Amanda Crisp

So I was talking to a RL friend in a messaging client outside SL while within SL, I was in a Roleplay-sim. In the Roleplay, I was typing for a non-player-character (I was a moderator) who’d been blackmailed into seducing someone by Very Bad People. Just about the time I was posting the big “close the deal” line (suggestive would be putting it mildly) - I was stricken by WWS (Wrong Window Syndrome) I ended up laying probably the most graphic suggestion I’ve ever thought up in my LIFE on my unsuspecting RL friend….. Awkwardness ensued……. Yes, that was embarrassing……

None of my business. Seriously.

Once upon a time the SL forums were a flame-fest to rival Twitter. That got very old, very fast and I stoped visiting. I have *issues* with the way potentially contentious themes are sometimes locked pre-emptively under the current management, but I have also not encountered “total despair of civilized conversation” either and have remained here for a long while. I look at it like this; people who MUST flame and belittle others can Tweet and Post away on other platforms. I’ll go with what we have here for as long as things remain civil 🙂

Hopefully this is not Necroposting, but my situation has evolved since I replied last week and I thought it might be of interest to those with concerns about Club Staff in SL. To whit; Guests who “Game” contests very nearly convinced me to hang up my headset and make SL photography my hobby after doing the DJ thing for not-a-few years. As was mentioned previously, many DJs put up 1000-2000 lindens per contest, lease a stream to pipe music into SL, buy music and maintain a wardrobe to perform in (especially for Themed contests). Right now I do 3 events a week; so you see how it adds up. So, enter the Alts…. They show up, enter the contest and vote so that their Puppetmaster wins. This greatly annoys genuine guests who are there to also socialize. The Alts do NOT tip and effectively de~incentivize the regulars, meaning that revenue goes away as well. Over time, many efforts to -prevent what is essentially Cheating from taking place. Some are technical, some are behavioral and none of them work terribly well because the Regulars get less staff attention while the Alt Policing takes place. I don’t DJ to be the Contest Police 🙂 I DJ because I love music and socializing … I’m looking at an alternate format to keep DJing without the frustration of the contest gamers ( contestants are fine; the people who try to game the system however are an issue) Anyway, not complaining really, just providing real look at the inside of how events are run, financed and the challenges of doing that even if profit is NOT the goal. Even in a virtual world, people are people and not all people like to play fair.

Some thoughts from a DJ: 01..SL is global and for many residents, tipping is not a custom they encounter in RL so an occasional reminder that tipping allows the DJ to purchase new music and pay for the stream they are enjoying is probably a practical item. Reminding to Excess is an issue. 02..None of the venues I work at pay me. Its all tips and since I actively solicit requests (and therefore buy music to fill them - I don’t Rip) I generally always spend more to entertain than I make in tips. 03..I spam for tips for my host once an hour. Generally the Host does the same for me. 04..Nobody puts a gun to anyone’s head and makes them toggle their music on to listen to a DJ’s stream. 05..I am just as glad to get a 10L tip as a 500L gratuity. I appreciate that someone was having fun and thought it was nice enough to tip for. Times are hard in RL and money does not come easy, so the thought definitely counts. 06..Moderation in all things is usually the best path 🙂

A sad offshoot of this is when SL women IM males whose target cursor lands on or near them and ask/order/demand that the cursor be moved “because my boyfriend is very jealous and will accuse me of cheating”. I’m not sure what bothers me more; the “Property Rights” mindset of the boyfriend or the woman who enables him.

[01]..Real / Actual “Hide global presence” [02]..Group messages that work reliably [03]..The ability to Partner more than one other avatar [04]..A Pegasus

Wait….we have NON adult things in the MP?

You’re talking Shopping events? I am a dance club DJ and *I* was about to agree with you 🙂 So far as targeted shopping in SL, I do much better by looking at my RSS feed that’s set to collect info from any number of Fashion Divas whose I follow. Going to the shopping event is something I do when I’m bored :-)

To be remembered is not to die 🙂

I want to be remembered as having possessed an interesting cloud of consistent contradictions :-) ..and raising two children who chose professions that involve service to something other them themselves.

I use that section to remind myself of significant life events that person is undergoing. This lets me avoid seeming insensitive in conversation by referencing the notes saying: “going through divorce”, “RL spouse passed”, “very bad arthritis- types slowly but not being inattentive” and similar. I talk to a LOT of people in SL as a DJ and in general. Little reminders help me be respectful. This was a habit that carried over from RL where I wanted to make sure I remembered any significant situations related to the people entrusted to me. It always helps to remember those birthdays, weddings and significant life events. Especially if the note was “child passed away today 10 years ago” and the right move is not to “coach someone about taking to long on the break patio” but instead to just go sit w them. Sometimes taking notes is not for the purposes of dehumanizing people as data; but to acknowledge shared humanity.

So I JUST made it home w my new self-driving robot vacuum cleaner….. With a lifetime supply, I guess my cat Spike can use one as a kitty battle-chariot when Dog invades his space…..

Barbie Sacrificial Bed? It needs to be pink with Ken-sized manacles…..

Wait….I thought we were chaining someone to a block and visiting the lake…

My brain hurts……

Can I run and hide from my saviors?

Not all mobile browsers/screens render Boards completely or “above microdot” outside of the main thread content 🙂. Since I work a bunch, I am posting from my mobile about 80% of the device. This being the case, I generally respond to whatever the forum places prominently and hope it’s chronological-order :-D If it costs me Cool Kid Points, I’ll have to take the hit :-)

Second life really has no “enforced identity” areas so asking those uncomfortable and potentially privacy-invasive questions is up to the individual. Having said that, is there really anywhere on the internet that one can verify another’s details w 100% confidence? Governments still send information and extend voting privileges to dead people, so this probably has a way to go. My advice is always that if “real” matters, Facebook might work better than SL. If you discount all the “alt” accounts on FB of course…

Forum oldies have heard this before from me :-) I’m one of the fortunate ones Second Life allows to “simulate being normal” despite an annoying physical challenge 🙂 As a lifelong runner and fitness-nut, I was “blessed” with an atypical early-life stoke. It wasn’t horrible; I still raised two children, have a career and even a very physical side job (to pay for raising two children)….but one of my lasting “deficits” is that when tired, stressed (or even in the Mood) I can do a very good Elmer Fudd / Drunk impersonation. ”Thouch my nithplz” is just NOT sexy talk 🙂 In my RL work, I’m the one rehearsing for the morning Zoom-call so I can be understandable (my duty shift is an overnighter so I’m very tired by meeting time). I’m not shy about being open about this, because my *hope* is that I can encourage people like myself to make use of SL to fill some of the empty spaces that our physical challenges create. My relationship with my SL Partner is important to me. The emotional reality of love lasts longer then the human body can sustain the *act* of love; so I do not feel shorted 🙂

I like to think we have a little more going for us as a couple than *only* Pixeling 🙂 But yes, her brain is dead-sexy 🙂 But its the fact that I have someone who - after 15 years of sharing our most private thoughts - still chooses to be with me anyway…. ….that’s what makes me all warm inside 🙂

That’s awesome! I’ve managed to stay partnered to the same typist in SL for a little over 15 years; which is three times longer than Real Life worked out 🙂 Not having a “log out and cool off” button for RL hampered things…..

OK, I’ll bite. ”For the duration of the holidays; all scripted body parts can NOT text-spam local chat.” The grid gets a reprieve from Guy-Parts that Rap and Lady-Parts that yodel…… Oh…and for the same duration everyone gets a kitty!

Hey do we REALLY want my sanity taking a hit and Amanda getting in trouble when Psychostalkers #323 & #627 can get at me that much easier? Those ban lines might be there for THEIR protection after all 🙂

I am a big believer in emotionally committed relationships - so don’t take what I am about to say as a put-down on staying with a person (or persons) because they are special to you and there are no “ties that bind” holding anyone hostage….….…..but…. ”Why is divorce from a legalistic marriage (that has a “senior partner” and a “junior partner” so expensive?…. Because its worth it……” (( If for example you live someplace where your Husband has to sign financial papers related to Real Property along with you because…he’s the husband, he’s in charge of you and very much aware of that…. Like…where I lived….))