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  1. I didn’t mean that you said blatantly, that the thing to do is be controlling. I’m just observing the way you guys behave and speak, and that IS how you operate. I didn’t say that I decide what it means to be improved, I simply use common sense and then speak it plainly - anyone with common sense knows that not being oppressed is a more improved situation than being oppressed. It’s a bit ridiculous for you to try to claim that I use common sense as if I’m claiming that ***I *** decide everything. I’m not misperceiving anything, you guys are purposely misperceiving things I say and twisting them up. You did put words in my mouth in your earlier comments, but I never put words in your mouth, I just explained that. You guys are the ones using bullying tactics, that’s obvious enough that I don’t even need to say it. You can’t just insult and try to control someone in a discussion, and expect them to never insult you back. And yeah, you have been here a long time because you guys don’t have anything better to do than get pushy toward people on the forums. I’m not trying to make you envy my life, because I don’t care about that, I don’t care about your game either. I only care about the point I was making. When I said that you probably don’t have rL lives, it was just an observation to how you appear to behave like vultures trying to attack any person in the forum who expresses any thought that you don’t want them to have. I am here less often than you, I don’t wait around here to bully people. I don't mean that anyone who posts on a forum ever does not have a life. I mean that the way in which you guys particularly wait around on the forums to bully people, says something rather pathetic about you. I already told you about my life: I *do not * bully people on the forums. There is no common ground between us.
  2. You guys are merely bitching about grammatical errors. Those things are minimal and not the point. The porn sites I surted through were not "straw men arguments" those actually happened. You don't tell other people to "make someone shut up" as this is a free world where people are supposed to be allowed to express themselves, especially for improved communities. Not for people who believe that "control and fear are central to human instinct" (or whatever that commenter said) and therefore you think the thing to do is actually BE controlling. And keep being pushy at someone who has a different opinion from you, who actually wants to improve things rather than bully people. I know you guys are on here more often than I am, you probably don't have rL lives, so I can't comment as often as you do. I don't know why that makes you think that you're a team though, who is there to "make her shut up." like a bunch of children who don't like someone who believes something different from you.
  3. You wrote: “Fear and a desire for control are some of the most natural, instinctive urges humanity has.” I disagree. Desire for control are actually the worst instincts and urges humanity has, and I am not talking about consensual bdsm. Desire for control is everything that is wrong with the human race, from oppression of people, violence, some situations of extreme situation of women, child abuse, workplace abuse. And everything else that desire for control causes. Desire for fantasy control is different though. However, when the media poses actually abusive images (such as the examples in my post above) and uses bdsm as an excuse for them, that’s more like abuse, not fantasy. You quoted Marilyn Manson. And I am not one of those people who is against Marilyn Manson. But I doubt Marilyn Manson was talking about imposing disturbing porn on people who just wanted to see something erotic, when he said “Repression leads to perversion.” And not wanting disturbing porn imposed on me, even when looking for adult entertainment, does not mean being an “idiot trying to determine what is allowed.” or creating repression
  4. When I said sexism is not natural, I was not talking about how to educate ourselves past it. That’s a different subject that I was not touching on. I was talking about why we should not accept it. And why, images of it should not be used to represent all of culture, as though people are supposed to see that as normal. But even if degrading or violent fetishes exist, they should not be used to represent all sex, ever - or always against women. People who are looking for something appealing in adult entertainment ought to be able to find that. The link you posted about incest and infanticide in nature actually circled that discussion back around the the same point as said before. Also, you said that “Nature can’t be ‘Messed Up’ “ just after infanticide and sexual abuse in nature was being discussed (and I called those things “messed up” as you quoted.) Sorry, but YES those things ARE MESSED UP. You can’t just take away words I said, especially for a subject like that. Whether that’s part of nature or not does not change that. Also, even if the worst behaviors in nature are argued to be natural. Nature is always trying to evolve into something better. If it weren’t, then we would all still be bacteria… though most bacteria aren’t nearly as awful as a commercialized world that is sexually hostile toward women. I am not the Original Poster. There may be some mix up here, but I just came to comment on the subject. But personally, yes I have seen that a lot of media and sex industry ads are degrading toward women. And NO, I was not searching for things that brought me close to that. For instance sometimes I have just searched for some hentai to watch. Several times, I would stream a video, and soon find out that it was actually a rape scene being eroticized. It was not labeled as a “rape fantasy,” it was just considered regular porn. As if to expect that people just regularly enjoy that, as a general populus. Or as if that represented all sex entertainment. It was actually hard for me to find any video in hentai that was not a depiction of a rape scene. Some others unexpectedly turned out to be a story of incest between family members (also unlabeled.) One time, I looked up regular adult videos (not hentai), and one of the advertisements on the sidelines at the site - it was depicting a 3D animation of two adult men holding a child hostage in a sexual way. (I don’t know if that’s legal even as cartoon, and yet it *was * on a regular porn site of otherwise adult only videos) I’ve gone on X-tube before, and seen advertisements on the sidelines for “18 and abused” and the video portrayed looked like it was traumatic for the women in it. Does not look appealing at all, nor like something one wants to see when searching for appealing things. Another video on the sidelines looked like a depiction of a man raping a woman. So no, my “definition of degrading” does not “encompass a good bit of modern fashion or culture.”
  5. I was not talking about somebody being forced to participate in SL roleplay without their consent. I didn’t say that either. I was talking about media images that are generally abusive toward women, and how people wrongly try to excuse them as bdsm instead of abuse. And such false claims that anyone who is against said things are being oppressive of people who enjoy adult entertainment, or being oppressive of people who enjoy bdsm. 50 Shades of Gray is a movie. The movie did not start a movement of bdsm culture. Bdsm culture was there long before. It was long before when people started saying that ‘good people can enjoy bdsm.’ I have not seen 50 shades of Gray and don’t want to. I have heard that it represents abuse rather than bdsm, though I don’t have much opinion on it since I haven’t seen it. In short, when I was talking about bdsm community, I did not mean 50 Shades of Gray. When I said that study seemed debatable, that was only one point I noted. The most important point is that, even if what the study claims is true, it’s still not an excuse for the media to *always * portray women as submissive, even IF in a bdsm scene. And then claim that’s how women want to be portrayed (hint, I’m pretty sure it is not.) Even if some women have submissive fantasies sexually, that doesn’t mean that’s how they want the media to *always * represent them. The prior is something that’s just for fun in one’s personal life. The latter is using the prior’s personal life as an excuse to claim that personal fantasy in a constantly sexist way, when it was never intended to be that way. I’m personally more into femdom, with just a slight sub streak - and I can say that the repulsive images in the media and porn toward women: they don’t do anything to excite my sub streak. So anyone who claims that “most women are sexually submissive” (and that that’s why the media portrays that so much.) In my experience, I would beg to differ. The sex industry is not doing that to excite my submissive streak, and probably is not doing it to be pleasing to any “submissive” women either. But either way, I would repeat again the above paragraph. Your link about bdsm did not say anything different than what I said, btw.
  6. "I'd disagree that sexism isn't natural," ---------------------- You can disagree if you want to, but your disagreement is not a good excuse to disregard it. And you are ignoring what I said about how, many people who look for something sexually appealing, are actually looking for something appealing. Not something meant to disgust them. I know you're ignoring that point on purpose, but that's still not an excuse. And sure there are some messed up things that exist in nature, some animals will kill a mother's babies or sexually abuse them. But comparing those messed up things in nature to sexism, it's still not natural. As in there is still something wrong with people who engage in that. Actually, the beginning of modern society created a lot of the inequality we know of today. Where women became property, their sexuality was controlled. Starting with agriculture. https://books.google.com/books?id=Kr7NCQAAQBAJ&pg=PA116&lpg=PA116&dq=agriculture+and+sexism&source=bl&ots=oZ04_HtGx2&sig=I3zZfyJgmzwERhotatqZihVtgX4&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiqjIKG6c7OAhVM_mMKHRDJBy4Q6AEIXTAJ#v=onepage&q=agriculture%20and%20sexism&f=false I don't know what exactly you were claiming I was reframing, but it seems more like you are reframing things and ignoring my points, merely trying to disregard everything. Or whatever you think about the term shoving in our faces, doesn't really matter. I'm not saying that people have to be able to find ONLY the things they like. I just think that when we're searching for things that are appealing or erotic (whether we find our precise fantasy or not), we shouldn't be bombarded with REPULSIVE things, which some people might like and is sometimes ok, but shouldn't be used to represent all sex. I'm not reading the rest of your post. All you do is say the same thing over again and try to twist things around with a bunch of words that don't matter.
  7. Madelaine McMasters wrote: There is no more a "true bdsm" than a "true female". ------------------------------------------------ What I mean is, the bdsm community is meant to be about consent, safety, and is not supposed to promote real oppression. If it were not that way, then it would not be bdsm. It would be abuse. That is what I mean by 'true bdsm,' as opposed to people who use "bdsm" as an excuse to actually just be abusive, and claim that it's the kind of bdsm that the bdsm community promotes, when it's not. The reason there has been an uprising of bdsm culture, is to let people know that some people enjoy these things and it doesn't make them bad, is not the same as abuse, etc. Your claim that that is the same as trying to say "true female" is just invalid. Nothing about what I'm saying or believe is "potentially dangerous." That's rather ridiculous, especially as I'm trying to advocate against a subtly abusive culture. I doubt anything is "dangerous" about that. I do not "conflate the two environments" of in the bed and out. Whether or not women are mostly submissive and men dominant in bed is debatable. But it also does not really matter. When commercialized culture tries to pose them as always submissive, that is the problem - not whether or not a woman has submissive fantasies in her personal life. Though I have seen other studies on this that say something different, that most people - both men and women are submissive, and fewer people are dom. I don't necessarily trust the scientific studies to not be biased. There was one study that appeared as though it claimed men could not be bisexual. Which is simply not true, and it was later proven that they were wrong.
  8. I agree with the original poster (and I generally disagree with most of you all, though I haven't read all the comments) When you don't want to see women being degraded, "un-check the adult box" should not be the only option. Have you all considered that some of us actually crave adult or erotic content? Even if we don't want to see degraded women. Your suggestions to un-check the adult box, would be like telling a person who enjoys watching stand- up comedy, but who is against racism. That if they don't like comedians who make racist jokes, then they better stop going to see comedy at all. In other words, sex is supposed to be fun or appealing. Including for people who do not like when it portrays aggression towards women. After all, appreciation for sex is a natural thing. But sexism really is *not * natural or healthy... And shoving the unhealthy stuff in our face when we don't want that, is like shoving images of things that are disgusting to you, when you were hoping to look for something appealing. By the way, I don't think it's true bdsm, when it's *always * women who are put in humiliating poses. Just like, if you wrote a story in which all people of color in that story were bad guys (or were humiliated in some way), that would still be racism and would not make it a good story. Regardless of it being otherwise normal to 'Have bad guys in your story.' I think you know what I mean. ("Why don't you just stop reading stories ever? Prude!") I also don't think it's true bdsm, when humiliating images are shown to people who don't want to see that - people who were just looking for sex in general. Bdsm is fine, but it's supposed to be consensual, not shoved at people who don't want it. Nor packaged as though it represents all sex as being humiliating, ever. Being against these things, does *Not * mean being oppressive to people who enjoy bdsm. Nor trying to 'control' anyone. There are people who want things to be much better, that's all. And for the person who implied that she should be quiet about it, because she's not the one who decides what content is allowed on SL. There is a thing called freedom of speech, or at least there should be... it should be used by anyone who wants to express how they would like their community to be a better place. If there were Images of racism everywhere on SL, even if it were not against the rules and even if people were making money off of it. That still would not make it right, and is not fair that you are trying to similarly silence OP about images of sexism.
  9. I'll be your friend. I'm female, but I play a male avatar. I'm not looking for a relationship on secondLife, though I might be into roleplaying a "gay" relationship, for entertainment. Or not, whatever.
  10. Update, there are now some lovely ladies here! Teleport yourself to Tropical Island Oasis Club, Lafee style
  11. Event is happening right now. 6pm pacific time/9pm ESt Friday night. Or 2 am UTC time (UK time zone) Come see the Lovely ladies working the pole. And me, Two Guys for Every Girl, the local Boy Toy of Topical Island. For any of you ladies or gays or bisexuals. And remember, I will remove my clothing, for Lindens :) Plus, come chat with me about whatever you like! Let us entertain you. Come dance or sit in the lounge. Sexy ladies also welcome to work the poles!
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