Synfully21Sweet

Tex Monday wrote: Perrie Juran wrote: ETA, I await patiently for certain Doms but especially some Subs to arrive with their justifications for this control freak. Well, wait no longer Perrie...for I am here. (or is that WAY too egotistical of me??) :matte-motes-sunglasses-3: The OP is acting completely properly. It is a silly submissive that immediately throws themselves to any Dom without getting to know them first and finding out if they are compatible. You say that you are giving up your freedom and that's true. But a good Master will still give their slaves some slack if they request it. Mine, for example, has a job dancing in a few clubs in SL. He obviously doesn't know what he's doing and he's being overly controlling. How do you react when he "bugs out" on you? You said he's dominating you before you're ready..I think that should be a clear sign that you need to get out. If he's not willing to slow things down until you're ready, then he's not the Dom for you no matter how nice he may be. Get out....look around for someone who will be more nurturing (especially since you've never done this before). Thank you for your wise words. I am going to ask him to slow down and hope he can understand.

Storm Clarence wrote: Perrie Juran wrote: Synfully21Sweet wrote: So I am tip toeing into the bdsm world on sl and I met a really nice DOM. I haven't pledge myself to him because I would like to get to know him first to see if I can't trust and connect with him. He's really nice but he is starting to Dominate me before I am ready. I told him I want to learn how to be a sub but when I am ready. I still want a little freedom and I know once I give him the go, there goes my freedom.. With out his permission of course. If I don't address him when he comes on he gets upset, when I tell him RL and sl are mixed today.. Meaning that I am on sl but doing a few RL things, or when I tell him I need some quiet time.. He bugs out on me. Am I being to sensitive and being.. As he said..Disobedient or is he being too controlling too soon. Sorry for this book.. Just new at this and I don't want to mess up. There are three elements in BDSM: Safe, Sane & Consensual. Apparently he does not understand at least two of them. Time to move on. ETA, I await patiently for certain Doms but especially some Subs to arrive with their justifications for this control freak. That is what he is, no more and no less. Ya know, it is not the Dom's issue or fault here. Of course s/he (dom) is a wannabe as mentioned prior, but it is the OP that should be faulted equally or more so, and based on the "three elements in BDSM" you mentioned. If s/he (sub) can't get her head around this concept then she should perhaps stop playing in a world she knows nothing about. Concept of what. Being a sub? I know what entails of it. I am waiting to know the person first before relinquishing my power. Nothing wrong with that, What is exactly my fault?

So I am tip toeing into the bdsm world on sl and I met a really nice DOM. I haven't pledge myself to him because I would like to get to know him first to see if I can't trust and connect with him. He's really nice but he is starting to Dominate me before I am ready. I told him I want to learn how to be a sub but when I am ready. I still want a little freedom and I know once I give him the go, there goes my freedom.. With out his permission of course. If I don't address him when he comes on he gets upset, when I tell him RL and sl are mixed today.. Meaning that I am on sl but doing a few RL things, or when I tell him I need some quiet time.. He bugs out on me. Am I being to sensitive and being.. As he said...Disobedient or is he being too controlling too soon. Sorry for this book.. Just new at this and I don't want to mess up.

So I am tip toeing into the bdsm world on sl and I met a really nice DOM. I haven't pledge myself to him because I would like to get to know him first to see if I can't trust and connect with him. He's really nice but he is starting to Dominate me before I am ready. I told him I want to learn how to be a sub but when I am ready. I still want a little freedom and I know once I give him the go, there goes my freedom.. With out his permission of course. If I don't address him when he comes on he gets upset, when I tell him RL and sl are mixed today.. Meaning that I am on sl but doing a few RL things, or when I tell him I need some quiet time.. He bugs out on me. Am I being to sensitive and being.. As he said...Disobedient or is he being too controlling too soon. Sorry for this book.. Just new at this and I don't want to mess up.