HA! The big debate indeed. The great conspiracy!
Thanks so much, everyone, for the time and advice. I hadn't considered that he could be another friend on the list, or was otherwise shady. We've skyped before, so I know he's a male. Other than that, who knows.
Thanks again. I didn't expect so many supportive and informative responses! (Sans Alwin Alcott's assumption that I like drama - hence the reason I don't discuss my past relationships or personal life unless specifically inquired about),