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6 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

Me....go off-topic?  Never!  I'm just adding greater detail and depth...lol.

Well you have fun Luna. I'm no longer engaging in your attention seeking behavior. I should have bowed out when love did. Have fun with your thread.

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1 minute ago, Luna Bliss said:

I set the topic -- please read my opening paragraph.  People need to stick to the topic. The topic is, how do we utilize SL to cope with stresses (building resiliency in the process). Do you think Kipling was wanting people to know how to be griefers and stalkers with his poem? lol

You can post a topic and hope it stays on topic.  A normal thread will have twists and curves otherwise every thread would be boring.

You very often go on a tangent and go off topic on a thread. Shall we point that out when you do it?

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3 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

A person who chooses to bother others (griefing or stalking), manifesting discord and destruction in the world as opposed to behaving in a constructive manner, is unhealthy. From what I've read about their psychological make up they lack purpose due to believing they can't fulfill positive life goals. Often they've felt thwarted in some way and don't know how to deal with that pain, so they act out in a destructive manner, often punishing people they think are responsible for their pain (even symbolically, as often the person in the present they punish is a stand-in for someone who hurt them in the past).

OR they are just having fun in a game they don't take seriously.

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31 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

But in any case, again, I want to know the ways people utilize SL in healthy ways (so this doesn't include being an addict, a griefer, or a troll).  What next, are we going to validate serial killers and stalkers here?  lol

You again, are discrediting people's responses and attempting to make people post what you want and the way you want. That's not how forums work.

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1 hour ago, Luna Bliss said:

A griefer does not have healthy self-esteem though, so no resiliency would be built.  You might read up on positive vs negative coping mechanisms. Negative ones don't further self-growth -- they do the opposite.

I would disagree with you. A griefer in SL usually does it for fun and games. It's only negative to the one being griefed if they see it that way.  YOU might read up on that.

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2 hours ago, Luna Bliss said:

but others don't seem to understand that simply enjoying activities in SL is a great stress reliever, 

Did you read any of our answers or just re-read your posts? That's ALL we've been saying in the entire thread!

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29 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

Found a good summary of how to increase resilience...and I can think of various activities in SL I've participated in that encompass the points:

Tips to improve your resilience

• Get connected. Building strong, healthy relationships with loved ones and friends can give you needed support and help guide you in good and bad times. ...
• Make every day have meaning. ...
• Learn from the past. ...
• Stay hopeful. ...
• Take care of yourself. ...
• Take action.

I'm not sure you know what the definition of resilience is.

re·sil·ience

/rəˈzilēəns/

noun

1.

the capacity to withstand or to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

"the remarkable resilience of so many institutions"

2.

the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.

"nylon is excellent in wearability and resilience"

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When the OP starts insulting people in a thread they started cause it's not going their way.

P.S. Are you getting permission from these avatars to post them on the forum?

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32 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

Yeah I spend time in SL...am at Fantasy Fairre!  Unlike you, Love, who appears to spend all their time on the forum, yet pretends to be an expert about SL.  Hmmmm...

We are resorting to personal attacks now? Great.

I've been in SL all day since 6am yet I'm on the forum as well.  I guess some of us can multi task. 

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27 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

I agree with the Linden that came to the forum once (well 2 of them did actually)...and said the forum is negative.

Oh yeah. I missed it. Who was it? I mean if they said it on the forum it's ok to say right? Since you brought it up.

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1 minute ago, Luna Bliss said:

IWhat makes you feel better about being in SL?

Well now we have a direct question. Nothing because everything I do in SL makes me feel better. Even what you might call stressful I just laugh off and click the X and go watch Forensic Files.

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1 minute ago, Love Zhaoying said:

Did you dance in RL, or do aerobics or something while you danced in SL?

I have done that before. It's kinda fun.

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1 minute ago, Luna Bliss said:

Enhancing our lives with fun stuff in SL makes us resilient ... 

No, it doesn't. My opinion of course.

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1 hour ago, Rowan Amore said:

And conversely, if I have to use the bathroom in RL, putting my avatar on the toilet in SL ain't gonna help.  🚽😁

I see now where I went wrong...

[BONUS item goes against TOS?]

3 hours ago, Bree Giffen said:

You can't show a group of ten possible prizes and then reward people with one of those prizes chosen randomly. Which is what a gacha does. As long as people know what they get with their purchase then it should be fine.

I'm not so sure that would follow the TOS set up now. People would just buy buy buy till they get the random item they want.  

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5 hours ago, Love Zhaoying said:

Idea: We could create a similar thread, but "SaY sOmEtHiNg SaRcAsTiC aBoUt SeCoNd LiFe In CaMeL cAsE"

 

I dO nOt HaVe ThE pAiEnCe FoR tHaT! See I spelled patience wrong and am not going back to fix it.

[Oh my Gawd! - Totally unOfficial Pet Peeve Thread.]

1 hour ago, Arielle Popstar said:

Looking at a video of the incident one could barely call it a tree rather then bush. I have a hard time imagining a mother leaving her cubs in it for safety as a wolf or other predator could have easily reached them. 

 

LOL, you make it sound like a Mother bear has the same reasoning as a human.  Perhaps the Mother bear knew that there wouldn't be a danger to the cubs where she placed them due to, oh I don't know...instinct?

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20 minutes ago, Ajay McDowwll said:

I think my only issue with this thread is... why is this a thing?  Why is developing resiliency in SL any different from RL?  It's all just life.

Because if they didn't attribute this to SL they couldn't discuss the topic and sneak in all the RL stuff they wanted to say.  

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57 minutes ago, Cougar Sangria said:

@Rick Nightingale There may be a lot of clothing being sold now with terrible rigging.  If you demo'd it and it was that bad, toss the DEMO in the trash and move along.  The creator lost a sale, maybe many sales.  Maybe they will realize their poor rigging/skinning is the issue and work to fix it, or maybe they don't care.  Either way, they lost a customer,  and word of mouth can be detrimental to a brand.

i did demo the outfit and it fit beautifully standing there in a Tpose. I neglected to dance in the item which is totally on me for sure.  If it wasn't a lacey item the alpha's would have been fine but when you alpha lace you always can see you did it. 

I will be more careful from now on. Because this was a very well known and popular brand I trusted it too much I guess.  It was a $499 outfit which isn't chump change for an outfit in SL.  It will go in the trash and I won't write a review because I don't particularly like my name on bad reviews.  This was one of the very few Lara X only items I've bought. I will go back t buying items that have both a Maitreya and a Lara X option as I won't feel as I've wasted as much then.  

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2 hours ago, Cinnamon Mistwood said:

Okay, so I misinterpreted the point of this whole thread.  After reading the OP, I thought the question was "when you are stressed in SL how do you cope?"  The answer "log out" seemed to be the best answer. I am not aware of anyone who logs in to feel stressed out. Why would they?

I now think the question is "When you are feeling stress (in any life) how do you use SL to cope?

 

(Snip from original post)

We all encounter difficult experiences in SL -- what helps you cope and develop resilience? Do you recognize patterns in the poem that relate to how you manage difficult situations in SL, and/or do you have coping strategies of your own to share?

________

I like your answer Cinnamon but you understand the question asked correctly the first time you read it.

 

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On 4/15/2024 at 11:43 AM, Love Zhaoying said:

Butt..Butt..

 

DID YOU NOT GET THE MEMO? PEOPLE LIKE BIG BUTTS AND THEY DON'T LIE!

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I LIKE THAT I GET TO LISTEN TO MUSIC I NORMALLY W0ULDN'T LISTEN TO.

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2 hours ago, Ceka Cianci said:

If I get bored or tired of SL, this is what I turn to..

It's usually just being bored or breaking up the monotony really to when I need a change..

Me and my husband will get the boys in there also and tear things up.. hehehe

We still do this anyways, but I'll go in there myself too if SL is really just not doing anything for me.

It's a great game and love how accurate  the maps are.

You can even go under the Lincoln memorial and in all the internal places.. Same with the white house and pretty much anywhere..

 

Thanks! This is now on my Steam wish list!

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1 hour ago, Luna Bliss said:

Your posts mainly serve to confuse people and distract...I wish you'd stop.

I'd prefer that you simply cite if anything helps you deal with stress in SL.  If nothing does, fine, but no need to keep challenging what I'm asking for here.

^^^This right here. I don't find @Love Zhaoying posts on this topic confusing at all. Some of the jokes, I must admit, I have no clue what they are about but I am not confused by his posts on this topic.  You might want to change that or not....It really is not anyone's right to tell another how to respond to a post that is put on this forum and opened up for discussion; It isn't off topic for sure.

You, of all people, should not be asking people stop challenging what you say. 

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2 minutes ago, Persephone Emerald said:

Some people enjoy taking out their frustrations by virtually shooting things up. For me, playing a game like that one would just make me feel even more stressed out.

Fair enough.  We all have different ways of dealing with things in SL and RL. Not one thing is wrong  or the incorrect way.  Normally if I get frustrated or upset in SL it tells me that I have been on too long and that is a cue to log out and get some RL sleep. I quite often wake up refreshed the next day ready to tackle another day of silliness on a platform I love.  One thing I have learned though is that what strangers on the internet think of me is none of my business. I even have it in my profile.  It has made coping with stupidity a whole lot easier since.