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Do you ever get the odd sensation that the crazy and impressive new person you come across knows you? Do you ever think 😍🤩”wow that special human (or furry thing or whatever) just waltzed into my playground and somehow says all the right things that speak directly to my heart.” Does it ever feel as if the mega-impressive character standing before you is familiar? So close to you that you even love them a little? Impossible right? A brand new person in your day usually takes several visits- sometimes for months or YEARS before they know you so well they can finish your sentences and read your mind based on the way you are dressed for the day. So why is it... that I have repeatedly encountered a suspiciously intuitive man who seems to know what I am about to do and say... in such a bullseye way that at one point I thought there might be a direct access feed into my private thoughts. Or I have one extremely talented stalker. The crazy thing is... oh never mind. I think I am the crazy thing. 👥👤🗣👨🏻💻 How often do people mess around with there flirts and fantasies from alt accounts? Is this common? Alts would explain the oddly amazing string of gentlemen I have run into lately. If they are all the same dude that would be just comical. You guys can’t ALL be awesome... can you? Why do RL things feel so shallow and in SL ... human beings seem to connect on the levels they would otherwise keep locked and unexplored for all their years. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ All of this has come to mind after a startling helicopter trip that landed me in the second life sea, alone in the dark... after being set on fire and being asked to relinquish my will to think on my own... and I was truly stunned by the behavior I normally would find atrocious that it somehow was charming. I was totally shocked into a state of trance I further fell. It was not scary like it sounds. It was liberating. It was sad too... This type of absurd nonsense happened for the 3rd time this month. Ok- so I have probably created a few of the monsters I keep meeting, simply because I have placed myself amongst the sinful and seductive frameworks in the community. I don’t know what my question is to the people who might read this... just tell me something . Make it normal. Make it crazy. I could use a little feedback about personal experiences. *Awaiting replies that inevitably will range from brutal and scathing, to considerate and helpful.* Tell me. Am I the crazy one? Or is this community overflowing with beautiful people who are qualifiable Angels... amongst terrible, cruel wolves of the same blood. ✨ 🦋✨🦋✨🦋✨
Obviously, all of us are here for different reasons. I've found many AVs have sexual expectations after having established similar interests, etc. or not even then. I have no interest in this aspect of SL -- yet it seems I'm facing forever indignant persons about this even though I make myself clear from the get-go. I wonder if that's seen as some kind of code for a challenge, etc. I'm triggered to post this because of two separate incidents that occurred within a week: one in which I agreed to dance with another AV and then here came the too-soon too-personal questions that, when I declined to answer, resulted in being dumped in the couples dance without explanation and an apparent pouting pity-party from the other AV ensued without even an apology later. The next time I logged in I stumbled into an AV that, judging from "his" groups, was heavily into BDSM, rape roleplay, etc. I asked him a non-sex related question. He then apparently read my profile bio and asked WHY WHY WHY I wasn't into SL sex. When I made it clear I wasn't interested, I was barraged by this psychological freakshow of an AV with how I was "imposing" my standards on those that wanted virtual sex with me and, therefore, I had a narcissistic superiority complex because I refused to participate and let myself be raped, etc. WTF? I couldn't tell if this person thought I was so malleable that I'd give in after his psychological assessment of me, or if he was just trying to ***** with me (psychologically) and found the whole thing amusing. Yes, I blocked him . . .but wtf is it that others can't simply respect other's boundaries? I don't give a ***** if anyone else is in SL for virtual sex -- that's fine by me, however -- it's not my interest -- why is that so hard for others to respect?