The answer is..it depends. Depnds on how far the representation goes and what actions are being taken based on it. I know some ava's who say in their profile or otherwise tell--always ok. But I know some others who have also represented themselves as the opposite gender in RL as well, even using a voice pitcher to attempt to complete the illusion and using someone else's photos. Not cool.
Bottom line, we all have a basic right to chose who are sexual or otherwise intimate with. For some people, the gender of the other ava is a deal maker/breaker. Right or wrong, there it is. Some ppl ca