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Hello everyone, As a tall woman, I have always had a preference towards shorter men; guys who are noticeably shorter than me and those who aren't so dominant and extremely masculine; However, everywhere I go within the mainstream sphere of SL; in the most popular and most populated places, it's full of men with confident, hyper-masculine personalities with avatars on the taller side, with exaggerated muscular bodies, who like to chat up the always shorter women around them. For someone like me, who prefers a more cute and gentle kind of person, this is a turn-off that gets old and tiring fast; I'm wondering where I can go in SL to find and meet shorter men who might not be so sure of themselves, who might be more on the intellectual or emotional side and looks up to a more confident, taller woman for the same feeling of warmth and security that those smaller women I see seem to get from those men I mentioned above. It's mostly in BDSM/Femdom places where submission towards dominant females is the prevailing theme and agenda for men and women, so you tend to find submissive men with avatars that reflect their desire for physical contrast. However, even in those places, the men tend to be larger and more masculine. Naturally I've found some folks at school roleplay sims who have child or teenage avatars, and I would like to meet some more (not sure where the best places are for that too, if anyone can help me with that) but interacting with child avatars all the time can have its disadvantages, especially with relationships and of course, no sexual activity if we ever feel like it and switching to an adult avatar is just weird... 😆 However, outside of this I have rarely found guys that portray anything but a sense of unwavering confidence and hyper-masculinity in their avatars and the way they behave, in spite of how they might be in real life; it's only on one very rare occasion I've met someone who happened to have dwarfism who felt comfortable enough to admit that he was confined to a wheelchair and often lacked the feeling of care from others. He was really candid about feeling shy and unconfident and wanting a strong, caring woman to look out for him and to look up to. I haven't had a more enjoyable and fulfilling relationship with anybody else, so I was wondering since where to find guys like that, even if not to that extreme. It seems very difficult to find this, to find what I'm looking for - If there are dominant, masculine men and more passive and less assertive women on SL, then I would think that there would be men who are like that too somewhere, who feel that they can be themselves and not have to compete or compensate for their lack. If there is a "market" for cute girls in SL, then it only makes sense that there are people who are looking for cute boys as well. I've joined groups for shorter men and taller women, but I've pretty much met nearly everyone in each group and things didn't go so well with some of them. I know this is very subjective, but it was the same with groups for "cute boys" whom a lot of them are femboys and those hyper-masculine tall men again, who simply declare themselves as "cute" and put themselves in the group. Some of the guys in those groups I find that they present as cute and innocent boys and then take advantage of you in subtle and manipulative ways... or they're arrogant jerks who act like they know better than you. If there are groups for this, then that means that it's a niche; I just haven't had any luck so far in finding what I'm looking for. I'm just wondering if there are other places I can go to, besides those groups. I would appreciate some help in this matter so I can find what I'm looking for in Second Life and enjoy my time here a lot more. 😋 - Charlotte Sinclair