My advise is to stop wasting money on things you don't understand. I know how hard it is to understand how things work right now, but take your time and read, try demos and read. I know how confused I was with sizes and other thing - shapes. I didn't know what it means. Then skins, then heads. Then separate skins for heads and bodies. I was thinking i will never get it. But you'll get to the point to buy a mesh body, then head, then skins and other stuff.
And for the women's private parts - I never thought I should buy such thing. But now I have the V after doing some researches and... s