ToughCookie Panache

I'm kind of in love with how this thread is progressing. So much genuine support, but with snark. Perfect.

Wow. This is a wealth of exactly the kind of information I was hoping for. About to log in and follow a few more leads. Thank you all again.

Pro-tip: we usually call ourselves women.

No, *you* just woke up from a nap. And I have the Boston albums, but on vinyl, because covert art, duh! googling the laughing with tears emoji

I totally failed at getting my point across. Age can be an incredibly important thing to know, especially for anyone who identifies as a woman. I got lucky. I guess what I mean to say is that there are a lot of ways to suss out someone's age ( like writing 'suss out') without having to summon the spoons to be brave or bold. It just takes time.

Gasp! So it's really we olds who need to keep an eye out for you sneaky kids with a modicum of cultural exposure and taste! Honest answer though - I never went looking for people my age. I went looking for stuff I like -MST3K in my case, and looked for people I thought seemed witty. I didn't know anyone's age or gender, and by the time I learned just who my partner was, it didn't matter.

Thank you! I know there's a lot of bad ... everything going on, and I'm really trying to share any piece of good I can find. Optimism doesn't come naturally to me.

That's a perfect description of anxiety. Social anxiety, in particular. There is absolutely nothing "crazy" about this issue or this question. Human brains can get weird. We do our best.

So, I had recently posted that I was away from SL for a while. What I didn't mention was that it was because I had visited, fallen even more in love with, and started to make a life with a partner I met here. It's been 8 years. I'm so happy I kind of disgust myself. N.B. - Life is weird. Be yourself.

This is the best possible first response. I feel so old. It's ok though - I can do this. Probably

This is such friendly and useful advice. Thank you all ?

I joined SL forever ago and was super fashionable, but it's been at least half a decade since I've gotten back in here and updated my look. I'm so lost. Mesh heads are a thing? All my old jewelry is flashy and tacky and everything has a million more prims than allowed. Help!