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I’ll start this by saying that I am probably the opposite of a prude. On any normal day I make sure my behavior conforms to “accepted” certain social norms because (a) I love someone I want to stay with and (b) people tend to get all stabby over relationships and I want to keep the murder-rate low. Anyway, I DJ in Second Life and lately I noticed something interesting after I made a wardrobe-change while working (not WHILE working - before I went to work). I’d reached a point where “dressing for club work” was hard to distinguish from another (older) profession; and the some of the COVID-influx of new Residents/guests were having a hard time discerning the difference. I have a Partner in SL whom I want to keep, and the constant barrage of “how much sweetie?” From avatars under 30-days-old was starting to make me feel like *I* was doing something that might make my Partner (who also DJs) feel like I was running a side-business..... So I changed how I dressed. Necklines went up, hemlines went down - but I did bother to buy stuff that was good quality from good designers. I was thinking that “Draw” and Tips were about to go down, but I was willing to pay the price. I have a wonderful Partner (who never said anything to me about how I dressed) Oddly, the opposite happened. What DID drop was the “Oh, I thought you were a hooker” messages, but tips + draw actually climbed over the past month..... Now, it may be because I changed my format and really leaned into the “80’s” niche (Pop,Alt,Metal) and I suspect that market is bigger in SL than anyone will admit because we have “lots of people who remember the 80’s” (like me) who also LOOK 20-something here...... Anyway, I look more like what was considered Trendy for my genre now.... But I thought the change was interesting, so I’m babbling about it. I’m not advocating for anything, I’m not evangelizing. *Wear what makes you feel good* This was probably more about my own perceptions than SL at large, but it also drove home an important thing to me.... I DJ better when *I* feel good, so when I stopped trying to conform to a perception of “SL normal” I became a better Partner and maybe a slightly better DJ. ...also, I got to shop...........