Kiera Clutterbuck
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16 hours ago, Love Zhaoying said:17 hours ago, Kiera Clutterbuck said:
Sometimes I'm afraid to post anything when I see how easily we misunderstand each other. We only see the misinterpretations when someone speaks up, but what are those who stay silent sometimes thinking!? 💀
Oh well........
Some people get so upset by misunderstandings that they leave (or threaten to and finally do, for awhile). I bet you can learn to deal with it (not leave, etc.)!
This is my utterly sincere advice. Here's what I do (and I post a lot - more than these recent people cluttering up things): If I realize that it's really one or a few people who either misunderstand me, get upset because they think I misunderstood them, "that's not what I meant" - or any variation: I mentally filter out those people's posts, don't read all their posts, try not to reply to their posts - and even go so far as to reply but ignore (not read) their response.
This weird tactic has helped me a lot. Your mileage may vary!
Thanks,
Love
I appreciate your advice.
Upon further reflection, I suppose it's better to speak and be misunderstood than to not speak at all, eh?
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I'm not on a diet now so I can eat all the candy I want!
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5 minutes ago, Han Held said:
"anything you post to the forum can and will be used you in a future flame war"
Sometimes I'm afraid to post anything when I see how easily we misunderstand each other. We only see the misinterpretations when someone speaks up, but what are those who stay silent sometimes thinking!? 💀
Oh well........
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8 minutes ago, Cate Foulsbane said:
For me, RP is pretty much what I do every day in SL. I appear to be an adult woman in her mid to late 20's, able to do amazing things with landscaping, able to fly and transport herself here and afar, able to dance for hours , able to sail boats and create objects out of nothing. My RL self is a house=bound, elderly woman who can't dance, can't run, no longer drives, can't move earth, and so on. The SL me is the RP of what I wish I could do but can't. Maybe that's not so different from an adult becoming, virtually, a carefree child again.
I'm happy that you can find such joy here!
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54 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:
I could have been contacted in IM to remove the post.
Perhaps I should have messaged you privately, Seicher. I didn't have confidence that you would respect my feelings however.
Laugh at me all you want but I really was triggered. This recent photo (of a woman in strap-type clothes in a submissive pose with her backside supporting a cup of hot coffee being offered to someone) was the last straw for me. Previously you posted a D's photo where the woman had a ball gag in her mouth, posted to some older guy, and you seem to be much younger, and you were flirting with him. All these incidents spell "abuse" to me. I was triggered in every sense of the word.
Really, haven't women been silenced and abused enough in life? I knew a girl in SL who was quite harmed by this lifestyle.I don't believe I'm the one who dragged this on and on, rather you can't accept how I perceive these photos. I don't think either one of us will change, so best we not communicate any further.
Sex-game photos really should not be in the General section of the forum.
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I just want all the candy, that somehow never makes it out to the trick-or-treaters!! Good thing in SL it's copiable candy.
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7 minutes ago, Katherine Heartsong said:43 minutes ago, Kiera Clutterbuck said:
Isn't pain required though? Please, educate me on your ways of BDSM as I am obviously uninformed.
No, it's not. Welcome to BDSM tropes 101.
Perhaps those on the forum, or even in SL, generally have a different flavor of BDSM? Because on the internet sadomasochism is a big part of it, and it's labeled as erotic too:
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2 minutes ago, LittleMe Jewell said:5 minutes ago, Kiera Clutterbuck said:
I indicated feeling triggered over the photo, and question its appropriateness in the General section of the forum.
When I saw the photo, my very first thought was that it was simply a different take on the "Kim Kardashian champagne butt' photo.
My mind never even went to anything sexual or BDSM related until you mentioned it.
I believe it's the string-type clothing, often (but not always) associated with BDSM photos I've seen, that gave me the impression. As well as the coffee mug being hot and causing burns.
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2 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:
smh at ignorance
Where have I indicated hate? I have no hate.
I indicated feeling triggered over the photo, and question its appropriateness in the General section of the forum.
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19 minutes ago, LittleMe Jewell said:
It is a well insulated cup, that holds all heat in and does not let the outer part of the cup get hot. I have tons of such cups in my house.
Isn't pain required though? Please, educate me on your ways of BDSM as I am obviously uninformed.
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Just now, Coffee Pancake said:3 minutes ago, Kiera Clutterbuck said:
I rather think my houseguests would call emergency services if I carefully crawled from the kitchen to the living room to serve their coffee on my backside.
They key is preparation and practice. It serves no one if the coffee ends up on the floor or someone gets burnt or scaled.
I'll get right to it, Coffee, as I am avoiding my work this fine Saturday.
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3 minutes ago, Coffee Pancake said:36 minutes ago, Kiera Clutterbuck said:
I have never served coffee in such a way. I don't know what my houseguests would make of that.
I have (as the host and dominant). No complaints, even from those doing the serving. 😉
I rather think my houseguests would call emergency services if I carefully crawled from the kitchen to the living room to serve their coffee on my backside.
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Just now, Gatogateau said:
Considering what THAT picture would look like, on behalf of all your houseguests ever: Thank you.
You don't like my forum photo you mean? I assure you that the artist Frida Kahlo was quite attractive. At least her face was. I never saw her backside.
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8 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:
If you knew anything about BDSM, which you clearly do not, and that is not a BDSM photo, but if it were, that depicts purely service, not sex, not harm. SERVICE. Again, suck it up princess and mute.
I have never served coffee in such a way. I don't know what my houseguests would make of that.
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1 minute ago, Lindal Kidd said:19 minutes ago, Randall Ahren said:
If something is worth doing, it's worth getting paid to do it.
While I agree with that statement in general, I violate it every darn day.
Aside from shopping and socializing, helping newcomers is what I do, and I've done it ever since I was just a few months old in SL. I do get paid (darn little, and late!) for my formal teaching duties, but I've probably given out more L$ in gifts to newbies than I've made. So the only "pay" I get is the thanks from the people I've helped.
And that's all that I need.
You might be what I call a born teacher!
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16 hours ago, Da5id Weatherwax said:
I'm currently in the process of completing a major build.
I look forward to exploring your project.
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3 minutes ago, Randall Ahren said:5 minutes ago, Kiera Clutterbuck said:
It seems some have not experienced the joy that helping others brings.
If something is worth doing, it's worth getting paid to do it.
Not quite sure what you mean. I can imagine various worthwhile activities where no payment is received. Joy is a nice payment, however.
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4 minutes ago, Rowan Amore said:
I don't see any steam so I'll have to assume the coffee is lukewarm at best. Interestingly enough, apparently 2 people now are triggered by coffee on bums.
It's actually most BDSM photos that trigger me where harm is being demonstrated. These photos of harm incurred in sex play really should be in the Adult section. Even vanilla sex-play should be in Adult really.
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19 hours ago, HeathcliffMontague said:
Seriously, what? Positivity is not comme il faut now too?
I've noticed, of late, how both positivity and helping others is viewed with suspicion by some. I don't get it. The motivation for such actions is even questioned. It seems some have not experienced the joy that helping others brings.
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10 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:20 minutes ago, Kiera Clutterbuck said:
Seicher would you mind removing that pic? It's disturbing for me, triggers me, to log into the forum and come across a woman being harmed by hot coffee against her skin.
Since you've already seen it, mute me.
And that photo is, as far as I know, 100% within the rules here, and there are FAR worse in the "PG" avatar vanity threads. Do you request those removed, too? Luna also made such a remark in another thread, and um... well that comment is no longer there. I can't be responsible for everyone's triggers, and I don't accept that responsibility. I have PTSD. I have triggers. I'm responsible for them, as long as people are operating within the rules. That you are PROJECTING harm, is your problem. There is ZERO in that photo the depicts harm of any kind. That's in your head, not the photo's.
So in short: No.
Take it up with the management and mute me, please.
It's not about being against any PG rules and such; it's the sight of someone being harmed by hot coffee, as a hot cup of coffee against the skin would be quite painful. I'm totally ok with anyone doing what they want with another as long as there is consent, although I have to admit I don't get why people want to harm each other. But I didn't consent to being a part of your sexual play where I had to view another being harmed.
I'm not trying to force anything on you, I'm only saying I'd appreciate it if you'd post your sexual play stuff where people are being harmed in the Adult section.
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13 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:
Tease. I'm a multifunctional unit. Coffee table by morning, footstool/bench whenever.
Seicher would you mind removing that pic? It's disturbing for me, triggers me, to log into the forum and come across a woman being harmed by hot coffee against her skin.
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7 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:
What????
He was stabbed earlier today.
“From the beginning men used God to justify the unjustifiable.”
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11 minutes ago, blissfulbreeze said:
That is the issue, we need to respect their private business decisions as their right.
It is their right as owners. And I've already said that I may be wrong in my belief that we need some RL here on the forum too, and that there may be a bigger picture I don't see.
But remember, we (the residents) pay their salary, and if they do things that make too many people unhappy or reduce important participation inworld then it could be detrimental to all of us.
It's a mutual arrangement. The ball is not totally in their court.
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2 minutes ago, Rowan Amore said:
Have to say, I really wanted to start a thread about the passing of Olivia Newton-John only because she was a huge favorite of my step-daughter.
It's threads like that or others that people have started 'just because' that I'll sort of miss. They were almost always friendly and a place to reminisce about whatever the topic was about. As I said at the beginning of all this, SL (and the SL forums) will get pretty boring if all one ever talks about or discusses is SL.
I actually learned of this on the music thread here where someone introduced an interview of Olivia by citing the news; but I felt trapped because I could not say anything in response.
You have described perfectly what the forum meant to some, and @blissfulbreezeshould read this for an answer to her question.
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Spilling over to real life? Crazy.