I can't help OP with their request, but I completely understand where it comes from. Just like it's nice to have friends who are interested in the same television series as you it is great to find people who have similar lives as you because there is just a connection there that others won't get. I fully support the LGBTQ community but I don't live it so in that sense I'll never fully understand the some things that many LGBTQ people just accept as a part of life. My frame of reference can only relate so far, as does everyone's.
Some people here are really misconstruing what OP meant. I didn't read it as she's adverse to being friends with anyone, or visiting a place because of race or orientation, just that they would like to know/find a place that's 100% inclusive to their identity. Nothing wrong with that.