No, this is not one of the thousand of "My friend hides from me" or "Can I hide my online status?" threads Very often SL doesn't register a friend going online / offline or it shows people in groups online which are offline / vice versa. I read this is due to lag. Is there a way to update these statuses without having to possibly restart SL every time? Or can I alternatively confirm someone's online status? Since it's quite silly to write people expecting them to be online just to find out you left them an obsolete message and they're long gone.