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  1. On 1/21/2020 at 7:21 PM, Madelaine McMasters said:

    I'm with Garnet (and I'm sure many others) in hoping all is well with you and your neurologist has a benign explanation for today's experience.

    Do let us know what you learn.


    On 1/22/2020 at 5:26 PM, Garnet Psaltery said:

    @Bitsy Buccaneer - how did your appointment go?

    Thank you both for asking and remembering. It means a lot x

    The neurologist wasn't concerned about yesterday's visual problems. She says it sounds like migraine. I looked it up when I got home, there's something called "silent migraine" which doesn't have the pain and it seems a reasonable enough fit.

    (That was how far I managed to get yesterday. The whole day was very wearing and it's a struggle still to get sentences to fit together right. Apologies and thank you for caring x. Apologies too if I haven't acknowledged anyone, my brain is easily overwhelmed but did read as much as I could take in in the rest of the thread. I have an additional diagnosis, which I'm still learning about. If nothing else it will keep me under the remit of the neurology department and their specialists. Every single person I've interacted with in that department, from the receptionist to the nurses who do the tests to the neurologist herself is kind and warm and lovely. Oh, my visual blurriness looked nothing like your psychedelics. Why do other people get the good stuff :D  Going to trust this makes sense and go for another rest. Much love to everyone who needs some.)

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  2. 42 minutes ago, hectic1 said:

    For the bodies, yeah neither option is perfect. Consider also that often I have to deal with 14 or more body sizes, add to that their demos, and sometimes different versions within each body.


    3 hours ago, hectic1 said:

    We can't have it all, I wish we could. It's always a trade-off, but it's good to have more options so anyone can choose what works best for them each time (pros vs cons).

    It sounds like you've decided that your own efficiency is more important than the amount of data needed to be downloaded. If it were just you, maybe ok. It isn't, what with multiple-pieced, multiple-faced onion skin bodies with six feet instead of two, multiple "style" hairs, and so on. If this thing of wearing 2 or 3 complete outfits in order to mix and match were to catch on, the bloat would be even greater.

    There are real costs to the grid.

  3. 2 hours ago, Bree Giffen said:

    Hey all, let's post our potentially unpopular opinions! What could go wrong?

    Anyways, my opinion is that there are too many beautiful avatars and it dilutes the beauty in SL. I think most people need to make themselves more plain looking or ugly so that my avatar will be the fairest of all. 🥴

    Different take on that, spending all this time in a world full of air-brushed perfection might not be the healthiest thing for our real life minds.

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  4. I started out the day with about a half hour of increasingly blurred vision, which then receded, and a period where my right hand wasn't quite right, headache for half the day too. Things seem ok since, no idea what it was. Fortunately I have an appointment with the neurologist anyway tomorrow, so at least I'll be able to ask a professional.

    Took last month off from the forums because I didn't have spare emotional energy for the few who try to pick fights, so I'm late reading this thread. Much sympathy for all who are struggling with grief in whatever way. If any of you listen to podcasts, Cariad Lloyd's Griefcast can be very helpful. She's a comedian and talks with other comedians about their experiences with grief. The early episodes especially look at some of the strange but common experiences in living with loss.

    Love to all of you, in whatever form of expression you prefer x

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  5. On 1/16/2020 at 6:17 PM, janetosilio said:

    I understand your point and maybe I’m one of those people that has a fairly easy time shopping. So I’ll try to address your question. 

    Before I do though, I have to get this out of the way. I have to say this because it’s a pet peeve of mine. People tend to come on here and say SL women’s fashion is *****ty, but what does *****ty mean? It’s a serious question, not rhetorical at all. Obviously, I’m aware of people who have avatars wearing a micro-mini dress or just a harness. Forget about them. Where is the ***** line?

    Lets start with jeans. Is it because the jeans are too tight? Is it because they’re ripped? To me those are average women’s clothes and I see them everywhere! I don’t see anything *****ty about tight fitting jeans, same applies to pants.

    Let’s move on to skirts. Remember, throw a micro mini. What’s the appropriate length? Knee? Past the knee? I see various lengths all the time....everywhere.

    Dress? It’s similar to a skirt. Current styles are form fitting, some times they have cut outs on the sides but not always. Sometimes they look like this 


    I don’t see what’s bad about that and I see things like that everywhere. All. The. Time.

    See where I’m going with this?

    So where to shop? You can find stuff at events, but it’s better to shop in main stores. Someone already mentioned Blueberry, but there’s also Just Because and they’re on the same sim. Tetra....CoCo....there’s lots and they’re popular stores.

    This may be considered a little bit of a cheeky answer, but try to stay away from stores with names like smutcoochie and ‘howear.

    Its really that simple.

    That kind of dress, yes. With a few exceptions, the ones I come across tend to be a good bit shorter and have a lot more of the breasts exposed. Speaking for myself (and to some extent for a friend), I like dresses which are long enough to cover my buttocks at least. A bit longer would be better but above knee is fine. Something I would have been comfortable wearing in public when I was younger.

    Recently, I'm seeing cropped sweaters which don't show under-boob. Always having my belly on display would get old, but it's better than the old style of cropped sweater which stopped not far below the nipples. I understand how crop tops avoid mesh clipping, which makes them a useful style.

    Each of my avs has an alright enough pair of jeans, more isn't a priority. Skin-tight, ripped jeans, leggings, those aren't necessarily *****, but they aren't really my thing. Tried on a pair of skin tight ones recently that I liked the waist on, it was higher and no butt crack, but the legs were so tight you might as well be wearing system. I'm not clever enough fashion-wise to find a top which suits that kind of silhouette. Especially when I'd rather not have as much breast on display as the norm in tops has been since fitted mesh for mesh bodies caught on.

    Any suggestions on flat shoes? My plan to make some for myself hasn't come to pass because of poor health.

    And to those giving advice, please be kind. I'm not stupid but my health is lousy enough that every minute I spend shopping is less time and energy I have for friends. I am truly not up to devoting hours to it and my "girl stuff" skills are as lacking in SL as they are in RL.

    I'll look through the stores suggested. Thank you to those who took the time. Not a fan of Blueberry though, the fabrics on the solid-coloured singles tend to be a bit bland and the fatpacks to get the patterned ones are more than I can really justify given my limited income.

  6. On 1/16/2020 at 5:31 PM, Drake1 Nightfire said:


    What?!?! You dont sell ancient greek art as well?!? Well, I wont be shopping at your store, and i am not alone!

    Oh but I do, a lovely black figure terracotta plate (though anything mesh takes 10x as long to make and sells 100x less, which isn't exactly motivation to make more), a couple of Eleusian pieces and the frieze from one end of the Parthenon (labor of love for a friend's birthday, it took FOREVER). And Minoan, Etruscan, Egyptian, Gandharan, Renaissance and Byzantine too. I expect to see you there soon ;)

  7. 8 hours ago, CoffeeDujour said:

    A single SL avatar can easily have more complexity than an entire mobile game scene.

    Just thinking outside the box in case it sparks better ideas....

    What if a mobile app didn't render avatars or moving objects? I acknowledge that I'm biased because I'd love to be able to swing by a couple of MM boards on the tablet and don't need to see my av to do that. It would greatly reduce render load and also some of the sexual-content issues.

    Would something like that be feasible? Maybe with impostered objects?

  8. Much of what I might say has already been well covered by others, so I'd like to shift focus for a moment to point out that the video has a furry couple, a human couple, and a tinies couple so it addresses the issue of what you see on screen isn't what you'll see in real life. Perhaps a bit too subtly for human-in-both-lives people who aren't up on internet caution, but very good for those who feel like their fursona (or other gender avatar, or ....) is a better representation than their real life body. And yay for having a mature couple too :)

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  9. 1 hour ago, Marut72 said:

    Thank you very much. This is the kind of answer I was hoping to find and so super fast. Much thanks.

    Finding Medhue's site was such a help for me. He used to post in the forums often but seems to be busy elsewhere nowadays.

    Good luck and I'm pleased to have been able to help a little.

  10. 17 minutes ago, Alyona Su said:

    Which is another reason the OP suggestion is nonsensical: "Hey! I bought this and the Complexity Number you say it is is a LIE! EVERYONE DO NOT BUY THIS!!!". 

    Adding complexity numbers to merchants presales information; what could possibly go wrong?

    Yeah, that would happen too. And probably more drama than we're able to imagine. No, than I'm able to imagine, you have more skill there than I do :D

    I wonder if there is any number/sum of numbers which would work as a standardized indication of render weight? I'm not creative enough today to puzzle it out, but it would be useful.


    1 hour ago, arabellajones said:

    Long, narrow, triangles used to be a killer for complexity, now it uses a simple triangle count. At least, it seems to.

    I'm used to hearing about long, narrow triangles as a physics issue, complicated by whether or not it's analysed or not analysed on upload. If no one addresses that here (I don't understand it well enough to venture), ask in the mesh creation forum. Someone there will likely be able to help.

  11. 10 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

    This is commendable.

    This, on the other hand, is merely stalkerish:

    And I'd be curious to learn how you "know" this:

    (Fortunately, I can take solace in the fact that you clearly are not speaking of me, as I have no opinions.)

    In all fairness to Prok, what Prok described fits one former forum regular exceptionally well. We know he didn't do anything in SL for years besides stand around on his platform because he eventually took to saying so and it fit with how out-dated his ideas were. It didn't stop him from pontificating at length (he could fill **pages** if he got others to argue with him) and with great self-bestowed authority on practices which were already changing a decade prior, simply because he'd been able to cash out x amount per month during the boom years. His ability to derail threads was impressive, but got in the way of useful conversations about what's going on now. And he always had to have the last word in any exchange, so you can imagine how that worked with Prok.

    Knowing that he didn't have a clue about current happenings made his side of those over-long threads easier to put into context, which lead to less going-in-circles arguments, which lead to less derail, which made it easier to carry on with the useful conversations. I had the idea to look up his store inworld to see what he'd done, in part to appreciate what he had been good at and in part just to ascertain that I'd understood things correctly. Never made it there though.

    Anyway, there's history behind Prok's post.

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  12. 25 minutes ago, Marut72 said:

    Is there another option I am not considering? Or what is the best way to create poses for my specific Signature avatar.

    There is no way to export a proprietary mesh body. You can export the data for the system "shape" you wear (ie the shape sliders) but not a mesh body. The various mesh bodies respond to the slider numbers in different ways so you might benefit from making a system shape that's close enough in key areas to your Signature av.

    Avastar is a Blender plug-in designed specifically for use with SL avatars. It costs some but isn't too dear. Medhue Simoni has good tutorials, free to watch on his site https://www.medhueanimations.com/collections/blender-tutorials, that can give you an idea of what Avastar is like for creating static poses and animations.

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  13. Doesn't computer power figure into it too somehow, like the cost to render for your particular set-up? I think I remember reading somewhere that it wasn't a universal number, so comparisons between the numbers will be misleading if they come from different people.

    (As well as the problems in the formula itself.).

  14. Just to make certain you're aware -

    If it's just the skybox you're not keen on, you can remove the one that's there and add another (as long as it fits in the footprint and LI, land impact). If you bought the land from someone else and they left the skybox there, you might not own the skybox itself. Click on it, choose Edit and you'll see Owner for the skybox.

    If it's a skybox in general that you're not keen on, you can build on the ground too.

    Just a couple of examples where you may be happy to keep the land and change the building.

  15. 16 hours ago, janetosilio said:

    The thing is...is it really an underserved market?

    OK, let's go with this. Let's say that there is plenty of moderate-coverage clothing available. I can attest that I've had difficulties finding it, whereas finding revealing clothing is dead simple. The OP appears to have run into the same thing, others have said similar things too.

    So maybe it's not lack of availability so much as some sort of communication bottleneck.

    Most of the promotional efforts (blogs, front of store, notecard pics, marketing group listings, events, etc) I've come across seem to be targeting the sparser coverage crowd. (Fine, received wisdom is that there are more of them and they're bigger spenders. Great for them but doesn't help others like me.) Another thing I've noticed is how unorganised most of the clothing stores I've been in recently are. Like the creators are just filling the next bay with their latest work and not giving much thought to grouping styles or types of clothing together. Maybe this approach works really well for the heavy shoppers and impulse shoppers who go in for one thing and come out with five. So I'm not criticising it as a way of setting up a store. But whatever the reason is, it can make for a frustrating experience for someone like me who isn't particularly interested in the majority of what they sell.

    Now I know I don't spend enough to be the kind of shopper anyone wants to cater to. But my frustrations are real and they are my usual experience of trying to shop for clothes in SL. As are the frustrations of the OP and others. (And the usual disclaimer, anyone who doesn't want to shop read the posts is free to skip past.)

    At the December Shop & Hop, I saw a much better balance and more things I'd consider wearing. Previous S&Hs, I've felt lucky if I've come away with one or two store names to look into. This was more like five, so perhaps something has changed in recent months.

    So my question for those who find it easy to find all of these stores with more moderate coverage items is - how do you find out about these stores? Is it just a matter of slogging through everything and hoping?

  16. 15 hours ago, Talligurl said:

    Focusing on what you hate sounds like you are trying to get rid of what you hate. Sure many of the posters have done this, but the OP seems very negative to me.

    Yes, it was framed in a negative way but it's still a far cry from your claim that was an "attempt to get it taken off the market".

    I read it as a shout of frustration, another venting thread. We see them often enough on a range of subjects here. Would you consider going back and rereading it with that sort of tone in mind?

    You spoke against it, and with quite strong words. Were you trying to get rid of what you didn't like about it, or was there something else going on?

    On 1/15/2020 at 11:58 AM, Drake1 Nightfire said:

    Its not sounding like she wants it taken off the market, but there is a very definite threat there. A very dumb sounding threat... More of a "I won't shop in your store and neither will the other people you aren't catering to." Which to me is a "well, duh." moment. 


    To point out that there are other customers who want other things is IMHO, silly. Trust me, the merchants know. 

    And here I've been all these years, wondering why I had such a small, niche customer base for ancient Roman art. Welll blow me down with a feather :D:D.

    Anyway, if it doesn't really work as a threat, perhaps it wasn't so much a threat as a cry of exasperation.

  17. 3 minutes ago, Talligurl said:

    Because that isn't how it works. Designers sell what people want to buy, the fact that a certain product is out there means there are people who want to buy it. If you do not want to buy it fine, don't. To go on a rant about it though is an attempt to get it taken off the market, which would mean all those people who want it, would not be able to have it. It is a way of saying that everyone should be just like you. It disrespects the fact that we all are different.

    Get it taken off the market? Please show me where you think anyone has said that. Maybe I'm wrong, but I've read the posts as attempts to point out that there's an underserved market of customers who prefer other things. In other words, respecting and acknowledging difference.

  18. On 1/9/2020 at 3:10 AM, Fauve Aeon said:

    Fun fact...I have set my maturity settings over and over. I’m age verified with payment on file and the settings continue to randomly default to ‘general’. It’s been that way since I joined in 2008. 

    Happens to me too. I just assumed it was a browser cookie thing and it doesn't play well with my security settings. I don't actually know that though.

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  19. Also the trend of selling only bland colours as singles and putting interesting patterns in a very expensive fatpack. Not my cup of tea at all. I don't need or want 36 variations of a single dress. I'd just like some interesting ones. I miss the days when clothing designers were fabric-orientated artists rather than primarily mesh builders.

    Fortunately I got some full perm mesh on a clearance sale, so I can just choose one to texture as I like when I come across a great texture set or fancy something different.

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  20. 2 hours ago, AyelaNewLife said:

    And I wish my parents had the experience necessary to make that judgement when I was growing up.

    This is a really interesting point. I did a fair bit of my growing up before computer games were around, my younger cousins had Space Invaders which is nothing compared to what the next generation had, and games keep increasing in intensity. If I hadn't lost my baby, he would have just turned 12, so very much the age of playing games at friends and wanting them at home too, and there are things about this age-violence-intensity interplay I can only guess at or take advice from others on.

    These experiences must influence aspects of emotion, behaviour and personality (how can they not, everything else does), perhaps wiring in a need for that sort of intensity of experience. Parenting has always been tricky, but with the pace of changes these days it's like a pervasive set of uncontrolled experiments being run on subjects who don't even know they're taking part, much less gave consent.

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  21. On 11/11/2019 at 11:35 PM, Pussycat Catnap said:

    I suppose I have ghosted people and been ghosted.

    "Back in my day" we just called that drifting apart with no need to stand on a podium and make a speech about it.


    Ghosting is better used for a sudden (and unexplained) ending of communication. If you both drift apart, you drift apart. But if someone turns around and refuses to have anything to do with you without explanation after a period of friendship, dating or a relationship, then that's ghosting. Like you're friends one day and blocked the next, without any argument or falling out, or one person in a relationship just stops logging in without any explanation. It's the sharpness of the ending, relative to the dynamics of the friendship/relationship.

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  22. On 11/18/2019 at 11:02 AM, Lureo said:

     In normal life we never dress in all black and long dress like in 17e century.

    17th century men's dress included ruffs, capes, knee length breeches & hose. Please tell me these have come back into fashion at Frank's.

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