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  1. Maybe the key to retaining Residents is to be better able to direct them to content they *want* and ensure that they *understand* that the content providers are....other residents....and not SL itself ?

    Operating in an open “Environment” is a different ( or at least a more intense ) social skill-set than that used for a closed-loop “Game”. Perhaps if prospective Residents relate to that concept, they will be better prepared to “go find your own fun” as opposed to wandering and being disappointed by the lack of a set progression path.


  2. I can muster up some sympathy for the O.P.

    I ‘ve had a second career in the Business world with an overlap into non-profits. Attention to Detail is “God” when rolling out a new process - but so is simplicity and understandability. Understanding the 2nd and 3rd order impacts of your actions comes in right behind them.

    I love SL, but in all honesty - they have some issues with how they implement and roll-out new things. Communications seem un-coordinated at times and it almost *takes* a full-on firestorm to get them to provide clarity. This can be off-putting to many for a variety of reasons.

    But as I said, I love SL - I can work through the “word soup” for something I care about.


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  3. On 6/18/2019 at 8:27 AM, chardonay Babii said:

    Typically, men in society often have privilege in many ways including strength, height, positions of power and higher wages. 

    Does SL reverse this balance of power by a virtual world society placing greater value on attributes many women possess or are more likely to be better at than men? 

    I think your question is interesting.

    SL is very Female-Avatar-Centric, but I’m unsure as to how the actual RL gender demographic of the Typists impacts that.

    For Clarity: I think racial/gender fluidity in SL is wonderful and I make a concerted effort “not to ask or care” about anyone’s RL.

    Anything that helps us understand each other, even in a small way, makes me happy.


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  4. Just now, Theresa Tennyson said:

    The "whole new administrative bureaucracy" has been around since 2015.


    I’m glad to be aware of it then 🙂

    Redundant Databases are simply redundant opportunities to “lose” data to Very Mean People. If this information “chopped” to a spun-off subsidiary, I’d be interested to know if other copies held by LL were eliminated. Knowing their Data Security Plan going forward would also be a confidence builder.

    I’ve had the lovely experience of having to wrangle LL, my Bank and PayPal based on an error made by LL that caused me some small financial issues. It was resolved 3 months later, but really never left me with a great confidence in their safeguarding processes.

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  5. Y’know, like many others I am kind of on-edge about SL in general. LL has given me good reason to doubt their commitment to User privacy or to deal effectively with issues like stalking.

    Why does “we’re creating a whole new administrative bureaucracy that will have your personal information” *not* fill me with joy? Having my details in a whole NEW database that can be breached or mishandled is probably part of it.

    As many users are outside the USA and many inside the US use financial services like Privacy.com to keep their personal details PRIVATE - this could lead to a dip in LL’s revenue stream.

    Yes, its regulation-driven. I still don’t like it much.

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  6. I usually shut down people who are using SL as Facebook or Tinder pretty quickly when I mention my grandchildren.

    But...as someone who has “impaired” speech following a stroke - if their phobias compel them to ask for voice; I am well-prepared to sound Drunk when I tell them “bye”.....


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  7. On 6/24/2019 at 3:30 PM, CarterTom said:

    Wow..... amazing!!!
    I get a warning from Theresa Linden because i posted a link to my twitch here,.....  
    I wanted to show that SECOND LIFE ISNT BANNED FROM TWITCH AT ALL!!! 

    That is *****ing rediculous.  I am trying to be helpful and take a stand for LL and i get warned
    Because i want to show the GOOD side .... right,.......  

    Ive been stalked for over two years by one and the same person, made over 20 REPORTS and nothing happens.
    (double standards, Lindens? It only concerns you if it AFFECTS you ?  wow!!!!) 

    But im trying to be helpful and add some GOOD NEWS to the community,......  and then this??
    Well last  time i would EVER stick my neck out again... Thanks Theresa!!! 

    (yes i stick my neck out cause maybe i WILL get banned from twitch because i broadcast SL to show them that its NOT only a porn site and a social platform where ***** happens all the time.........  guess good deeds arent appreciated.......)  

    No advertising or promotion of specific Second Life merchants, 
    Marketplace listings, products, or services, unless the forum area is 
    specifically for the buying or selling of Second Life products or 
    services, for example, a “for sale” or “wanted” forum. Do not reference 
    other websites offering any product or service. "  

    Really??  You should be THANKFUL that i promote SL in a GOOD WAY on other platforms so you might get MORE people who want to check it out and join.!  There is no advertising here, no promotion for my own benefit of ANY KIND!!!! It benefits SL  not me...... "   Maybe you should STOP putting everyone in the same box and let people HELP instead of punishing them for it. After all ( its a user created platform right????)  So let the community support eachother and dont be an ass about little things that have no meaning........  

    last time i ever did that :(

    THE NAME SECOND LIFE or LINDEN LABS will NEVER EVER be sayd or heard or typed in my twitch again.
    Nor will i SHOW what happens here. Its not worth it...... SL is not worth it.... the Lindens arent worth that kind of support.

    Thank you!!! 


    Posted in support of Carter Tom...... TY for trying anyway.

    Also, as a Psycho-Stalking Survivor who got zero help from “management”; I feel you.


  8. Related to this topic:

    Do we currently have access to information about how *much* of current LL expenses that Premium Fees pay for?

    It might be nice to see a pie chart showing how much they take in on Premium, Tier and MP Transaction Fees, so we have some idea if Premium Fees are the best place to focus our efforts (I’m pretty sure they are, but just want to be sure).

    It might also be good to know the Subsidy Rate; how many Basic Accounts are serviced based in income provided by Premium Users. Basic accounts *do* provide income to the economy  in the form of Rent and direct purchases, and also directly pay LL in the form of Marketplace fees....so I would be interested to see how much (or even *if*) Basic Users are subsidized by Premium Payments.

    It *could* be that Basic accounts are self-funding over the course of a year; I just don’t know.

    But if we know all that, we can determine the urgency needed where Premium is concerned.

    Disclaimer: If what I pay in premium also helps LL keep Basic Accounts free for other Residents - that will make me happy. I would prefer that any “excess” profit over what’s reasonable go towards helping the user base and maintaining the technical infrastructure that keeps SL alive. In RL I’m a semi-disabled person who gets to be “normal” in SL, so I value this crazy digital world maybe more than one might assume.


  9. On 2/3/2019 at 9:52 PM, IvyLarae said:

    So I admit I've been looking for a master or Mistress to spend my time with and theirs a pattern I've noticed when people see my pick (which is on my alt Tessreil Resident) about it

    It reads:

     I am a masochistic Para RPer, I love situations that have me covered in welts, slap/ spank marks, cuts and bruises.

    For a more in-dept idea of what I am and am not into, please see the pick Limits/ Likes/Dislikes

    Please read the pick "My Role" to get an idea of what kind of bottom I am.

    **If you want it to, this relationship will extend to all 5 of my alts. Unless you want to be, you won't be owning a character, you'll be owning me, so if you prefer the look of another alt, or want to collar them all, then your welcome to if I accept your collar**

    Here are the things I am looking for:
    - Fully updated, mesh avatar. If you wear bento hands, then please wear a bento AO
    - Know how to emote properly in a turn-based  paragraph role-play style.
    - Be okay with me playing at other sims and with other people when not in your presence/ when your offline
    - Be okay with how I look. A dress code is fine.

    If the above sounds like something you would enjoy or if you have questions , then please IM me!

    You'll notice that I have the 4th point of my pick underlined, and its for a reason. The pattern I've noticed, is a lot of them have a problem with me not being willing to be exclusive to them right at the beginning of the relationship, despite me telling I would probably be willing once i was sure They would be everything I wanted and if I enjoyed what was happening. Then when I bring up the question if they would be willing to be exclusive to me and me only, they act like I'm rubbing salt in an open wound that I would ever suggest such a thing.

    Have you all ever experienced this???

    My personal opinions only....

    It might help to be very specific on whether you are looking to “lifestyle” BDSM with a specific dominant or just find someone to Scene with. “Lifestylers” are looking for some level of commitment - which varies by individual - but it might help to be clear on that.

    At one time, some septs of BDSM used the conventions of the “Consideration Collar” and the “Play Collar”. A Consideration Collar was offered to a prospective Submissive during a Trial period before any binding commitments were made; so that both Top and Bottom could see if this was a good fit for them. This would cover your desire to “get to know” a Dominant before committing to a Lifestyle Arrangement.  The Play Collar might be offered for a single session of “sport” and bears no commitment, this might also suit your purposes if you  want to Scene and then walk away.

    Just because a given individual is on the BDSM Scene, that does not mean they are into Poly or Hookup culture. Many Dominants are in fact looking for that one special Submissive that they can pour-into and make a genuine time-investment in, so it might not be germane to be too hard on them for looking for exclusivity. BDSM is not always completely about sex.

    A good approach might be to specifically look for Dominants who state that they are into Open/Poly/Multi-Submissive situations and are not looking for exclusivity up front.

    BDSM “Lifestyle” is a time commitment for both parties, so exclusivity is used by some as a litmus test for the ability to commit.

    Side Note: Some SL residents find it unsettling for someone to be up-front about having several alts, a prospective Dominant might see that as indicating someone with too wide a variety of tastes for them to satisfy  - so maybe it might be a good idea not to *lead* with that, but bring it up after a personal relationship is more established ?

    Best wishes!!! 

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  10. Technology has leveraged the greatest OPPORTUNITY for behavioral change within gender roles.

    Instant global communication has increased awareness and therefore enlightened many to *new* possibilities. Good ideas are hard to kill once they get communicated.

    Tools have made former gender-based restrictions based on upper body strength and reproductive (gestation) cycles largely irrelevant - although still enforced in many areas.

    Technology and Social Media have also caused some of the most conflicted messaging in history...the modern woman is supposed to be financially and emotionally independent while *at the same time* remaining ”forever 21”,  having some version of a “perfect” body shape, buying shoes that kill their feet and generally conforming to Pop Cultures version of what “normal” looks like.

    ......and we tune in daily to make sure we know what that is.


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  11. 21 hours ago, Orwar said:

       Online dating services are almost universally looked at with a good deal of scepticism, but occasionally they do work - I'd expect an SL service to preform similarly. One of the reasons for the scepticism is the whole thing of distilling a person into a couple of lines, which generally don't do much to give you a good understanding of what kind of person they are; but the same could be said of 'people in SL', so I'd almost expect them to work slightly better for avatars than people.

    BDSM in Second Life is hard to quantify as “all one thing” because - just like in RL - it’s practitioners vary in ideology, motivation and the soft skills that underpin a good Dom/Domme.

    This leaves us with trying to narrow down the specific fetishes the Domme/Submissives wish to address and what hard limits they might have. That information -can- be quantified on a list. The value of that on an Avatar matching service means you can narrow the field of possibles considerably, and much faster than talking to one person at a time.

    The other virtue has to deal with anonymity. The person “seeking” has an opportunity to “screen” potentials without revealing their identity until they feel confident that they have a viable candidate. This reduces the chance of having people with a penchant for “stalking” behaving badly if they are -not- the One offered a Negotiation.

    Many people have issues with Rejection, so the anonymity of using the service is probably an emotional cushion for people -not- selected as they might not even know their profile was considered. Less drama is always good for SL.

    Avatar marching is no better overall than going door to door from the aspect of -knowing- who a person is; but it can help you rule out people whose compatibility would be low and spare everyone’s feelings in the process.

  12. 9 minutes ago, Orwar said:

       As long as the service's name isn't profane on its own, I don't think there'd be any issue. Suggesting somewhere one might find something they are looking for isn't the same as advertising.

    Thank you Orwar....

    This will be a shocker, but AvMatch.com did a great job of putting what I was looking for in front of -the right audience.

    Avatar matching services are looked at with a good deal of skepticism, but for this specific purpose - top marks 🙂


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