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Everything posted by NatashaSteele

  1. i dont understand why it cant be coded.... and why we need display names. it would be cool if you can just change your name period. In IMVU they make you buy a namechange token for that. LL could make money off people choosing a diffrent first and/or last name. I would love to be able to change it and when I partner someone in here assume his last name for example. The display name doesnt cut it because the moment I walk into a club, the host shouts at me the real name not the display name.
  2. I hear what you are saying... but in my case I was the one that was open for it but they made clear to me they did not want a GF so I stuck with the friends thing because i liked them as a person and not just as potential dating material. Guess I was just a toy to them they didnt wanna play with anymore till someone else did want it and they got pissed/jealous at that. (ps I see your tagline... TARDIS :matte-motes-inlove:)
  3. Well here we are a couple of weeks later and what I did is I got a hobby and started some photography on a small base plus I got more active in the SL feed so now I am making new friends in diffrent places that don't bite my head off for having a partner. I guess the places I hung before (clubs, some adult some PG) are naturally more of a breeding ground for people with hidden agendas and want more than just friendship. Two friends from the past admitted they indeed were jealous.. since they did want an exclusive partnership themselves but it was a bit like now someone else did step up and sweep me off my feet they were like dang that could have been me. Well I said I was dissapointed in their initial reaction but ocasionally I hang out with them because I do like the fact they were candid about it in a later stage.
  4. I recently picked up on SL photography and wander around searching for SIMs that are cool to take pictures in. Other than that I sometimes hang with the friends I have... and its not really one steady place I go to but where the wind takes me. I know it is not very helpful but I found out I need to be creative and focus less on whether or not someone speaks to me. Now I am partnered that happens rarely so I rely more on myself to have a good time inworld, although I still struggle to meet same sex friends I have a click with....
  5. Childish ~chuckles at the childish attempt to push my buttons~ Ahem what makes you say I haven't already tried what you suggest? I took a close look at the men I came across and the ones I am still friends with and found so many other types of men... some overlap what you say, others do not at all. Proof enough for me that what you say is not the entire truth. I have friends that are neither macho nor needy. So many colors in the rainbow. Your goal in seems to be right. Mine is to be happy. Take care
  6. Hehe then its good I said "I think" instead of presenting it as a truth in itself. I should not have made assumptions like that. Replace my guess of what others think of this by Natasha thinks, and we are all good I read the rest of the discussion too no worries but I stay away from the whole gor thing. Not my cup of lemon juice. Too bad you still speak THE truth here. (whether its fiction or not....) as if there is but one truth. Facts are not the same as opinions. I rest my case. If you think the absolute truth does exist I shall respect your opinion and leave it at that
  7. Listen I accept your opinion although I do not nescessarily agree. What aggrivates most people here I guess is that you present it as an absolute truth, while in fact it is YOUR version and YOUR interpretation. (there you go , I say 'I guess' to indicate I THINK they do but I cannot actually speak for them). There is a BIG diffrence in "This book sucks because it is too short and too boring" and "in my opinion this book sucks because it is too short and too boring". People dont always have to agree on things to get along, just don't apply your own logic and view on the world and make it an absolute truth.
  8. Vegro Solari wrote: If I were a member of the Neaderthal race true and proper, I imagine it would be a matter of great pride for me. As always, the PC-defense brigade are hypocrites through and through, being absolutely intolerant of any alternative view, despite their formally declared open-mindedness, and freely using race-discriminatory ad-hominem language to smear their imaginary opponent. Calling someone a Neaderthal in a derogatory fashion is, at bottom, exactly identical to insulting a Negro as a Negro. Think about it. The slightly more than completely hypocritical shortfall here is very amusing! Funny, You say other people are not open to viewing things diffrent? In the mean time I havent seen you bend away from your beliefs just the slightest bit. When I read this topic its like having a 'dialog' with a Jehova's withness. I found that the smarter someone portrays himself to be, the less tolerant to other peoples opinions. THE absolute truth does NOT exist!!! And this is how I see it (stole the example from a philosopher , forgot the name) If you have two people and they both take a bath... one in hot water, the other one in cold water..... And you then let them share a bath with a temperature that is average... the one from the hot tub will say BRRRRR cold. The one from the cold tub will say AHHHH nice WARM They both say the opposite. They are both right from their perspective. DANG I swear if people realized this, it would end all war! PEACE!!!
  9. Someone asked me why I care about this. Well I asked in my opening post if this is a phenomenon people recognise. I was flabbegasted by it because I had an active social life on SL and saw it vaporize into thin air just like that. It made me scratch behind my ear and wonder if this is a common thing. I am also having trouble it seems finding same sex friends here. Sometimes when I go places it seems all people care about is dating and I surely hope that thats not the only purpose of SL hehe. Funny thing is I had this convo with my former male friends a lot. We wondered why everybody was so focussed on that and they said basically they liked me for the fact I was actually talking and conversing instead of trying to hit on them. LOL. And then I made the stupid mistake considering them 'friends'and thinking because of that they liked hanging around with me.
  10. Hahahah in that case Their loss. case closed. Since I am too stubborn to go IM people asking explanations after they delete me just like that. If someone deletes me that fast... they are the weakest link GOODBYE
  11. NEVER too early for cocktails. If you mean the drink. I dont wanna think about male genital shaped tails atm. :catmad: ALWAYS too early for that ~grins~ PS I got better things to do just dont feel like em
  12. Wich brings me to the question: Do men even have other male friends? (and a 'treehouse club' so to speak) Somehow I wonder if a man in a group gets treated the same when he partners. Miss my geek talk with my buddies, and most girls (not all) talk about stuff I ehhh ...
  13. OceanBird wrote: you dont understand man code if a women becomes partnered... ie...virtually married it aint cool to hang out with her anymore - its respect men give each other of couse scumbag men dont care - but those types of men are not the majority Weeeelll thats nice of them. First of all I didnt marry, second of all I expect my 'friends' to hear me out first. I partnered but other than that we can still hang as friends. My SL partner has a busy RL so I am more without him than with him haha. Would get terribly boring if I cant dance, hang out and have fun with other friends. We are not glued to eachother. Too bad most guys think a partnered woman turns into instant goo.
  14. Well I always been clear bout my intentions. When I really liked someone I expressed that. But the men made very clear they were not looking for a GF (I guess they tried to keep their options open?) and I asked ok friends then? And that was fine. So my guess is that as soon as I partnered they thought OK she is no longer a possibility lets move on to the next. And no I dont intend to ask them about it. Figured they blew it the moment they deleted me without even hearing me out.
  15. Question, since I lack class, I have blonde roots irl an I am not a native speaker: MEN and Them is plural right? Just checking if my sense of english grammar is letting me down here since your post appears to be merely a manual to you. So either I can't read english or you have multiple personalities. Or...maybe the arrogance to think what goes for you goes for the whole world.
  16. What happened a lot is this: I met guys when I was single in SL and it started with flirting if you call it (not to be confused with instant sex) but when I figured out the guy was not interested in a romantic way I took it to the just friends zone. And the ones that remained on my buddylist were cool with that and became pals I geeked around with. They were relieved I wasnt on their case bout girly stuff and I thought it was all good. I asked one why he deleted me and his response was "you pretend to not care bout relationships and stff here, thought you were a free spirit and now you have a partner:good luck with that" hmpff
  17. Are my panties supposed to get wet from so much semi intelligent yada yada? Oh no wait thats not very lady like of me ~grins and leans over the fence throwing pebbles into the water and giggles at her own wrinkly reflection in the water~
  18. Yes they just ASSUME I am busy all the time wich is so not the case since Elec has a busy RL and we hang out together 2 maybe 3 hours a week. All I tell my friends is IF he is online he obviously is my first priority because I wanna hang out with him the few moments we have.
  19. High five Alicia! You took the words right out of my mind! CHEERS to lovers of geeky funny creative weirdo's with a touch of bonkers! Geek is the new sexy. To infinity and beyond with all the self centered ego tripping oh-look-how-deep-and-poetic-and-a-gods-gift-to-women-I-am seriously sick of guys that have this attitude "I shall allow you to speak to me and consume my time" pfft I had one telling me out of the blue in an IM "I will consider letting you dance with me if you improve your avatar" (she was wearing army boots at the time in a room full of high heeled amazons that thought their belt was a skirt) I told him politely he could stick it where the sun dont shine....
  20. YES I was surprised! Here is what happened.... I partnered and logged on and no **bleep**...within an hou (!!!?!!!) 6 people deleted me without a word. It nearly blew my head off in surprise! JohnMiddlefield wrote: What I find amazing about this scenario is that others are actually checking your profile AND noticed the change in it? I have never ever heard of such a thing in SL before. You must leave an impact on others. Kud
  21. I understand about the 'clearing the weed' part....just utterly surprised how much weed there was in my backyard apparently. I feel like I am just a toy to people... they dont wanna play with it but they get pissed if someone else does. I had a lot of friends I geeked around with. Sure there was some flirting and we danced. Some started out as a little more but went to the friends level after I made very clear I am not just a booty call. All fine. Guess they dont want me, but dont want anyone else to have me either. Also find it very hard to make new friends now. Its like the partner means RED FLAG to people when it comes to approaching me. To me having a partner does not mean at all I cant talk to others. He does not even expect me to. So its a big mystery to me why men apparently have problems with this since they didn't want to partner in the first place. Because if they don't wanna date me, why would they be bothered by the fact I have a partner? This sucks. I go clubbing and people just dont talk to me anymore. But it does not make me doubt my partnership. He is not online a lot and I know he feels guilty about that but I said time and time again I rather be with him the few hours a week he can break free of RL and have a complete BLAST than that I waste my time on people who are apparently not worthy of my attention in the first place. (just saying incase he reads this... and hey HEY awesome Electric we RULE okay?? xoxox)
  22. Anyone recognises this? You THINK you have cool friends in SL and the moment you partner and log on.... one after the other suddenly deletes you or doesn't speak to you. I am kind of a tomboy and I had a lot of male friends. Sometimes I went dancing or clubbing with them or we just hung in IM. They all treated me as one of the guys and made very sure they weren't into dating. That was fine with me because neither was I. Then I meet this coolio guy and we decide to give it a go. I expected nothing to change because I wasnt having a sexual relationship with my friends... and to my big surprise they ditch me by the side of the road. Makes me wonder... what the hell is up with that. I thought they didnt see me like that in the first place. I am partnered, not terminally ill haha. And its not contageous either. Poor choice in who I call 'friends' ? Or is this something that happened to others too. It gets rather boring if people stop talking to me now I am partnered haha.
  23. Yawns, scratches her butt, looks around if anyone saw her and grins as she climbs back into the tree dangling her feet... Classy... hmpfff .... the diffrent man..... snorts They are the worst. Sweep you off your feet being the poet, being intellectual, not just about sex. They are dark yet romantic, know how to converse, take you to a jazzclub instead of a sex sim and then you find out its all part of the act. Been there, done that.
  24. Its very simple. You put that info bout your RL into your profile to make sure people who approach you in SL know in advance what they sign up for. I would feel terribly bad in misleading someone to believe we can have a RL follow up on a SL romance/sex. So I think its to warn people off out of respect. Especially because you cant tell by the avi name wheter that person sees SL as an extention of their RL self or as a fictional RP character. And then things can get VERY ugly VERY fast. I am married irl and my rl husband is on SL too. We see our avis as characters, like an actor plays his part. Actors kiss too during romance scenes yet that doesnt mean they will divorce their partner. (ok sometimes that does happen but thats besides the point here) Both me and my rl husband have no problem with SL romance and partnering. As long as what happens in SL stays in SL. We are both honest to our SL partners about this. In fact I am happy bout the fact my SL man is married irl too. This means we both get to have fun yet we know we dont hurt RL feelings with this. It should be fun and not cause RL drama. There are a lot of people who think they can judge the fact I am married AND in SL but they dont know my RL and they can absolutely not say a word about how happy I am in RL. I love my husband. I wouldnt divorce him for whatever prince charming I meet in SL. Because here in SL everything is perfect. There is no bills to pay, no toothpaste caps. no dirty laundry, no bad hairdays... so you can show the other person a perfect version of yourself. I am old enough not to believe in fairytales so I just take the best parts out of my SL experience and although I am very fond of my SL partner, its good to know where we stand. I do have emotions towards him but we keep those in SL I wish people would be less judgemental and stop assuming theres something wrong with my RL relationship when I tell someone we are both in SL.
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