly & get involved in local chat as much as possible. Regulars & staff will start to greet you personally & often will strike up conversations .. then the friend requests start. And I have found that this is easier in more quiet venues. Some people only want to go to places that are busy, but I find those places will often have quiet local chat because people are in IMs (I am guilty of this ) or local chat that is just being filled by gesturebators.
The bit about dropping some ego is saying don't be shy & afraid that you might make a fool of yourself - comment on someone's appearance, say hello, etc. if they don't respond or respond negatively - so what ? their loss, just move on.
I totally agree, Horus. I would add that before IMing someone, read their profile and use something in there as an ice-breaker. Or if their Rez Day is near, wish them many happy returns. It doesn't take much. "Love those shoes" ...
It won't be instantaneous, it takes time hanging out, but don't treat SL like a junior high dance, everyone clinging to the walls.
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I totally agree, Horus. I would add that before IMing someone, read their profile and use something in there as an ice-breaker. Or if their Rez Day is near, wish them many happy returns. It doesn't take much. "Love those shoes" ...
It won't be instantaneous, it takes time hanging out, but don't treat SL like a junior high dance, everyone clinging to the walls.