Dee Chauveau

I totally agree, Horus. I would add that before IMing someone, read their profile and use something in there as an ice-breaker. Or if their Rez Day is near, wish them many happy returns. It doesn't take much. "Love those shoes" ... It won't be instantaneous, it takes time hanging out, but don't treat SL like a junior high dance, everyone clinging to the walls.