i feel your pain. I've returned after 8 years and frankly, I'm none too impressed with mesh bodies. I've bought a few short skirts because they actually look good. Everything else... not so much.
What I've been doing so far is using custom alpha layers to make things work. That, coupled with some careful shopping and judicious use of shape adjustments, does the job for me. I'll start to ponder a mesh body when I feel like taking the time to redraw my skin for the new UVMap AND when the designers get their act together with some sort of standardization.