I know this thread is ancient but it seems to me to be still relevant!
OK, so I joined SL in early March because it felt a safe place to explore my recently discovered bisexuality. Safer than RL as I am already in a RL relationship.
In early April I met this powerful, big oldish looking avatar in a blues club and felt drawn to it. Not being the shy type I sat beside him at the bar, (who dances to blues music??) and started a conversation. We spent the next hour chatting until the music changed and I left him to go and dance. He followed me and asked me to dance with him. What followed was 15 minutes of the funniest most hilarious movements that brought tears of laughter to my eyes in RL. I laughed nonstop as he strolled around my avatar in a ballet coreography worthy of The Swan Lake while Lady Gaga kept saying Let's Dance. We attempted many other moves but none seem to be al tempo or in synchrony with the music or each other. It was one of those genious moments of pure comedy that had me in stitches in RL. When we finally got it right I had been laughing nonstop for longer than I had done in ages. He apologized saying that although an experienced resident in SL he hadn't been out dancing that much and had probably forgotten how couple stuff worked.
We stayed for a couple of hours in that club talking while dancing together and he later invited me to his SL home and we had sex. It was virtual sex but for whatever reason it became and felt very much like real sex. I had had SL virtual sex a few times before but it never felt like what I lived through that night. The intensity of the experience had me thinking about it the next day, scared the hell out of me and made me wonder if I could be going insane...
We met the following night too and he seemed to have gone through the same experience. We talked and stayed together online for hours again, we discovered many similarities in what we like and how we see the world, we had sex again and it was amazing again.
My attempt to keep SL and RL separate broke when we heard each other for the first time. I discovered I even like the voice of someone I have never met in RL! How insane is that??!
Fast forward to almost a month later and RL is dictating when and for how long we can be online together, and it looks like we are losing due to conflicting schedules, time differences, busy RLs, etc., but the whole experience has made realized SL relationships can indeed be very real. I joined looking for uncomplicated fun, no strings attached relationships, an ecape from the mundane, and it turns out SL relationships can turn all that upside down...
Maybe I should have sticked to the SIMS HAHAHA!!