Solaria Goldshark

Ceka Cianci wrote: SinfulPrince wrote: My god I think I love you LOL. Where have you been girl? **APPLAUDS WILDLY. I couldn't have said it better. And while I know there are a fleet of people who will agree with Amethyst, I think what Solaria is getting at really is inferred (at least when I hear it) in the name itself ; SecondLife. She didn't make up that name. Neither did I. It"s creators did. And it smacks of "not your real life", " other than your real life". Other wise they could have just called it Pixel Chat, or The Extention of Life. They however, honest to god , named it "Not Your Life" (if you look at the wording itself) since your life is not a "second" version &already being lived. ....we hope. Maybe our flaw is that we are literalists. do you have a work life and a home life? which one is the real life? both? second life for me is the relaxed virtual life away from the other two..second life just means your virtual life.. it can be as simple as going from real version of you to the toon version..or it can be as fantasy as we want.. why people try to put their limits on others as if they are strange and thinking others are doing it wrong or getting it wrong just baffles me.. like they have it all figured out enough to tell everyone else what it really means here.. someone thinking they have it all figured out for someone else..that's missing the point.. the directions someoe can go in second life is like looking at one of those dots on a map where it say's "you are here" then taking that dot and turning it into a pin cushion of the directions you can go.. the real point is..we will probably need a bigger pin cushion..more than you guys thinking we need a smaller one.. @Sinfull I was not looking for applause. And your last sentence there is spot on. @Ceka Well said. I like the way you put that.

Gadget Portal wrote: ....... you're an idiot. Thank you. I was trying to keep that part a secret, but the cat's out of the bag now.

Madelaine McMasters wrote: Solaria Goldshark wrote: I'd be willing to bet that the best of you take chances, make connections, and form lasting friendships despite any expectations of a person's real life situation. I don't understand the self contradiction here, Solaria. You give a list of wrongs, then say it's all good. It was meant to be contradictory by design. You are first and foremost your avatar, character, story. It's an avatar, a conversation, a story that draws you in. You meet people first as one identity, and then as the other as happens from time to time, a person's real life situation as they choose to share or not to share. Contradictory because I am not a literalist, and know that both parts of the experience can coexist. Many choose a complete separation and many choose no separation, and some can have it both ways. I have always thought that the best part of this nutty social experiment is the way people do meet and connect, and form bonds, and lasting friendships. But the in-world experience for many is contradictory to their real life experience and there are many who can forget this, or choose not to forget this. This whole experience is an exercise in contradiction. and the people behind the scenes are some of the wisest, most caring, funniest, smartest, fun people you can hope to meet. Not always so, but the majority in my experience. In minutes after starting this thread I received an IM in world from someone who began to debate me, I'm not sure if it was really a debate but it went on for quite some time. It was clear to me as the conversation progressed that this person had a few lifestyle issues with people here. I asked this person to post their remarks here, but they had admitted that they had been banned from the forums. (I thank you for your opinions mystery person).

Czari Zenovka wrote: SinfulPrince wrote: Solaria Goldshark wrote: I'll clear my plate for a serving of humble pie if I'm wrong. A dear friend of mine used to say (and have in her profile), "SL is my "do over" - how I would like to live my life if I could do it all again. "SecondLife" to her didnt mean "not real life," it meant "a second chance." We had been friends for 15 years and she had been very ill for most of that time. In the last few years of her life, SL *was* her "life" as she was bedridden; it was her sole outlet for socializing, being the businesswoman she had been in RL, etc. Unfortunately she died last Nov. Thank you for sharing that.

Sassy Romano wrote: I've always maintained that there are two types of people in SL. I classify these into "inny's" and "outy's" and from my experience the two do not mix well. My profile states this clearly and has a simple question which determines quickly which sort they are. "Where are you now and what are you doing?" An inny will typically reply "I'm at a ballroom/beach/shop/whatever and i'm looking at <insert inworld thing>". An outy will usually reply something like "i'm in my office looking out of the window, drinking a beer waiting for SL to rez on my PC". In my classification, inny's are INworld whereas an outy is OUT of world, just using SL rather than being immersed. There's nothing wrong with either but from my personal experiences they just don't mix well....... I'm going to say that the two mix just fine, having experienced both types. For many, the lines may never cross. Others can find a way to shift between both states as the situation requires.

Lynda Baran wrote: Sl is many different things to many different people. For some it's a complete escape into fantasy. For others it become almost an extension of their RL. It's whatever each individual wants it to be, and what makes them happy. And it's no one else's business what that is. And THAT is the point which you obviously miss. Point taken. ....although, that was kinda my point.

danicah wrote: Why are some people ignorant like that? All we did was saying hello, 3 times and we didn't even get a Hello back. I'm glad you said hello....keep doing that. There are many reasons why someone won't answer. What I find amazing is that you actually found another avatar in a store to even get the chance to talk to....either I'm shopping at all the wrong places or everyone is sitting at home shopping on MarketPlace.....OMG did I just describe real life?

Amethyst Jetaime wrote: You've missed the point. Your world Your imagination doesn't mean just you. SL is what the individual using it makes it, whether that's a game, a fantasy roleplay, a business, a social media platform or and extension of their RL. For some people it may be more than one thing. It is also up to the individual to determine how important a person's RL is to them when they form a relationship with them. However the other other person is free to deny any RL nformation or spill their soul out, that is their choice. Actually your post is mostly about judging people then you close with a paragraph about not judging people. Confusing. This is me making room on my plate for a piece of pie. ..and yes. I am judging people, as we all do....we come for one reason or another and end up in the judgment seat. Your confusion is healthy.

There is no nice way to put this: When your real life photo ends up in your SL (avatar) tab, you''ve missed the point. When your focus is on an avatar's real life sex makes you cringe, you've missed the point. When you've lost your ability to use your imagination, you've missed the point. When you make SL a dating service, you've missed the point. When you make this life similar to your own, what's the point? If a sense of escape is not the point, let's shut the whole thing down. If you've been disappointed by your experience, let's shut the whole thing down. If you've been heartbroken and can't go on, let's shut the whole thing down. If you've felt cheated, angry or felt that the world owed you something, by all means, let's shut it down. Grow up dear residents. I'd be willing to bet that the best of you take chances, make connections, and form lasting friendships despite any expectations of a person's real life situation...and the latter being the icing on the cake. The real risk being disappointed on what you might find on the other side. If you are, leave it at the door.....do not judge the pregnant wife, the slave, the wolf, the vampire, the **bleep**, the tranny, the manwhore, the prostitute, the warrior, the saint, the surfer, the slacker, the fashionista, the builder, the players...for they are all us, and we are legion....and we do not make excuses for our fetishes and fantasies, for that is the point. Welcome to the escape. I'll clear my plate for a serving of humble pie if I'm wrong.

Tamara Artis wrote: Some basic logic tells us that if one thing is boring, go and find some other. So what keeps people stuck? What keeps them waiting for things to happen instead of doing something on their own? Attitude or Imagination....or, I should say, a poor attitude and lack of imagination. I'll have to agree with some of what other's have said: the been there done that syndrome, becoming the open the refrigerator syndrome, becoming the lack of time realization that there are much better ways to spend your time. I think the most interesting people are the ones that really understand that this is a playground for the well adjusted, the rest just seem to go over the edge and loose sight of the nature of the beast. ...but, my all time cure for boredom in SL. Open the map, find green dots, click teleport.

bejjinks wrote: So who am I? If people would stop jumping to conclusions and attacking me...... This attitude is about as un-Christlike as you can get, which is the crux of the problem. As it is with so many of the self proclaimed enlightened, if you have to ask if you are, or try to convince others that you are, you simply are not. You invite this upon yourself for the sake of the show, as if to say "look at me....see what I'm doing" Let me try to get this through your thick head. What you probably need to do is take a vow of silence, and actually learn what it means accept people for who they are..as you expect people to to do unto you. I hope you get this. I hope you eventually understand that you are not a victim of attacks, but that you are the cause of your own suffering and confusion. You need to be confident in who you are, without regard for who others are, or choose to be....this is where Christ met people..He met them where they are...and loved them just the same, without fanfare, or cause for attention. Please do no assume that people who live an play In SL have anything but freedom of Religion..they have it in spades. Take some time to learn this. Most are wiser that you assume them to be, and more loving and accepting than you can imagine.

bejjinks wrote: Who am I? I saw this topic, and saw who started it, and said to myself.....'oh no...here we go again'. But the above three words jumped out at me. You could spend a lifetime pondering those three words, but its not words themselves, but the question. One day you may simply be able to say, "I am" with the quiet confidence of a person with an unshakable belief in who they are, balls to bones.

You could sum it up this way: Change Everything Start a thread. Get your answer. Go back and wipe your thread....and change the title while you're at it. Classic. Raise your hand if you think there should be a time limit for an edit.

PudgyPaddy wrote: ......... I wonder what happened to all the grey area.

MoiselleErin Teardrop wrote: Did I miss anything? One question per customer please.....we're swamped with requests around here. Please take a number and have a seat. Thank you.

Rayven Baily wrote: The suggestion of a refund in a 48 hour period to to ensure the store stand by their product.. which right now they really dont have to. Personally, if I had my choice I would rather have the object as presented not the refund. If I wanted the refund. I wouldnt have purchased the product in the first place, but if I sold something that looks different then what I got in a bait and switch.. well I should have the opportunity to get my money back. You're talking about perception of quality. That is not enforceable. We could say you have bad judgment, or you were drunk at the time of purchase and woke up and regretted it. Let me know when you find utopia with 100% safety and a guarantee against being disappointed.

Rayven Baily wrote: If Linden Labs cares (and they should) a standard should be made where a demo of the product should be made available or the cutomer can get their money back in a 48 hour claim . Afterall in the real world I could return the product... why should this be any different? I suppose that would depend on whether or not there was a no refund policy.....It's not much different than your real world purchases. Sometimes you just get plain screwed. Buyer beware. Oh...and the next time you stop by a McDonald's restaurant and order a Bic Mac....compare the picture in the display with the heap of crap piled up in the box. Heaven help us it's a crime! Right? NO!......When is the government going to step in and do something? Jeeze....I really think the lindens have better things to do that make policy over whether or not someone polished up their sales display to put the best face on their product. And even more important is that matter of taste...that same item you call crap might just be someone's perfect cup of tea. It may be a pile of crap, much like a Big Mac, but someone's eating them, and someone is profiting from it. So no....I doubt we'll see governing body policy on either of these anytime soon. (edited for missing word)

I'm saving my tears for random pointless topics.

bejjinks wrote: If you wish to discuss anything with me remember that discussions have rules. If either side of the discussion breaks the rules, it is called dirty fighting or cheating and everyone loses. But if you will stick to the rules of discussion, I am open to discussing anything one on one or in small groups to avoid the presence of dirty fighters. .....uhm, excuse me, but......but..... WTF?

bejjinks wrote: Believe whatever you want. This world was a living Hell before Christianity came about? ....I wonder if Native Americans thought of their world as a living hell before the Europeans invaded. Repeat after me......."I am a dumbass"

Griffin Ceawlin wrote: Brilliant post.

Uhm.....excuse me please. I'm trying to land bish. .......and the profile said: " yes i been in SL before and i know and lots of stuff too." Everything except what the landing point is! This went on for ten minutes as avatar after avatar attempted to land. At first I wanted to scream because I was the one caught in the spin cycle, and eventually made it through (me..camera left). But after a while it just became funny. Share some levity. :)  

Just say no to drugs! ~ Nancy Reagan 

Alishen wrote: Lesson of the story,if you are new..and you "Hide" a prim part of your body we can all see it if we turn on highlight transparent... The lesson of the story is you had a good laugh at his/her expense....and even worse by making your experience public here. bravo. the real "ding a ling" here is you. I'm sure you did the whole grid a public service by pointing out that female avatars wear prim willies...surprise, surprise, avatars who do that have both male and female drivers. .......and sometimes cats pose as dogs. and humans as vampires, and f***tards as public servants. Peace, love, and bunnies. enjoy your SL

MiaSnow Myriam wrote: I really am wondering what other people think regarding this topic. Please share your thoughts! Annnd, where is SL now? I find it difficult to guage why people log in SL these days. I'm thinking about only using the Marketplace to sell my wares. As I was reading all these great responses it occurred to me that maybe you haven't asked the right question. If you find it difficult to gauge why people log into SL, then perhaps THAT should be the question. Asking why people come to SL Might be a more effective gauge than asking for opinions about where people think SL is headed. I'm constantly amazed by the things people create here, and it gets better everyday. Personally I'd be very sad to see the in-world store close the doors and sell exclusively on marketplace, but I can understand why merchants do that. I want to be out and about and fully engaged in the virtual, not sitting isolated on a sim and shopping on marketplace. I want to see it in the flesh (so to speak). It's not just what you're selling, but the presentation, the environment you create to surround your wares that is just as important. I guess I just want to keep the experience of the fully virtual immersion alive as much as possible. The thing that always makes me laugh while I'm out shopping are those avies that run through the stores like they have a deadline to meet. For them, maybe the marketplace is a better option.