Madelaine McMasters

Hippie Bowman wrote: valerie Inshan wrote: This one would be perfect for Maddy!!! :matte-motes-evil-invert: OMG! HAHAHAH! Almost spit coffee on my keyboard! Whew! Peace! ... swoons!!!!

I hadn't seen her before. I've been attending Moth storytelling hours in Milwaukee, as well as Ex Fabula. Ordinary people get up on stage and, for five minutes, tell extraordinary stories. One of these days I'll tell one. And there is also NPR's Three Minute Fiction. Wonderful stuff. So much to do, so little time.

Ima Rang wrote: Madelaine McMasters wrote: Ima Rang wrote: Maybe you could post a pic of the female avatar you used so we can all see what a man magnet looks like in the pixel. Is this a pictorial commentary of what you think about the OP or the male gender, or both? It's self referential. Do you see anything magnetically attracted to me?

Ima Rang wrote: Maybe you could post a pic of the female avatar you used so we can all see what a man magnet looks like in the pixel.

Good morning, Hippie!

Kezio wrote: Syo Emerald wrote: We just notice that you seem to be the only one who expieranced this...or at least describe it like that. I can in fact run around like a tramp and there would be nearly nobody who starts to talk "dirty" in IM. I get compliments every once in a while and sure, on adult sims sometimes a direct question for sex...but thats it. And I have never meet anynone who described it has bad as you did and not even once in all the years did I heard such things you say. So this doesn't speak for a general behavior at all. Do you know what I think? You are way to thin skinned and see every dumb flirt as asking for sex and harassment. There must be a reason why your experiances differ so much from anyone else. This screams for a fieldtest I would say..... I wonder if things were different between the years 2007-2009 thats when i had my female avatar and all the unwanted attention.I dont know what its like now for female av users because ive been a guy since last year, things maybe have calmed down now, back between those years i think there were a lot more people inworld, many of places i used to hang out back then are now empty. I arrived in SL in early 2008, with the hope of getting hit on. Although I'd yet to learn what a profile was and so had a blank one, by day two a companion had found me. Over the two and a half years we were together, she got hit on much more than I did. Even so, I don't think she ever got hit on as much as you recall. There was a time when it seemed like we were hit on every time we went shopping at naughty stores, so we switched to exploring other places. There could be any number of reasons for these differences. I got hit on more when I was a noob, perhaps because I was a noob. That would have made me more attractive to amorous veterans looking for someone over whom they'd have an advantage. There were many more people entering SL back in 2008, so the noob population (which you might expect to be more gregarious) was probably larger. SL's aggregate retention rate is now negative and I'd not be surprised to see that the SL demographic, like the US RL demographic, is greying. We have our circles of friends and don't bed hop like we once might have. The moment I leaned how to flesh out my profile, I did. I expect that reduced interest in me, as I claimed then, as now... Born on a sultry summer's eve in 1970, I was home schooled in the 1940s. I have never owned a TV. I love: Feynman, Twain, Earhart, J.S. and PDQ Bach, Frost, and Grappelli and Reinhardt "Scopes", including tele, micro, stetho and most of all... oscillo. Yes, I look this good in RL. Don't we all? In the five years since creating that profile, I've been hit on more by Feynman lovers than potential lovers. Don't underestimate the power of a profile.

Kezio wrote: I had no intention of upsetting anyone by asking the original question male or female, so if it has annoyed anyone then it wasnt meant. I havent checked out this forum for a long while and hadnt known that the question had already been answered many times. As for being annoyed at the first few responses, thankyou for explaining why in a better way, sometimes i find it hard to express exactly what i mean, but i felt like i was being made fun of for asking what i did, and i thought that was unecessary and hurtful, i dont think anyone likes being made fun of in a public place. Kezio, I've been online for a very long time and I've learned that anonymity is a double edged sword. For better or worse, you'll have to grow a thicker skin to participate in venues like this. Fortunately, having a thick skin does not deny the pleasure of delivering a gentle touch. I think people sometimes confuse satire with sarcasm. While I can enjoy making fun of ideas, I don't enjoy making fun of people. I enjoy making fun with them. That said, I do enjoy mock sarcasm and hope that if you're ever the target of mine, you'll see the affection behind it. The surest way I know to put a smile on my own face is to put a smile on yours.

I have a sugar-mommy alt that holds my payment information. I don't think I've ever teleported her, so she gets pushed from info-hub to info-hub as they vanish from the grid. I have another alt I originally created for a long-time online friend I hoped would follow me to SL. He was smart enough to demure, leaving Snugs to haunt me for the last five years. I've used Snugs to set couples poses and to aid in making machinima. I haven't actually made one yet, so Snugs' value as an aid is questionable. To my consternation, Snugs is better liked by many of my friends than I am. For that reason alone, I don't recommend creating alts.

Caitlin Tobias wrote: Kezio wrote: Caitlin Tobias wrote: Syo Emerald wrote: Oh, let me guess you are a student and you have to finish some work for school? You beat me to it....So the next question will be how much hours per week/day we spend in SL. Or if we spend real money and how much, where we live, if we consider our avatar a real identity.....and so on. I find your reply rude and unnecessary to my question of male or female. You deliberately answered in such a way as to cause grief or anger to the OP, myself. I asked a simple question, so if you cannot answer in a nice polite manner then please dont answer at all. Really? I mean: really? I cause grief and anger? LOL. You better step away from the computer and have a nice long walk in the fresh air. Seriously. Also, once you post something in a public forum, people can and will reply, and not all will be rainbows and butterflies and agreeing with you. Caitlin, the OP was a question, not a statement (other than claiming that SL is "the place to be what you like"). So I don't see anything to agree with, or not. It seems to me Kezio was annoyed by your presumptuousness. Kezio, while I appreciate politeness, I wonder if requiring it is productive. Your question has been asked countless times in the forum, and we all wear different amounts of jade. In answer to your question, and as a demonstration of my own personal way to annoy... I play a female in both RL and SL. ;-)

Qwalyphi Korpov wrote: Madelaine McMasters wrote: Qwalyphi Korpov wrote: This place is A bad place A sad place A terrible place to live I tried to find an old SL machinima of a disabled man who found physical freedom in SL. Sadly, it eludes me. No doubt this can be a sad place Qwalyphi, but I hope that this has also been a happy place, a fullfulling place and a wonderful place for some to live. To those for whom it has been as you describe, I can only offer... ...hugs. oh... not in-world, not that place. .

Qwalyphi Korpov wrote: This place is A bad place A sad place A terrible place to live I tried to find an old SL machinima of a disabled man who found physical freedom in SL. Sadly, it eludes me. No doubt this can be a sad place Qwalyphi, but I hope that this has also been a happy place, a fullfulling place and a wonderful place for some to live. To those for whom it has been as you describe, I can only offer... ...hugs.

Ricky40 wrote: Just curious about what age most people make there avatars? Is the way you dress and play your avatar the same age as you in Real life or younger? Especially I guess I'm the fashion sense I am wondering. You'll have to take my word for it, but I dress my avatar about the way I dress my 43 year old RL body, or how I would if I weren't working in the yard. I do not drive my RL tractor in dress pants and a gorgeous sweater as shown at the moment in my forum badge, but I would buy a new tractor wearing that kind of outfit. As for whether I play my age? No. It seems I don't do that in RL either.

I don't think I've ever met anyone cool who hasn't done something dumb and therefore understands the futility (and perhaps the questionable morality) of hating dumb people. If you are speaking of dumb as an intellectual deficiency, I think compassion would be appropriate. If you are speaking of ignorance, wouldn't it be more productive to reduce their number by educating them? And like me, how do you know you aren't one of them? As for being "more like" others., we're a widely varied bunch. If you were more like all of us, you wouldn't be like any of us.

Oh yeah? Well what if common sense and a sense of humor are different things moving at the same speed? How's that dance for ya?

I saw a few episodes of the Tom Baker iteration of Dr. Who while in college and liked it. But I also prefer Curly Howard over his brother Trevor, so I might be an outlier.

Alicia Sautereau wrote: As i`m not a native english, maybe in this case it`s both If it sounds funny in my head i say it, must have mixed or mislabled the catagory more then a few thousand times this year alone :matte-motes-bashful-cute-2: Sarcasm Satire Mix it all with some selfspot Dry english type humor with a touch of dutch and mix it all up even better Admit it fails most of the time and people think i`m weird :matte-motes-wink-tongue: I greatly enjoyed Dutch humor when I visited The Netherlands in 1993. Is selfspot self deprecation? I've not heard that term before. You live in SL, you are weird.

Look who the cat dragged in!

Theresa Tennyson wrote: As humanity has expanded the area of "civilization" many wild animals have had their population decline dramatically but there's one big exception - the coyote. Coyotes are actually more widespread now than they ever have been. I heard someone describe the reason for their success by saying, "Coyotes never get into a fight they can't win." Makes sense to me. Theresa, I've got coyotes in my neighborhood. They followed the geese, which no longer migrate because the winters are now so mild. I love to hear them howl in the evenings. Some years ago I listened as the howling started south of me and drifted north across more than a mile. I know the howling can be both a gathering call and warning to other family groups, though I can't say I can't tell which of those I was hearing, perhaps it was both. During one of the cycles, a neighborhood dog, some yippy little thing, got in on the act. The coyotes immediately went quiet. I don't know for certain, but I like to think they were listening intently to the little snack advertising its location. The neighborhood has lost a few pets over the years. The coyotes do indeed win.

Alicia Sautereau wrote: I`m notorious for making bad jokes with a grain of sarcasm or totally not understandable The title just asks to not disagree with something and duh, i know ofcourse most get along with most others while not always saying what they think, i`m doing that most of the day here :matte-motes-wink-tongue I disagree about disagreeing just for the sake of the dot: I love to play devil's advocate, though she usually cringes when I do. Years ago I attended a workshop on "brainstorming". The facilitator stood up in front of the group and laid out the rules of game, starting with "There is no such thing as a bad idea, so toss them in, no matter how whacky." I immediately put up my hand. She called on me and I said "There are countless bad ideas, and your stating otherwise won't make us somehow willing to aire them." We all learn appropriate social behavior and we all have thoughts that are totally inappropriate to express publicly. I can sit across the meeting table from a fellow with a horrific comb-over without telling him it's just icky that he's stooped to using ear hair to get the job done. I figure such things take care of themselves in the long run. But when I think my opinion can advance the conversation, I'm happy to voice it. As for your sense of humor, it may be like mine. Is it sarcasm or satire you employ? I often hear people say they love sarcasm when it's actually satire they enjoy. Satire attacks an idea, sarcasm attacks an individual. I recently heard a radio discussion on this topic. I grew up in a family that hurled "unsults" at each other. Our banter would appear sarcastic to outsiders until they caught the wink in it all. According to the radio program, this sort of banter is common to males, which gives me yet another reason to peek under my skirt for a double check. Maybe we need a word for fake sarcasm? Because I do love to tease, I try to make my affection clear, though not so much so that people get cavities.

Alicia Sautereau wrote: Disagree The ones who get along with every one else are the insecure ones who don`t dare to speak their minds for what ever reason, sheeple I know more than a few bright, confident people who get along very well with others. They may be imposing characters, but they are respectful, they listen, and they are not afraid to change their minds. And they do not look down on people who change theirs, which is what allows others to engage them without fear of humilation. There are, of course, people who back down too easily... and we all suffer for it. Confidence does not guarantee wisdom. Wisdom doesn't ensure confidence. Oh what a pleasure when both come together.

Staralien wrote: And everyone has one. The world is made up of many different kinds of people, from all walks of life, backgrounds, moral fiber, etc. Just because you don't agree with someone doesn't make them wrong. Unless of course they killed someone or stole something or are just a piece of crap that treats others like a piece of crap. Then it becomes questionable. Some people you.. Just. Don't. Like. Period. Doesn't make them a bad person, just means there is a conflict of personalities. Seems like the ones who get along in the world best are the ones who keep their opinions to themselves. All of us who post here just are not like that. :matte-motes-big-grin: Just my two pennies! Have a great day/night! I suppose people who keep their opinions to themselves might get along, but I wonder where they end up. I think it's quite possible to get along with people while still expressing your opinion. You simply do so civilly and you listen while others express their opinions, always with the goal of learning. I agree that my not agreeing with someone doesn't make them wrong, but I can disagree with someone because they are wrong. The trick then is to make my case clearly while allowing the other party to come around without losing face. We all make mistakes, we all get things wrong. There should be no shame in learning. Similarly, I rarely find myself in a position of such certainty that I can discount the other party's opinion. So, I state my position and the reasoning behind it and then I listen. And it's not uncommon to discover something new as a result.

I'm gonna guess that newborn Son hasn't feel unappreciated over the years, Imatest. I thoroughly agree that expecting a return on investment is a recipe for sadness. I can be powered through a day simply by the smiles I see on other people's faces. Knowing I'm able to put them there is satisfying, and actually doing so, I could argue, is self serving. If there's one thing I'm still learning, it's to graciously accept appreciation when I get it. It's as if I've gone a too far in setting no expectations. When someone gives me the gift of a thank you or a compliment, it can feel uncomfortable. But that's my problem. It's hardly fair to deprive someone else of the pleasure of putting a smile on my face.