Renfieldandmina

Again, thank you for the friendly words and ecouragement. Sl might be indifferent, but you are kind people. And btw. I actually really try to learn everything at the same time. I should propably just enjoy the process and calm down.

Thank you for the offer. I haven't been aware that anyone would live in Innsmouth. I will try to find out what exactly I wanna learn next and might call you if I struggle with it...and I bet that I will struggle.

Thank you for your quick replies and ideas. I really appreciate that. I just needed a little bit of encouragement. I will stick with it and try to increase my comfort zone from day to day.

I am in sl since 12 days. And this is my experience so far. I don’t want to complain, but share my impressions. I’ve already tried sl a few years ago. Back then it took me a few hours to give up. This time I’ve promised myself to stick with it for a month. Things that I like so far Many beautiful places Some great live music I have found a place to meditate or watch the sunset I have been to Innsmouth I have met some friendly DJ’s I have been dancing a couple of times I have my own house I’ve had a cup of tea at a poetry cafe. It is difficult to get in touch with people Everyone says “Hi” or “Huhu”, but that’s usually the end of the conversation. The nearby chat is either very quiet or filled with insider conversations that I don’t get. Everyone seems to know each other, so I feel like I am dancing on a party I am not invited to. It just doesn’t feel good. Right now, I don’t really want to open up sl, because I expect the same situations again. The first conversations were „meh“. A woman in a dance club asked, how I was doing and I said “I am new and try to figure out how stuff works.” Her reaction: “Facepalm!” At another destination I tried a little bit of small talk. His reaction: “Hey man, I’m just vibing.” And he disappeared. Someone on this forum wrote that people in sl are not unfriendly, but indifferent. That is my impression too. I can understand that. People are there to meet with people they like and know for a long time, they are not in sl to teach new residents. The learning curve is steep. It took me 3 days to figure out how to dress my avatar. Some people on the subreddit gave me the important hint „ADD“ not „WEAR“. I stood lost on the dance floor until I found out how to dance and I felt like an idiot. It took me some time to figure out how to sit. I am still not able to put a bed in my house. It is to big and gets stuck inside the ceiling. I don’t dare to ask about “rezzing”, AO’s or sandboxes. If I am struggling with the beginner stuff, how should I tackle those things? I have so many questions and I don’t want to bother other people. They are friendly and willing to help...but a second question? A third question? Even a fourth? The tutorials on youtube are a mixed bag. Some are over 10 years old, others are obviously made for people who already know a lot about sl. So far I don’t have found the videos I’ve needed. Went to a role play destination and it was intimidating. A huge sign with the rules and plenty of slang that I didn’t understood. Things I did not expect Many many places in sl are empty. I did not expect that. I have tried random places and some recommended places and most of them were empty or had one or two resident. I have discovered a club that plays music that I really like, but every time I am there it is empty. I can’t even dance because the “dance-balls” (I am sure that they have a name) are not turned on. Might be a time zone problem (living in Europe). Many, many streets are empty, beaches are empty, clubs are empty… that surprised me. I did not expect to get kicked out of regions. I’ve tried to discover sl, walked around, flew around and suddenly got warnings that I have to leave in 20 seconds. Now I know that some regions are restricted to members, but the first time it happened? That was stress. I did not expect that “age” is important. Some listed events were not open for me, because “not 30 days old”. One was a dance party a regular beach, the other one a dance party in an adult club. My question Do you have any recommendations what I could do to improve my situation in sl? Some important things to learn or important things to know? Will it get better by time or will it remain a struggle? What could be an important next step?