[Favorite Lelutka heads?]

My faves:

Evo: Fleur (I find that it makes a good combination with the "Daisy" skin from Linden Lab. I wonder if anyone else does this with their Evo heads and the Linden skins.)

EvoX: Billie, Sugar, Gaia, and Noel. I use my avi with Noel the most but out of the four I picked, I'd say Billie is my absolute fave.

[Did you (re)discover any music because of Second Life?]

4 hours ago, Love Zhaoying said:

I rediscovered Inner music, does that count?

Plus, some great hymns!

 

What do you mean by "inner music"?

Also, thanks everyone for all the music posted! I'll give them all a listen!

[Did you (re)discover any music because of Second Life?]

I have discovered and rediscovered music tracks as a result of using Second Life.

For example, I heard "Rollin'" by Limp Biskit in an SL club, and while I passing familiarity with the song before, I really began to appreciate it and listen to it more after hearing it at the club.

 

[How did you hear about SL?]

Heard about Second Life in various places in 2003 (probably Internet message boards or news sites.) I also read about it in a newspaper.

I didn't try SL until 2012, after having so MMO experience under my belt and seeing relevant ads on Youtube. On that year I was briefly using it, but didn't stay for long because my computer couldn't handle it. I returned in 2017 and while I was able to get mileage due to using lower settings, it was not until I got a better computer when I began to enjoy it even more.

[Oh my Gawd! - Totally unOfficial Pet Peeve Thread.]

1 minute ago, Ayashe Ninetails said:

This is 100% valid, Gopi. My RL bestie drives me absolutely nuts with that sometimes. I wish I could strangle him through my screen some days, lol. Getting those "old man yells at cloud" vibes way too early in his life cycle, I tell ya.

Thank you for the assurance! In my case these people are not friends but some strangers on the Internet, but I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.

[Oh my Gawd! - Totally unOfficial Pet Peeve Thread.]

I'll admit it. I am a bit peeved by some people who are so contrary and disagreeable, that nothing I do can please them. I know it sounds self-centered and I guess part of it is my fault, but I had to let it out. Feel free to laugh at me.

[Favorite Food / Food Items in Second Life]

I like using food items as decor and as avatars. Here are some examples where they are decor:

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

10 minutes ago, Charlemagne Allen said:

Boardroom is literally just trolling and crazy people yelling. Why is it a measure for anything?

I will stop going there.

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

3 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

It's quite a shock to move from the position that most men experience in the world -- one of 'I have to be strong and in control' or 'I have to be the assertive one' to the position that women more often assume.

I remember us talking about this @Gopi Passiflora some months ago when you first noticed this difference.

Yeah, I suppose it can be enlightening.

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

31 minutes ago, Luna Bliss said:

Women, on average, are more vulnerable out in the world, in any world.  They are also more sensitive and have more empathy on average. It makes sense that if you're trying to understand a woman's perspective you'd visit the places where you're more likely experience what this feels like to greater degree. Hence your choices so far.

I think it would be beneficial to complete your desire for this understanding via going to more positive places now and participating as a woman. Some of the therapy groups in SL, for example. Or various other types of groups that primarily consist of women.

Okay, I will do that!

 

30 minutes ago, Arielle Popstar said:

Not really asserting that you should be more assertive but just contributing more to your own thread?

I suppose so. I admit I can be a bit lazy....

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

3 minutes ago, Arielle Popstar said:

I understand about feeling different when playing a different gender or character but well you probably realize that when I voice an opinion, I am right there in the thick of it defending it rather then letting others fight it out. The sitting back is not something I relate to.

I suppose you're saying I should be more assertive? I do agree.

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

1 minute ago, Arielle Popstar said:

 

And the truth comes out. Paul was right all along!

 

 

 

Well, I admitted it a while back. I'll own up to it. But I maintain I also like discussion in addition to drama.

Also, I still don't think he understands that I do feel different when I'm playing as a woman than as a man or non-human (hence why I might adopt different behaviors as such - such as being reluctant to go to places like Boardroom as a woman.)

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

1 minute ago, Ayashe Ninetails said:

Given the bolded - Why would you even want to hang out there on ANY kind of avatar? Doesn't exactly sound like a friendly, chill bunch.

Figure out what it is you enjoy doing (listening to live music, attending art gallery showings, traveling/exploring, shopping, dancing at fancy masquerade balls, playing games, decorating, chatting about books, going to beaches, roleplaying, racing vehicles, riding motorcycles, etc.) and look for venues/groups that cater to those things.

I admit I find the drama and banter amusing. As a man or non-human I would draw the trolls attention or ire less I suppose. I guess @Paul Hexem is right about me liking drama ( as long as I'm not a part of it)....

But i suppose I'm giving into bad habits and should hang out at more wholesome places....

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

3 minutes ago, Rowan Amore said:

Yes, I'd imagine at the places you mentioned, those type of people would be more brutal toward female avatars.  In general, the places I go and the people I see and talk to are pleasant and I've only used voice a handful of times in 14 years.  Men might ask, I decline, they move on.  

Then I guess I really should find better places to hang out then....

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

2 hours ago, Rowan Amore said:

Isn't that one of those 4chan hangouts?  You can deal.with those.types on a.male avatar but are.annoyed when your female avatar gets hit on?  I'd think anything from the first group would be more annoying than just about anything anyone said anywhere.

It's just...I dunno. People (admittedly, many at the Boardroom are trolls) seem more brutal toward women than men. Especially if they don't voice.(I do voice as other accounts. I have a masculine voice - in order to address @Love Zhaoying's query.) It's kinda hard to explain. Maybe I'm just more sensitive as a woman?

 

1 hour ago, Paul Hexem said:

Further evidence that threads like these are made just to rile the forums up, like I was saying.

Except that statement wasn't made to rile people up. I really do feel more sensitive as a woman. I don't know why, it's kinda hard to explain.

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

1 minute ago, Love Zhaoying said:

I hope you find an SL "hobby" or "friends", boredom is teh suck.

My hobbies are scripting, and my "friends" are all here these days.

Thanks for the kind words!

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

2 minutes ago, Love Zhaoying said:

Good to know! It seemed appropriate to ask, so we could understand the difference between "male you" and "female you" in Second Life.  I apologize if the question seemed intrusive.

It is probably easier to navigate "a Second Life" if one's personalities in different "genders" and "species" are in agreement on certain things.

Some of us cannot stand those types of places you listed, as they can be so annoying with gestures, loud / random open chat, etc. You have a strong stomach (perhaps a more apt metaphor is, "you have guts") to go there.

 

More like boredom than guts, I'll admit....

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

5 hours ago, Love Zhaoying said:

Peeve: ..and as a man you do, right? 

No I don't. As a man or non-human however, I add Boardroom to my list of places I visit (due to the fact that place is more notorious for it denizens.)

 

5 hours ago, Jaylinbridges said:

Those are all pickup places full of weirdos, mainly noobies looking for slex and old men looking for newbies looking for slex.  No wonder you have a problem.  If you are going to join the Navy, learn how to swim first.  And mount your scope in the right direction.

 

I guess so. My problem is mainly the noobies, so perhaps you have a point. I guess I'll have to find better places to hang out....

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

7 hours ago, Arduenn Schwartzman said:

Maybe you simply use too many acounts? Maybe it'll be a tad easier to just use fewer of them, rather than go through all of them to disable functionality in each and every one of them?

Personally, my poor little brain can barely handly a single account.

I actually use a few of them regular. But the reason I have a lot of accounts is because they are like individual characters.

 

5 hours ago, BilliJo Aldrin said:

My opinion to the OP and anyone else, if you don't want to get crude come ons by guys, stop visiting sex and pick up spots.

I can send you the lms to vanilla clubs where you can enjoy yourself without  the constant stream of vulgar suggestive ims.

Watch out though, a guy might im you asking for a dance. 😂

I don't visit sex or pick up areas. As a woman I mainly frequent social areas like Social Island 10, Ahern, and London City. Generation XYZ is my club of choice.

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

2 minutes ago, Cinnamon Mistwood said:

This would be a really dull place if no one started threads.  Really dull.  I don't feel I need to discuss the motivations for every post.  If you don't like the subject, grow up and scroll on past it.  Take some personal responsibility for what you read and respond to.  No one is making anyone read anything.

If a person thinks they know exactly where a thread is going to go and they don't want to go there, don't. Responding means you do want to go there.  It's a conscious decision to participate. 

Gopi, just to make a couple people happy,  end each post with

What do you think?

How do you do it?

How would this impact you?

Discussion problem solved.

I guess I'll do that. Thanks for the suggestions!

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

1 minute ago, Paul Hexem said:

Mix some honest discussion in for good times, yeah. I do that too! But you're lying- even if it's only to yourself- if you try to tell us you didn't think a "I have to block IMs because of men" wouldn't bring out the regulars to argue with each other for 10 pages.

I totally do. Like I said, difference is, I admit it up front. I know exactly what's going to happen. So does just about everyone that replies.

Fine, I'll concede that point. But isn't discussion nice regardless of its nature? Otherwise, what would be the point of this forum?

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

7 minutes ago, Paul Hexem said:

Let's be real. Topics/threads like these are 100% intended to get people riled up, even before you include our resident feminists that we know will chime in, which will stir things up even more even under the best of conditions.

It's totally trolling for reactions, which is why I feel no remorse when I get in on it. Difference is, at least I admit what I'm doing.

Perhaps, but I also wanted a discussion of my ideas. You call it trolling for reactions all you want, but I also wanted some ideas of what people think as well.

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

2 minutes ago, Ayashe Ninetails said:

I have no idea what's going on as I only read your side of it, but for what it's worth, I think your topics are fine, Gopi. Sometimes a bit goofy, but I tend to appreciate that. 😂

Considering you're probably as much of a shapeshifter as I am, you should try out some other avatar types and report your overall findings and adventures, just for funsies. Try out a mermaid/man or somethin', though I can't really direct you to where they hang out. I usually just take mine to the beach for photo shoots. There used to be groups, but I don't know if they're still active (there are a lot of mers on Flickr, though).

Ah, so you have Zalificent blocked? Well, that explains a few things.

I will try your mermaid suggestion, though. I do have an account ready that's already similar to a mermaid....just have to add a mermaid tail to her...

 

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

Just now, Zalificent Corvinus said:

Question: Why are most SL avatars human?

Answer: Because most SL players are human.

/thread

Again, you may not think its worthy of discussion but some others do.

[I decided to make my Second Life a tad bit easier. I disabled incoming IMs from "non-friends" for some of my accounts.]

3 minutes ago, Zalificent Corvinus said:

Off the wall suggestion.

You want to know why one sees more Twi'Lek Cantina Dancers than Togruta Jedi?

Why 900 year old little green yoda people from an unknown planet, are seen less often than Rodians?

 

Go visit a SW Lore Website, and read up on it.

 

Why so many humans? Because they breed like primates, and then groups of them move, elsewhere, looking for somewhere to live.

You over think things, make inane blog style comments about the non-PC nature of things, and wait for people to tell you how wrong you were.

 

"I painted my toenails today, it was hard, I now understand how oppressed women are. Witness my empathy signalling!"

Meh.

 

The topic was just not about Star Wars. I was also comparing the fact that humans are dominant in both SW and Second Life. Yes, maybe the reasons are trivial, and perhaps you think they are not worthy of discussion, but apparently some others do. And sometimes I'm not wrong and people do agree with what I think.

Let me just leave this point here for you to consider: isn't part of the reason of discussion is to inform and educate? I admit i am still naive but I'm willing to learn and accept why I'm wrong in some cases. Wouldn't that be why I want to have these discussions?