Lillie Woodells

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SirLeighBastard wrote: Fear information and the development of fears during childhood: effects on implicit fear responses and behavioural avoidance. Field AP & Lawson J (2003) Children who were told about fictitious monsters by adults developed irrational fears and phobias which impacted their subsequent mental health. ***Call me if you want someone to check under your bed before you retire. That is a very interesting take on the story Maddy told. One thing you might want to consider is context. In what context where the children who developed irrational fears told about fictitious monsters? Was it in an empowering manner such as the way Maddy's parents presented it to her? Or was it in a fear inducing manner, such as a way of getting children to obey by empty threats of vicious creatures or people who do bad things to bad kids? "Eat your peas or the boogeyman is going to get you!" "If you don't clean your room, monsters come and eat the socks they find under your bed!" From what I read, Maddy's dad gave the power into Maddy's hands and imagination. He limited the area in which "monsters" could roam, keeping them in the confines of the door. Maddy may not remember, but it could have easily been a way for her dad to alleviate the fear that most kids eventually develop of monsters, possibly from a sound or odd light shining through the window. I never told my child about monsters, but many kids shows and books have them. His active imagination lead him to think some unknown thing was going to do him harm in the night. His favorite toy was a stuffed duck, so we developed a routine of having "Ducky" check under the bed and in the closet for the "monsters". Ducky ate anything that didn't belong and then they slept soundly. I did the same thing Maddy's dad did; he allowed her to use her imagination but pointed it in a different more positive direction. It’s all in the mind of the beholder really. The negative minded will take only negative away from the story.

Madelaine McMasters wrote: Rhonda, I have no siblings and no kids, so it's difficult for me to give the "Monster Door" experience to others the way my parents gave it to me. I think it would be wonderful for you to "plot" with your granddaughter to delight her little sister and to eventually carry that out into the wild. There is another bit of whimsy I do bring to my surroundings. I carry red stick-on reflective discs in the glove compartment of my car. When I encounter deer crossing signs, I sometimes get out of the car and stick a disc to the tip of the deer's nose. I've been doing this for nearly 40 years, all across the US. I have no idea whether anyone's ever noticed the Rudolphs. It doesn't matter. http://www.amazon.com/Gear-Gremlin-GG321-Adhesive-Reflector/dp/B00CCE63X0/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1451508231&sr=8-1&keywords=round+red+reflectors I do like that those reflectors are made by "Gear Gremlin". ;-). Well, Maddy, either you have passed through my town, or you have a creative kindrid soul out there somewhere.

Tem Haalan wrote: Crikey Maddy, I'm not sure how long ago you changed your avatar badge but this one is almost pornographic... I love it! It doesn't take much to turn you on, does it, Tem? :smileyvery-happy::smileywink:

Well, Maddy, when I said last night that you are one of the finest sorry tellers I've ever had the pleasure to meet, I wasn't just telling stories. Thank you for the beautiful stories, not just the ones you shared here, but for all the stories you've shared since I've met you. And thank you for being part of the fuel of my imagination. Happy 2016 to you and Mac as well.

Madelaine McMasters wrote: Dillon Levenque wrote: MidnightDawn Sapphire wrote: No, you are what we call a "Sweety Pie". A really nice person with a heart of gold. Good grief! Really. I have not words for this. You're just trying to make up for offering me warm root-beer. *pours cold root beer all over Maddy*

Femme Fatale Friday is back in action! Please join us in the Wastelands at Nevermore Park for a night of music and fun. DJ Rapa will kick off the night at 5pm spinning tunes live from Osaka Japan! Nance Brody will play and sing live from 7 -8pm, and Lillie Woodells will provide live vocals from 8 - 9pm. Come join us! http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/The%20Great%20Fissure/30/130/70 

Located in the infamous Wastelands of Second Life, perched precariously near the edge of the Great Fissure, is a tiny parcel of barren dusty land. Old pallets long ago stripped of their prized consignment sit atop whiskey barrels forming a makeshift stage. A huge rusting ancient lighted sign spells out the name of this place “Nevermore”. When the sun sets over the Great Fissure, strange sounds fill the air, foreign melodies and vocals echo across the Great Fissure. The residents know it is Friday. Warriors and mutants make their way across the arid landscape, pausing in their war making, their scavenging, their quests for dominance and survival as they find their way to Nevermore. It is Femme Fatale Friday and the make shift stage comes alive as the ladies share their music with the resident of the Wastelands. Tonight April 10, 2015 DJ Rapa Ton spins an wide-ranging mix of electric tunes live from Osaka Japan from 5-7pm slt. Singer, song writer, guitarist Nance Brody then takes the stage to share her unique style of passionate lyrical storytelling from 7-8pm slt. Vocalist Lillie Woodells follows with an eclectic mix of smoldering, soul searing, songs from 8-9pm slt. Singer, song writer, guitarist Senjata Witt closes down the house with her commanding, dynamic, and almost violent playlist, leaving the stage covered in grit and blood from 9-10pm slt. Don’t be afraid, we only bite when provoked. Come see what it’s all about. We’ll be waiting. http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlif...issure/9/90/70

Susy!!! Hugs ♥♥♥♥ It's so good to see you sissy!

SLtesterL2 wrote: Not celebrities in rl that use SL. Are there people in-world that have a certain skill, hobbie, store, etc. which makes them famous? The only people that come off the top of my head for example are Asri Falcone, Ansch Chung, and I forgot his name, but he was a huge driving force in the sex industry in SL. Also, i'm taking about up-to-date avatars. Not people who were famous in 2007 for example. Thank You There are many incredibly talented residents in Second Life who share what they do freely. It would depend on what interests you. I don't know if they would consider themselves celebrities, but there are many well known live performers, many who have regular gigs.

Porky Gorky wrote: Lillie Woodells wrote: Ewwwwwwwww!!! Can you imagine the breath! :matte-motes-sick: It would explain why he talks so much crap. :matte-motes-big-grin: They also say "You are what you eat"

Porky Gorky wrote: baby Kranfel wrote: Never heard of this "Pep" is it a drink? just wondering Depends.... if you enjoy a nice hot mug of diarrhea....then yeah, it's a drink. :smileywink: Ewwwwwwwww!!! Can you imagine the breath! :matte-motes-sick:

There are a lot of fantastic live performers in SL who might be considered celebrities! Gypsy Quixote Senjata Witt Bluemonk Rau Celticmaidenwarrior Lancaster Mamaa Saiz Bartelby Pegler just to name a few.

JeanneAnne wrote: I had a great time in SL this weekend. :womanhappy: I had been without a computer for 10 days. The new one ~Fenrir~ is wonderful, now that I've got all the settings & preferences about where they need to be. My dsl connection is slow, tho, so I still have lag but I'm finally seeing textures & shadows & fine detail the way I should & it looks gorgeous! I spent mostuv the weekend working on my Winamp playlists. I didn't loose any music when my old computer died but I did loose the way it was all organized, so I mostly worked on that this weekend, w/ SL running in the background. Saturday evening I attended a fundraiser for a Parkinson's cure, DJed by my sister Dream Decosta ~the QueeN of RocK~ & had a wonderful time! She raised lots of L$ for a worthy cause & her tune selection was masterful .. as always! The dance was supposed to be formal & knowing my hippie ways Dream's partner & my dear friend Blue gave me a gorgeous gown to wear. I didn't have time to change into it tho so just went as I was .. wearing a kinda sorta semiformal outfit. It was okay tho .. I'm use2 being underdressed in SL! LOL It was late for me & I was sleepy but made it thru Dream's set & had a great time! Then on Sunday morning I was getting ready to go to DJ Messalina's weekly gospel & blues set @ Riverside Blues club but got an invitation from Hippie Bowman to attend a rezz day party instead. Some of the ppl there I knew from HippieStock 2, some from this forum & some I didn't know. Everyone was friendly & the sim gorgeous! The wonderful Lillie Woodells provided live entertainment. Her voice is luscious & the tunes she chooses are outstanding. Lillie is a superb talent! Then things died down in SL & I worked on my playlists until midafternoon when I got a notice that Rhia Yuhara was performing @ a new ballroom venue called Stork Club. This gave me the chance to wear the very nice gown my sis had given me. Rhia was wonderful, as always, & the hostesses gracious & nice. 2 or 3 couples & 7 or 8 women in gorgeous gowns were dancing alone as Rhia sang. I loved it! ..but where were all the guys? Watching football or playing WoW I suppose. Come on guys .. I woulduv loved to have had a dance partner! LOL I share this cuz I want ppl to know what a nice time I had in SL this past weekend. The music was great, the grafix superb & the friendship & convo interesting & funny. & it was all for free! (Yes, I did contribute to the Parkinson's cure.) What more could anyone ask for ?!? Jeanne Hugs Jeanne!! It was a wonderful pleasure to meet you! I'm so glad you were able to come to the breakfast party Thank you for your kind (if not inaccurate) words.. hehe Lil

You are right Griffin, it is my choice. Just because I don't look at it, does not mean it does not affect me in some way. It's kind of like I explained to the principal at my son's school.. Just because the teacher doesn't see it, doesn't mean it's ok. I am not an unreasonable woman. I've tried to talk to each of those individuals who have been involved. I've been met with varying responses all negative. Contrary to the belief of some, I don't hate anyone, or expect anyone to hate others. I hate bad behavior. I deal with it every day. I hate unprovoked attacks, which is what I've been faced with here.

It's not so simple Griffin.... they show up in trending, so I see my name thrown about there frequently. Should I stop looking at trending? I have also had people IM me about stuff they've seen. It goes beyond the feed as well. As I said, if you'd like to hear my side, I'd be happy to chat with you.

I would be more than happy to discuss this with you in private if you would like to hear the whole story. If not, then don't insert yourself into something that you don't know all the details of.

and what about your friend Griffin? Your friends have regularly berated me, insulted me, called me names, insinuated I was a man in drag, or a slave.. that is by definition bullying.

Griffin Ceawlin wrote: Lillie Woodells wrote: What I refused to tolerate is people who love, support, or condone offensive, hurtful, and abusive words or acts to others. I gather then that you also refuse to tolerate people who regularly call other persons "scum" or who attempt to demean others by calling them "cheerleaders." Lillie Woodells wrote: Condone means: To overlook, forgive, or disregard (an offense) without protest or censure. Here's where you pull out your standard response again that nobody has any idea what you've said to those whose behavior you (should) disapprove of and that it's nobody's business. Right? This is the one and only incident that you and a few others like to keep bringing up. One incident. I had been the target for over a year prior to that incident even taking place. And for the record, regardless of what information I choose to share or not share, that does not give anyone license to do what ever they want to me. There are also rules against harassement in the TOS that are selectively followed and enforced. The only reason Griffin, that you find my response to be "standard" is because it is my consistant response to the same tired old incident you keep bringing up. I will state once more for the record. I did not love or agree with what was said.

On the subjec of bullies. Wednesday I had a meeting at my child's school. I had to meet with officials there to discuss the issues he faces with bullying. He is autistic, and a constant target. The principal told me that I needed to face the facts that my son will be bullied his entire life. This may be the case, but it does not mean that I have to lay down and take it, nor does it mean that I have to accept the bullies as decent human beings. The reason we have adult bullies and child bullies alike is because they are not called into account for their actions. People say things in the heat of a moment, when provoked, or when their real life character is called into question. People may push the boundries in testing someone else's own hypocrocisy.. which was the case Dresden brought up. OThers, find sheer delight in taunting people until they reach that breaking point just to see how far they can take it.

Dresden Ceriano wrote: Lillie Woodells wrote: I have the choice to keep destructive people out of my life. Would you consider claiming a person is a pedophile, when they're not, constructive? Obviously, you only take into account a persons destructiveness when it's aimed at you... if it's aimed at someone you don't like, then that's just fine. I've seen a lot of people treating a lot of people like garbage lately... you and your friends are not immune to creating the same sort of negativity that you accuse these so called trolls and bullies of creating. Which leads me to the point I want to make in response to the OP... one man's troll might very well be another man's hero. It's all just a matter of perspective. Anyone that claims that their's is the only perspective of what's good and what's bad, is purposefully not seeing the whole picture. If my perception is that someone is having a negative effect on my existence, then I will do what I have to do to make sure they no longer affect me that way (which I have recently done with great success). What I won't do is go out of my way to aggravate the situation by accusing anyone and everyone that has any sort of relationship with said individuals of being just as bad as they are... that would be disingenuous. I refuse to attribute my dislike of a person to the people that are accepting enough to find the good in someone that I was too close minded to see. ...Dres You missed when I said this: "By the way, actively agreeing means giving support for some action. Condone means: To overlook, forgive, or disregard (an offense) without protest or censure. (This does not mean that you have to speak out when you see something like this being done, but it means that if you indicate that you find humor or enjoyment in the act, I don't' want to be around you)" What I refused to tolerate is people who love, support, or condone offensive, hurtful, and abusive words or acts to others. I know the incident of which you refer, and which several of your friends continually refer to. I was not home when those words were written and they were gone before I got home. I never saw them, I never agreed with them, I never loved them. You keep missing the point of what I've said. But you're damn right that I don't hhave to accept abusivness aimed at me. Why should I? Someone has their feathers fluffed because I defriended them for loving a viscious and disgusting post that was aimed at someone else.. not at me. If I had loved the post you brought up, I'd not have been surprised if someone had defriended me. But I did not. You have no idea what I said or did not say to that person behind closed doors. It's none of your business anyway. But I have not openly supported vindictive or abusive words or deeds to anyone. This post was made asking the question how we deal with people like that inworld. I answered.

Because I believe every Human Being is of great value and should not be tossed aside like a piece of garbage because they do something other people don't like. I have done things in my life deserving of being thrown out like a piece of garbage but someone was there to help me even when I was at my worst. He told me I was of great value and was a beautiful person even though I was living a life I am now ashamed of. The only thing this person asked me to do in return for his help (which kept me out of jail) was that when I see other people at their worst I show them the same mercy I was shown. I agree Keli, every human is of great value, however, when they treat others like garbage, they lose my respect . When someone is treating someone else with contempt the worst thing one could do is stroke their ego and tell them how wonderful they are. It would be far better to gently point out that what they are doing is destructive. That is just my opinion. It falls back to choice again. They can choose to accept it or ignore it. I have the choice to keep destructive people out of my life.

I was going to stay out of this, but feel compelled to reply. As an adult I have the right and responsibility to choose whom I associate with. If someone harasses me to the point that my SL existence is no longer inviting, I will mute them. If a person is already my friend, and their actions indicate they find humor or acceptance in the harassment of others, I have the choice to remove that one from my friends list, just like they have the choice to behave in that manner. I do not have to accept it. Nor will I. I won't tell anyone what they can or can not do. That is entirely up to that individual, however, I can set my standards out there and say this: "If you actively agree with or condone bullying, griefing, or harassment in any form, then you will not be on my friends list." That is entirely my decision and theirs. If someone dislikes my stance on that, they probably don't want to be my friend anyway. By the way, actively agreeing means giving support for some action. Condone means: To overlook, forgive, or disregard (an offense) without protest or censure. (This does not mean that you have to speak out when you see something like this being done, but it means that if you indicate that you find humor or enjoyment in the act, I don't' want to be around you) It is up to me how I will react to negativity. I can't however control how it initially makes me feel. The control is in when, if, and how I address it.

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