Livia Firelight

It says it it owen by me.I have set up groups before, never had this problem, I have gone thru all the settings. Am pulling my hair out over this one! lol

I set up the group when I got the land..I have invited someone into the group now...we are both listed under "everyone" and "owner", yet all the abilities are greyed out and he can not set the land as hin home! I dont know what to do, I have tried everything! HELP!!!