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MayaSmit

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  1. Interesting discussion everyone. I've enjoyed reading people's opinions. My view of SL is that it's an amazing virtual world where everybody has the opportunity to explore or become a version of themselves they wish to be or always been curious about. Whether that's a different gender, race, height, species, age, etc. I think everyone can agree that's a wonderful thing! And equally, in order to immerse yourself in this identity/fantasy/role, you can choose how much or how little of your RL information you want to share. And that should be respected. Lets face it, the only real issue is for the guys (and its usually guys, but not always) who are using SL as a dating service, and hoping to eventually take whatever SL relationship they're in to their first life! Because if that's not the case, it's pretty irrelevant what is behind the computer screen. Your pixels are interacting with another set of pixels, that you find attractive or interesting to engage with, and that's all that counts really. I appreciate not everyone might be as open-minded about this as me, but it's a shame if you're not, because SL is way more fun without these hang-ups! Trust me. One thing that I think some people like TT might not fully understand, is that part of being immersed in a role/identity is how other people view you. So that's part of the appeal. Understanding how it feels in another body/shape/identity when people interact with you and view you as that.
  2. These protests have been a legitimate attempt to address ongoing failures in the US for a reform of police practices and the broken criminal justice system. So while we should certainly condemn the few idiots who resort to violence, it doesn't make sense to turn against the overwhelming majority who deserve our respect and need our support. Let's not forget the snapshots we see in the media never paint the complete picture/ tell the full story.
  3. I am British and I'm 100% supporting Black Lives Matter. Sadly in our world racism is systemic and transcends national boundaries.Although racism exists against other minority groups in this country too, and I have and will support movements against that, it doesn't detract from the importance of what's happening right now. I don't feel I need to pick and choose between the issues. My support for BLM will take the form of RL action, but SL is a social platform inhabited by real people so it isn't surprising that important RL issues spill over into this world. I don't think anyone is forcing you to get involved, so the respondents who say they use SL as escapism to get away from RL, ok that's your choice and that's absolutely fine. But I don't think there's anything wrong with people who want to show a little solidarity through wearing a t-shirt in-world or whatever as a small token. Personally, in the past I have been guilty of collusion through being passive, so I'm now trying to do more to support those who don't share my privilege, by listening, understanding and acting/speaking out when it is hopefully appropriate and helpful to do so.
  4. Ugh, that sucks. Hope they resolve this quickly for you @happycaroline! Also hoping other aspects of your introduction to SL are going more smoothly
  5. For bodies, check out and try demos for: Maitreya Lara, Belleza Freya, Slink HG and Legacy. For heads, test out: Catwa, LeLutka, LAQ, Logo and Genus. I mainly use Maitreya body and Catwa head, but also Slink HG for curvier looks and LAQ head.
  6. @BrittanyNicoleSteuart Who do you contact if you want to become a demon? 😈
  7. You do sound like my jittery old cat! 😃 Yes I do think you're worried over nothing really, but I know it's easier for some more than others and we're all very different (I'm sure you're not alone in how you feel). I'd be very happy to chat with you in-world and learn more about your interests.You sound like an interesting person with a lot to offer!
  8. Alwin must be wearing some pretty thick socks today, as that alleged "little nice core" is certainly being very well hidden 😄 (jk)
  9. I love in-jokes! I hope to be part of one someday.
  10. Thanks @Raysa Jolbey. I hope people can see my comments were made to enlighten not to attack or critique anyone! I know in the past I have been guilty of being ignorant (not that anyone here has!) to certain things and it has really helped when someone has gone "ok, but have you thought about it this way?", so that's all I was trying to do here! ❤️ Happy self-isolating everyone!!! 😀 *smacks her head repeatedly against a wall through sheer boredom*
  11. https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/30/why-im-no-longer-talking-to-white-people-about-race I'm just going to leave this here then move on. Feel free to read if you wish. Peace love and respect to all!
  12. Sorry Alwin, but this is where I feel people sometimes need to check their privileges. The point you're making isn't the same. White people aren't a minority group. The LGBT community is, but no LGBT person would have to ask where to find a predominantly white LGBT group because they're all predominantly white (apart from maybe the furry ones! lol ;)). It's like when you hear straight white people saying that racism and homophobia doesn't exist anymore. No disrespect, but you're not in a position to judge or make that assessment. I wish the world was perfect, free from intolerance and discrimination, so that we wouldn't even need to have this conversation. But sadly it isn't, and the reality is that there are still groups being marginalised and prejudiced against in our society, and so I don't feel it is right to dismiss the need for a safe familiar space where people from those communities can speak with others who have shared experiences.
  13. I totally get that some people are coming at this question from the "This is SL! Colour, race, sexuality and gender shouldn't matter here!" perspective, and understand that this is well intentioned. However, it makes sense that some people would like to find a community of residents with shared RL experiences who can maybe relate better to their frame of reference. It's not necessarily a bad thing. ❤️
  14. Sorry if I'm stating the obvious but have you tried group searches? You can find plenty of LGBTQ+ friendly communities in the destination guide. That might be a good place to start? I know there's a Transgender Resource Centre that has an in-world meeting spot. Maybe other places like this? Soul Vibrations Dance Club used to be a popular destination for the black community of SL, but haven't been for a long time so not sure now.
  15. Haha, wow! You replied 5 years later? That's so impressive 😂 I recommend Dirty Voice Talk Sex Lounge . It's 500L to join but one of the best places in SL for adult chat and voice fun!
  16. That's good to hear! I really think residents need to be more open-minded when it comes to unsolicited IMs from other residents/noobs. I realise that sometimes it's SLex pests trying to get lucky, but there's also a lot of socially awkward people out there who feel more comfortable making virtual connections from behind the safety of their screen. Not everyone's intro game is that strong! So I'll even give people the benefit of the doubt when their opening line is a "Hi" or a "How are you". There's nothing to lose really. It takes a couple of seconds to respond, and if the conversation doesn't develop, goes somewhere unpleasant, or it's clear there is't a connection, then simply say goodbye and block the user if necessary. I think it's worth it for the occasions when it could turn into a friendship/something more. I'm aware a lot of people use SL as an escape and are happy to hide away in their skybox listening to music, editing pics, designing, scripting or whatever. And nobody is under any obligation to do anything they don't want. But for me there's an element of etiquette/politeness in not totally ignoring someone, and not approaching every interaction with an eye-roll and a "here we go again" attitude. Although I identify as an introvert, I'm also a TYPE 9 personality and a social person in both worlds! In RL I live in a big city where everyone is sceptical/fearful/indifferent to each-other so I definitely feel more comfortable initiating a conversation with strangers in SL. If I see an interesting looking avatar or read an interesting profile then often I'll be happy to say hello and comment on whatever it is that captured my interest. I'd say I spend roughly 50% SL time alone and 50% with friends/other people, and the moments spent with others are generally more rewarding. I'd be curious to hear the ratio for other people and if they agree? 😊
  17. I use Maitreya Lara as it's what my friends recommended. I'm perfectly happy with the shape and love the clothing options for it. I also find the HUD user-friendly and easy to operate, which is a big bonus for a relative technophobe like me! I've enjoyed seeing the love for Slink in this chat as I must say I also really like the Slink bodies, both Physique and Hourglass. I bought Physique for an Alt but got frustrated with the lack of clothing items so have purchased Hourglass too. I'm a bit of a hypocrite as I mostly use Maitreya, but I really hope clothing designers keep providing options for other bodies (Belleza, Legacy and Slink at least!) as I want to see a variety of body shapes and sizes out there and would hate for one company to monopolise the market. ❤️
  18. Hahaha. I have too many friends! Often when I log on I get several IMs popping up and I end up stuck in IM chats for ages! SO how did this happen? There's been some great advice above about pursuing your own interests and you'll naturally find people with whom you'll share common passions. Places where I've met people = clubs, beaches, stores (just browsing or trying on demos, picking up gifts, playing lucky letters etc), RP sims, chat sims, gaming sims. I met loads of people when I DJ'd for a while and also when I was a dancer at a club. Another good way is simply from speaking on group chats. I'd say going to social hang outs like beaches and clubs is a good start. Although (just like in RL!) you can't expect someone to want to be your friend just because you say hello. If you like a particular type of music (rock, jazz, blues, dance, electro, live music) then seek out clubs/events with that music as you know you've already got something in common with the other people there. I enjoy speaking in public chat, so sometimes if I say something funny or that resonates with someone else, they'll message me. And visa-versa if someone says something I like or someone sounds like a cool/fun person who I'd like to get to know more. This doesn't always lead to a friendship, but it can do! As for being bored on SL I get how that's possible, although you're essentially just limiting yourself/being limited by your own imagination! There's always something to do! If I log on and none of my friends are around for a chat, I might look for freebies/group gifts, go on a hunt, play some games, work on my avatar, clean out my inventory, check out some good photo locations/take some photos, explore a new sim or event. I hope some of that is helpful. SL can be really fun and there's plenty of friendly people around. I guess that, like in RL, you can't force it. Have fun, do your thing..and the rest will hopefully follow. xxx
  19. Yep, I'm having all these issue. I can't remove interests, I can't delete pics from my feed, and I can't change my profile picture. What a hot mess this is. 😡
  20. Having exactly the same problem and yes it's with interests that have the "/" character. Was there any resolution/solution to this?
  21. Great thread! Thanks guys. This is where I'll be pointing all my male friends in SL who complain about a lack of clothes options for men.
  22. Thanks @janetosilio I don't understand the tribalism with bodies or heads either! Diversity is the spice of life! I think it's in everyone's interest to have a few different popular options in each category to encourage designers to make clothes fitting them all and keep the options/differences/uniqueness of avatars alive! ❤️
  23. I'm about to invest in my first bento head. I absolutely adore a couple of the LAQ ones I've tried on, but I've had a couple of people tell me not to get them and opt for Catwa instead as there are so many more accessories available for it etc. There are a couple of Catwa heads I've tried that I also like and with a bit of tweaking I'm sure I could get to look the way I want. I'm just curious whether other people agree that the difference in available options for Catwa is SOOOO great compared to those for LAQ (or even LOGO or Lelutka)? Like I say, the Catwa heads are perfectly nice, but it does bother me when one designer's product becomes the industry standard (Like Maitreya used to be...so even though I use the Lara body, I'm always pleased to see clothes fitting Belleza, Slink and TMP too). If anything, the dominance of Catwa makes me want to support another designer and ensure that Catwa doesn't monopolise the Bento head market as this is negative to consumers and will limit choice.
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