ok you guys i got it! thank all of you for your help. at one time i was a big creator and i just fell behind with the new mesh stuff. Blender - Using the Decimate Geometry tool to reduce triangle count on a skinned mesh – Sansar | Help - Support, Community Forums, and Knowledge Base. This is what helped me the most and now i can create better stuff without a stuffed bunny costing 10 prims LOL.
AGAIN THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH! you guys are the best