Chery Amore

I don't have any recommendations but if you do run across something in-world that focuses on herbalism and plants in real life I'd be interested also. I like to garden a little in real and always interested in both the medicinal and nutritional value of plants. I don't usually try to grow anything that is purely ornamental. Of course we are probably all in different hardiness zones .. so I can see how a group in sl might not work so well but information and use historically of plants is always fun to learn for me even if I can't grow it.

I don't disagree with the nurturing part to have a relationship grow but.. you can still initially meet people in this way. It's worked for me anyway. I "advertised" on an alt, although she was my main at the time and one bite turned into a 7 year relationship. I do agree it helps to post as much as you are comfortable posting, interests ect. You might have to weed through the responses though and then vet them. That's life. I don't think there is anything wrong with using the forums for trying to make friends, it's just one more way to put yourself out there. Many places are dead in second life including groups, so yeah.. it's not always easy to meet people in those ways.

Dear Linden Lab, We the residents of Second Life like bacon. Vegetarian options not allowed except waffles and tacos. Please, a pony would really neigh flamboyantly. Indeed, I bathe frequently in California. Glycerine soap isn't available. Regards, A.I. PS:

Dear Linden Lab, We the residents of Second Life like bacon. Vegetarian options not allowed except waffles and tacos. Please, a pony would really

My actual friends don't usually have some extreme opinion that I'm not already okay with. Although I can't think of many extreme opinions I have. I probably do though to some. Again it usually boils down to someone trying to control how others should live or what they believe. It wouldn't include something like if they had a foot fetish... eww.. but I'm not going to defriend them over having a weird kink that doesn't hurt anyone. Although I do like people with a sense of humor so would be better if I could poke a tiny amount of fun about our differences.. and they can do the same back under the umbrella of friendship and real mutual caring. It's part of the vetting process for me I guess. Now family.. whew.. that's different you can love and accept someone with different beliefs but you can also dislike them depending on how they are about those beliefs. Do they try to shove them down your throat? Yeah nope, nope. I had a toxic mother .. I seriously think she had Borderline Personality Disorder, not that she would have ever believed this or gotten help for it. I accept that she was the way she was and can even appreciate much of what she did that was good and caring with some reflecting, but if I could have known and chosen not to be exposed to that type of person I would have.

I can accept that people are the way they are .. absolutely. It doesn't mean I agree with them or want to give them space in my world or head. Say someone comes and knocks at my door to give me the "good news". They are probably a basically nice person but I don't believe what they do or at least in the way they do it. I also don't agree with the way they go about spreading that news. Therefore I don't have to invite them in to sit at my table.. it's a waste of time and energy for me. Although I can usually be cordial until they get pushy about how right they are and how wrong I am. That's where I draw the line. I still accept that they are who they are though and usually can wish them best far away from me. I can accept people, but there needs to be some common ground and often a similar outlook on life for me to let them in and appreciate them. Same holds true for second life.

You might be surprised what he understands since I play a complete bimbo in sl... even though I'm not so of one in in reality. We've had many conversations about split personalities using different avatars and other topics around this. We keep it light because, bleh.. last thing I want is to do heavy here. I do see people assume all sorts of things about him. It's pretty funny, but whatever.. it's definitely not surprising. But he does like to troll he has the mug for it.... so yes there is that.

She must need a break cause that store def must have been making some good real life money.

Annnd what would you teach your daughter to do in a situation like this for the problem at hand in second life? Not for some future utopia but right now? It's not that hard. Don't respond.. mute and ignore. There are jerks and there are not jerks.. and even some in between. I really doubt the in between ones are going to learn what you want them too by being preached at and belittled.

No.. the answer is to block and ignore people that you can not deal with. I'd go further and suggest if no tools at our disposal works in a way that someone can feel safe here.. in a virtual world. They need to log out and touch grass. You can also put something on your profile that indicates what you want and do not want in sl if you are not looking for people to approach you in that way. When people don't read your profile .. and it will happen so brace yourself if that bothers you.. you can chose what to do then. If you can't deal with making a simple statement back you can block and ignore all them icky men-folk. Me - I just chuckle and say no in my own way-- and it works. I know you can't be suggesting that men not approach women at all .. because some people want to be in relationships. I know you indicated its only for "sexual favors" but it isn't... Some men say hi because it's a way to try to start a relationship or even just a friendship. Maybe they just want a dance to not be alone for awhile or to share some other interest. Yes, I know most seek sex at some point but so do some women. Some women appreciate an approach because they expect it and appreciate it. People can't read minds and men as the ones that are normally expected to approach often have to do so blindly. They also have to do it knowing they will probably face rejection. So no.. I won't accept that women can't just learn to say no in a virtual world. I won't accept that a minority of people that believe they are more evolved get to dictate the rules for everyone else either. A lot of things are annoying to some people in this world. You have to learn how to deal with life practically and constructively if you want some peace. Someone begging for money in sl. Just say no.. or don't say anything at all.. Someone pasting a phishing link in chats.. learn not to click. A nice AR is helpful also. Some jerk being aggressive about anything block and mute. Guess what? Guys have to do this too. Some guy saying hi.. hoping for something more? Yeah why all the angst? It's really not that hard to say no I'm not interested.

People have such different experiences or... I guess reactions to things. I present in sl in a way that I absolutely expect to get IM's from men, but they have gone down over the years.. I was talking to a woman that ran a club that noticed this also... and see this echoed in the thread from some. That constant stuff just doesn't happen as much anymore. In the last year or so I get more aggression from women or those presenting as women. They seem to be more bold and pushy when hitting on me. Also if you act nice in return with a firm no.. it seems to be a challenge to them. Yucko. Those ones I have to just ignore and go on with my day. Men are easy.. they are trying cause they have too. They by and large have to be the ones to approach if they want to get anywhere. It's expected of them. Friendships, romantic partners, whatever. So when they send me a compliment or even just a hello type of opener I'm nice back. I give them the "no" and because it's fun for me to do, I do it in a flirty in character way. More often than not there is a well darn I tried kinda answer on their end. It leads me to believe that they get a lot of nastiness back from a simple approach and return the energy they just received. Just saying. Now and then I get a crude one and those are just funny as heck to me. I rub my hands together in glee when that happens. "Nice (whatevers)!" "Yes! they really are right! My boyfriend loves them!", I reply. Usually it shuts them down quick with very, very few exceptions. I really think they expect me to bark at them. I can't remember the last time anyone got mean with me in world. It's weird. This thread was entertaining! OP if it bothers you and using those tools that sl provides makes you feel better in sl... Use them!

I'm out shopping weekend sales now in sl. And basically every store I go to has very young looking faces, anime inspired to some extent usually. Since I'm shopping for waifu-reborn clothing it might be even more prominent in the stores I go to I guess. I would put the faces at probably at maybe between 12 and 16? .. on voluptuous bodies. I never really thought about it deeply and never had a problem seeing it in ads. They look cute to me even if I don't pattern myself after them. I will say if I was policing an adult venue and I saw the same head/skin on a skinny adolescent looking (to me) body I would see them as underage and wouldn't welcome them to my venue. I might also if I saw the same face type on a voluptuous body.. depending on what they are wearing otherwise. The snot bubble description from Rowan earlier comes to mind.. hopscotch ao ect. The Linden policy on a*geplay says "If you are in doubt as to whether an activity may be interpreted as *****, we request you err on the side of caution and desist." So venue owners often feel they have to be diligent about who they allow on their parcels when adult furniture is available for use. Would I care if they were in their own homes with this look doing whatever they do.. yeah I just don't think about it really. Right or wrong I just don't. I'm more concerned with by infant/toddler/tween stuff in regards to a*geplay situations, sexualization ect. I have no problem with those ages being in sl doing non sexualized child things. I do wonder though if they have to revamp some policies will this current fashion trend be taken into account. Will we get some clarification as to what is acceptable or not? I'm not trying to stir the pot but I do think venue owners should have some guidance.

I don't have a hud for it to light up on. I just don't think child like avatars should be wearing them (mama allpa huds)..there is no point in it. I don't think I've ever sent an AR for underage stuff. I guess if I saw someone obviously underage engaging in sexual activities I might put on my what are they wearing hud and include it in an AR but doubt I'd think fast enough for that. The picture and report would probably be as far as I'd take it. The most I've done is when I part-owned an adult venue I'd indicate who was welcome or not through notecard greetings and directly in IM if I noticed someone that I though shouldn't be there.. I'd ask them to leave before a kick and ban. edited for clarification

You are possibly right about not having more stringent policies... just enforcing those that are out there now would be great. It might not have been what instigated it.. but it is there for all to see. I see it as something we can do something about and want to encourage that. You made it sound that we should not discuss that at all to me and that we are being herded in the direction of discussing that instead of the big problem. Sure I think there is an internal problem. I said earlier that there will probably be someone fired.. guilty or not. Most companies when faced with something like this will offer up a sacrificial lamb if they have too.. even if they give them a good going away package for their troubles. Or there might be a sudden resignation with some statement to go along with it about going in another direction or some such. I can't think of a company that wouldn't keep certain problems and their response to it in-house for many reasons.. lawsuits, some protection of their public face ect. No company is going to be that transparent with how they deal with inner issues. Its not about being complicit in hiding anything it's just being realistic about life and how things are and focusing on where a change can actually be made. All of it can be discussed as far as I'm concerned .. within the forum rules. I'm not going to put you down for discussing your points or not liking mine.

No we are making our thoughts heard on the subject. Would you rather the topic go away? I don't have any idea what the Linden's will do with anything they get out of this. Just being heard matters though.