well the only two options I have when exporting to collada are " export only selected " and " export for second life " so of course I have been picking the second life option tried the other one as well while having everything selected but that didnt do anything different and again thank you guys so much for all the help ive learned quite a bit looking into the things youve mentioned and made alot of progress tonight, the legs took maby 10 minutes to model but figuring all this other stuff out has taken me four days alredy