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Hello guys, I am married in real life. I have been playing SL since 2014 when I was still engaged with my husband. So, my sl daughter and I had a guy friend, we spent our time together a lot. His other friends and family that he used to hangout with (who are also my friends) got jealous because he has been spending most of his time with me and my daughter and they said awful things about us. It was not our choice that he spent his time with us a lot, we even advised him to spend some time with his family. He defended us from all the gossips and attacks from his own family. They called my daughter ''flavor of the month'' that she was his favorite for now and he will eventually find another person to focus his attention to. They thought he was having something with my daughter. My daughter got upset and didn't come online for a long time, all the lies flying around and the attacks hurt her so she stopped login in for a long time. So it ended up with just me and this friend, let's call him by the name Rick. Rick had been trying to reach my daughter messaging her how he missed her so much, that he's never felt something like this before with her being gone and all. He would message her everyday then eventually got mad because she hasn't replied to his looooooooooong messages. My daughter told me she was creeped out with his messages. Rick told me that my daughter is selfish and that it's like the friendship we had was nothing to her. That maybe she got a RL bf and just forgot about us. I still keep in touch with my daughter in RL since we live in the same city. It was obvious he liked my daughter. Almost a year have passed and I got married in RL, my daughter hasn't come online on SL still and I still been playing SL. I love taking pictures so I wandered a lot, explored the grid, went shopping, landscaping etc. I still see Rick some because we live in same parcel, him on sky me on the ground. He would invite to go party together. I dont remember how it happened so fast that we started dancing, went to romantic places, suddenly started using couple animations, for me it was awkward he was my long time friend. Then we ended up being together. When his family found out about us, his daughter posted on Facebook that she doesn't wanna be her father anymore. So this people's true colors came out. They hated me and my daughter for shallow reasons, how was that our fault? You don't get to dictate people who they want to be friends with. Rick knew I am married in RL, so we made some agreements that SL is just SL, and my RL is my RL, he can't mixed his life to mine and mine to his. He agreed to it. But lately I have been feeling guilty that even though what we have is only virtual, I am cheating with my husband. So I told him and he begged me not to do this, he keep telling me what did he do to deserve this even though I explained to him that I have this nagging voice in my head that it was wrong. That convo went on loops, he just kept saying that to me , then he *****ing sent me money on my Paypal during our argument, it was very insulting like he thought he could bribe me with it. I tried to calmly and peacefully end it with him but he was begging and begging and he was just being repetitive and I kept answering the same thing. I wanted to be faithful to my husband, I admitted to Rick it was my fault that I shouldn't have gotten with him in the first place but he would just keep telling me ''what was my fault, I don't deserve this'' over and over again. I told him that's why I am doing this he doesn't deserve this. He would't respect my decision so I removed our partnership in SL, and he was so upset he told me to put it back or ''he will be a laughing stock to our friends''. So I did him a favor and I put it back on. I felt bad but I thought it was the right thing to do, I was honest with him, I didn't want to hurt him more later. But he was persistent and I was feeling bad what I did. For few days I stood to decision but I am so dumb, I got back with him with more strict rules. He can't message me when I log in and my husband is home from work/and weekends because my husband is home. It was fine then. But then lately he would keep asking me to login and sit on cuddle animations and I derender him so he can't be seen while hubby is around and he would keep quiet. I let him, but then later he would keep asking me to do that every night, when I don't come on nights and login in the morning he would complain where was I and that he was laying down all night alone. I've sent him my RL pictures and recent videos to prove we are not posers back when we were still friends so did my daughter, but he's only sent photos. We were really not sure what he looked like. We did video chatting, I stupidly *****ing did that, we *****ing agreed on SL only, so anyway he never had his cam on, he had so many excuses, that his cam was broken and that he uses desktop so he doesn't have built in camera. He would ask me a photo of me in the morning, audio message saying I love you, asked me not shave my armpit for few days and take a photo of it send it to him. He started using flirty animations inworld which was not part of our agreement. I'd never want to go intimate with him. When I wouldn't send him a photo one morning, he asked why not when I've done it before. I told him I didn't want to. He was like ''whats the issue now, just a photo, and just I love you audio is not a hard thing to do, so I thought he is crossing my boundaries. I gave him more than he was supposed to get from and he wouldn't even show his face to me. During this argument he sent Paypal money again, I got really pissed, *****ing *****. I have money, does he really think that will make me feel good. When I confronted him of the money he denied it and said its not the fights that he would send money, but see he done it each time we argue. And you know what each time I would tell him the issue, he changes the topic and talk to me like we weren't just talking about important issue, he would be like, ''Baby come hug me, do you want to go shopping? Do you have enough lindens? How was your day? Like seriously! WTF? Now hes been calling me and messaging me, and my husband is here he knows it's weekend. I don't know what to do. Please help me!