You may be wondering..what i mean by the title. I mean just that. If you want a strict/dictator with no feelings for you whatsoever then by all means join the bdsm community in sl. If your looking for something meaningful or someone not as strict..Girl or Guy...you've come to the wrong site. I have been in the community for...maybe 3 or 4 yrs. They were...the worst experiences i had on this site and thats including being in BL clans and having to leave them, because "Politics." If your looking for a daddydom and or a caring master, dom, etc, then I'm afraid your out of luck. All the auction houses i went to didn't have any. The only place i found them in was at education centers..and they were already with someone. Which brings me to another point. If you go to the educational sites on bdms, prepare to have, "the jealous ***** phase." It's where you envy almost all the people around you for having found someone that has a master that sounds similar to what you were looking for while you've spent years looking for that. In this instance, yes, all the good ones ARE taken! Going to the auction houses was by no means, "a cakewalk." I had some abusive, strict and dictator masters in the past from those places. The only good thing that ever happened to me was when a guy in rl said to me, "Hey, wanna go out?" I am VERY lucky to have found him when i did. It made me realize there are better people irl then sl. It also showed me how much worth i had more than ANY Master, Dom, ect that sl had to offer. My bf showers me with affection whenever im with them and as do I with them^^ More then any master i had ever gave me. I was just "property" to them, even though i wasn't a slave ..so. I actually feel sorry for all the people who could have chosen to partner with me and chose not to. I guess, you snooze you loose.
I cannot describe just how bad bdsm in sl is...its like..your a kitten who got dropped in gasoline then got set on fire and thrown into a garbage bag, tied up and left to die. I know every sl couple in bdsm has their problems. If i had ever found a dom or master who was caring but we had problems, i would have tried to be with them and sort it out. Yet, like i said..all the ones like that are already taken and all that's left are the strict ones who if you go against them even once, they'll leave you. = they never cared for you anyways...maybe not anyone else either. I remember going to these support groups and i thought i was the only one to have bad masters...I was mistaken..there were others who had problems and were scared to leave, because they knew the sad reality..if they left they might never find someone until 5 or 7 yrs from now = yes..thats how long it can take before you find anyone who might, "possibly" care. Whats worse is that most of them had manipulative or abusive masters. No sub or slave should have to cry over that or want to stay! What's also bad is how many people don't know what bdsm even is! They just use it as an excuse to get their rocks off, they never really cared about you. There are also some times when you might think it will only be you and him, then he brings in another girl, you ask why, and then realize..you have no control over what your master does or what you want..only he holds the cards. I really hope you make the right decision and look at other sites that might offer rp or a way to communicate so your both on the same page. YOU ARE WORTH MORE TRUST ME! You don't wanna try bdsm auction houses and find you've gotten placed with a monster EVERY.SINGLE.TIME! So yes, sometimes sl bdsm isn't the "haven or magical world of all dreams come true," place we think it is.