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Sandrine Vanbeeck

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  1. This was my speech: Please let me say some words about the person we want to commemorate today. Amdanda Dallin- Vanbeeck, founder and co-owner of New Orleans. Amanda is finally gone now and this here will be a gathering to remember her. Amanda … this is your evening ! We were a couple since late 2006. We married in SL at the 3. January 2007. That is a long time … even in RL. In all those years, I never met someone like her. She guided me through my hardest times and lifted me up in a way that I could say was literally lifesaving. She was always there, when I needed her the most. She was always there to bring some fun in my life. To feel loved, to feel needed. She were the best friend that someone could ask for ! Distance doesn´t mean a lack of deepth ! I miss every single second of this time ... with no exception. This is way more you can say about another human, than usual and describes the relation in a perfect way. The bond between her and me was so deep and RL affecting … I have no idea how to go on without her. Now there is nothing left but a dark, cold, deep and empty hole in my soul. No words can ever express my grief ! Maby you are thinking … „hey … this place here looks a little out of time.“ It is. I never had the heart to get rid of it. This is a special place for us. Like the whole New Orleans SIM is. Here kind of started our journey. Here we met close friends that went with us a long part of the way. Here we had precious moments and here we started to feel the joy of a SL meeting point. In the old days we had a lot of regulars here and it was kind of popular. Amanda and me loved to manage it and we loved to be here with our friends, some of whom have already passed away... like Amanda is now. It´s a bittersweet feeling for me, since I´m one of the last that is here now from the old days. But I think this is the right place to give Amanda a last farewell. Amanda would have loved to see a last time, the full house here. They say: „Tears wont last forever“ They are said to take their time. Just when we least expect it, they reappear and invade us. What is reassuring is that the more time passes, the less tears will be needed. There will be times when, more and more often, you will be able to think about something else, engage in an activity that you love, and sometimes, with a little pinch in your heart, feel free to enjoy it. And you’ll be afraid to forget... but rest assured, that’s totally impossible. When you’ve loved someone, that person remains forever in your heart. To go through mourning is to create this unique place to cherish forever all that was lived together, to remember the good memories, to smile at the thought of the precious moments that were shared. It’s at this moment that mourning brings its harvest: we have become different, we have evolved, we have understood and we have rebuilt. It took time, courage, effort, but you will get there, better. I know this is right. But today I can´t imagine getting there. Amanda … farewell my beloved wife, my soulmate, my rock in the unsteady breaking of waves. I´ll try to keep your legacy, as good as I can. I will try to go on … I´ll try to take a little from your strength, that is capsuled in my soul … as you always wished. The sorrow we feel when we lose a loved one, is the price we pay to have had them in our lives. I love you, my heart ! Take care, wherever you are now.
  2. We did a last farewell memorial, at Amandas beloved Second Home Club in her New Orleans SIM ...
  3. RP and relationships are two complete different things ! If you try to mix them you must fail. RP is showtime ... you can act like you want to be. If it fit´s in the RP you are in, depends on the RP theme and the paticipating people. Relationships should be you. Your real you. It may need some time, but if you constant talk to new people at different occasions, you´ll find someday someone who is in your league. The bond will tie on it´s own then. There is no need to act in a special way for this. This is the good news. The bad news is ... sometimes it takes time. So don´t give up ... take your time and go on. You´ll suceed. It´s only a matter of time. Do you have a club or a venue you like ? Go there and become a regular. This way it´s almost impossible, not to make new friends.
  4. Amanda loved cooking. When you want to try this ... Amandas Chocolate Cake Cookies TOTAL TIME: Prep: 20 min + 2 hours chilling Bake: 10 min/batch YIELD: 24 servings Ingredients 2/3 cup Sucralose (Splenda) 1/4 cup canola oil 1 egg 1/3 cup agave syrup or honey 1 tablespoon vanilla 2 cups flour 2 teaspoons baking soda 1 tablespoon coco powder 1/2 teaspoon salt 2 oz unsweetened chocolate 2 tablespoons butter Directions 1. In a small bowl, beat sucralose and oil until blended. Beat in egg, vanilla and agave syrup. Melt butter and unsweetened chocolate and add to oil mixture. 2. Combine the flour, baking soda, coco powder, and salt. 3. Gradually add dry mix to oil mixture and mix well. 4. Cover and refrigerate at least 2 hours. 5. Preheat oven to 350°. Shape dough into 1-in. balls; Place 2 in. apart on baking sheets covered with parchment paper; flatten slightly. 6. Bake 7-9 minutes or until set. 7. Remove to wire racks to cool
  5. I have lost some close people over the years in here (RL checked !). Mostly people I was very close with, for a decade or more. I won´t believe, that real friends who are really caring for you, even think for one second of doing this. The grief and the pain are real when you loose a close friend. Every normal human will know this. People who are doing this are empathy-less, selfish, unscrupulous and over the top cruel to other humans feelings ! But they are also another thing ... they were never your friends ! So I´m not worried at all, that the persons who are close to my heart, will fake this anytime. Because they have this place for a reason. The others are simply cheaters for their own benefit or they like to torture people for their weird kind of "fun". And yes ... it may also be some who have a mental illness as a reason for doing this. But I´m sure, that´s the minority. So don´t fall for every heartbreaking story from a two months "friend" ... think self ... proof the probability ... check the facts you know ... look at the details ... are they plausibility ... and be suspicious. Scammers often are entangled in their own storie. Making a good lie is hard, constant, detailed work. And the very most won´t do this effort. It is always a good idea, to arrange something with close friends, that someone from their RL environment will send you a note (maby via email ?) that something serious happened with your beloved person, in the case that it´s needed. Vanishing without a trace cause terrible pain ! Your close friends will also feel this way. Protect your feelings ... and not at least ... your wallet.
  6. I would like to point to several pictures of Amanda´s life in SL. Those pictures sums up her personality in a perfect way. She was so full of life, always curious to explor and try new things, passionate for her friends, her sailing and her beloved SL hometown New Orleans. ❤️ Flickr I Flickr II Flickr, NOLA Snapzilla http://snapzilla.net/Profile/Amanda-Dallin/1 Here you´ll find the transcript of the Memorial Service for her, at Antiquity. Her beloved sailing place and home of her Continantal Navy family. https://www.magentacloud.de/share/801g58b1h9 Those are some links to the Blackrose Shipyard blog, of her close friend and partner in ship building and testing, Xi. https://blackroseshipyard.weebly.com/news/amanda-dallin https://blackroseshipyard.weebly.com/news/amandas-service-in-antiquity Here´s her SL community site https://community.secondlife.com/profile/853888-amanda-dallin/ "The human being is not really dead until no one thinks about him anymore" (Bertold Brecht, german poet)
  7. In the night to the 23th of May, I lost my beloved wife, my partner in crime, my soulmate, my rock in the unsteady breaking of waves ... the light of my nights, the hope of my days. For almost 14 1/2 years, we were a unit. I miss every single second of this time ... with no exception. This is way more you can say about another human, than usual and describes the relation in a perfect way. Last night I got the certainty, the dull feeling became brutal reality. Now there is nothing left but a dark, cold, deep and empty hole in my soul. No words can ever express my grief ! The cruel fate just blew out my life light. Amanda was my world ... and my world is dead now. I hope you´ll find peace ... wherever you are now. Life is energy and energy can never be lost. It will always be transformed. Maby your energy will transformed to something you love. I hope so much. Your loving wife San
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