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Amanda Crisp

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  1. I own a latest generation Intel iMac (32g) and a 2020 M1 Mac Mini (16g) and Sl runs well on both. I have to “manage” the Mini for photography a bit, but I expect that to smooth out after Firestorm for Mac ports more and more to the M1 chip architecture.

    I spent 21 years using software from MicroSatan and I’m not eager to contemplate going back 🙂

    Probably, its just a “what flavor of ice cream do you like?” Issue tho....so if you’re happy; thats what counts.



  2. Speaking for myself, I think its wonderful for people to be able to express themselves through their avatars.

    My ONLY exception to that was the one time someone tried to intentionally disrupt a Photoshoot I was involved in and “beauty-shame” the models. That was annoying and - as it turned out - misdirected since this was a “for charity” shoot and not the SL Big Fashion they were after.

    But I also support freedom of political expression; even when I’m not drinking the kool-aid being served 😉



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  3. Some years ago there was a Resident who sold - as a service - his time to visit the other Resident of your choice and “moon” them (he had a selection of animations).

    I’m not sure if he quit, was banned or might still be around....

    ...but if you want multiple moons; he would be the guy to call.


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  4. I don’t voice due to a stroke but I do multiple SL gigs a week, take tons of requests and do some creative stuff for ads and intros with LogicProX that I work I to my sets.

    Voice is a delicate subject as it runs the gamut from radio-quality to that guy with a bad mic who says “uhhh” a lot and talks over the music.

    I advocate for my style of DJing because I really have no choice, and because I am willing to spend the time to bridge whatever gaps that exist.

    You would not believe the compliments I get for NOT talking over the music by people who came to dance 🙂


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  5. I beat my head against this one for many years. Added complexity: I also DJ and model within SL and end up drawing Bonus Stalkers based on that.

    Ultimately, muting and de-rendering are my best solution for random creeps.

    If “hey baby, you should do me some time” is the best they can do in an IM, I’m saving both of us time by evicting them from the SL I can perceive......

    No argument, no drama - just an empty space where Sex Tourist #5986 used to be.

    Since there is no “one size fits all” definition of *What Is Second Life?*, we will always have conflict between the “its a game and I can be an A$$ if I want” crowd and people like me who are legitimately living a Second Life here. Mute/De-Render seems like the most painless way to manage that boundary for people who won’t read Profiles and demonstrate by their behavior that all you are to them is a potential sexbot.



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  6. On 1/11/2021 at 12:27 PM, Doc Carling said:

    I'm talking about an official partnership confirmed by Linden and visible in your profile. At what point do you say "yes"? And when do you say "no"? If anyone now thinks: "He must be definitely not like you, Doc!" No problem. That's ok. lol As for my expectations. Well,  I meet a lady online. We married in real life and it ended in a disaster. So it's hard to imagine for me that I partner with someone online again.

    I met my Partner on our Originals in the old (Original) SL Amazon Nations. After talking and shopping together for a bit, we discovered that we were into a whole bunch of the same - strange - stuff. We Partnered in late 2005 and including anti-stalker avatar changes, we are still actively together.

    One of our "rules" has always been "no RL contact" - so we've never had the chance to spoil a beautiful, virtual thing by getting fragile flesh and blood involved in it.

    ..its also kind of handy when you can log out of a disagreement before one of you says something unforgivable and come back to it when the urge to "win" an argument has passed.

    For me, it was finding someone (from a whole other country) that resonated on the same strange frequency that I do. We've never run out of things to talk about, have always kept our inworld finances strictly 50-50 and have never demanded that our "other half" sell out a strongly-held belief for the sake of being together. We agree to disagree about some things (no emotional blackmail) and all the *work* that entails has made the relationship much more valuable.

    I found someone what was willing to show me she loved me, not just mumble-the-words-and-log.

    We have had some spectacular disagreements too, but *us* is collectively more precious than me/her. I learned that from being around her 🙂

    I'll do another 15 years with her ! .....just to make sure I was right about the first 15 😄


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  7. N00b me would discover that my SL Partnering from 2005 was still alive and well.........and be completely flabbergasted.

    That's over three times as long as my most significant Real Life relationship and truthfully; it means a lot more to me.

    N00b me would probably come away from that *slightly* less cynical about relationships 🙂


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  8. On 2/26/2021 at 7:59 AM, Wili Clip said:


    What are we afraid of? What will other people think about us? Are we afraid others will notice our flaws? That other people will laugh at and make fun out of us? That we are not good enough and we have to hide?
    Everyone has flaws and those who criticize and laugh at other people usually have the biggest ones. I have flaws. Nobody is perfect. Why create an image of perfection and then be anxious or depressed because there are such discrepancies between imaginary and reality?

    About 11 days ago I decided to reveal myself to my SL gamers community and it has been cathartic for me.

    I now use voice in Second Life whenever possible and I've been practicing getting out of my comfort zone about that and I wish more people would do the same. Your brain will reward you with release of dopamine every time you make a personal breakthrough.

    Why are we hiding behind our avatars? Are we creating another personality? Are we afraid of ourselves?
    (I do maybe understand in the case of women as they could become a target of harassment and stalkers - that is viable concern)

    I think that Second Life should be an extension of real life and not a replacement. I believe that it can even be psychologically harmful if someone lives their life through Second Life. My friend in SL is a psychologist and she did research on that topic that confirms it.

    My RL body is my avatar and avatar in Second Life is just an extension that lets me do, experience and achieve more things than I could in RL without using virtual world tech.

    So what is your main reason for hiding behind your avatar?


    Those of us who’ve been in SL a while will recall the tag line; “Your World, Your Imagination”.

    Is sounds like you’re advocating to remove some of that “imagination”.

    For many like myself, SL is a place where our physical disabilities don’t matter as much. I can not just speak and move normally; I can FLY and TELEPORT. Best of all, by hiding behind my avatar I can be mistaken for “normal” and spared the pity of well-meaning people.

    There are bunches of social networks for people who want to use them as dating services or business networks, so why make sl “just one more of those” by handcuffing the users to Real Lives that might not be all that much fun?

    Generally, people don’t think of Sl as a haven for the disabled.

    We like it that way. That means we’re “just like everybody else” with the same opportunities.

    But...”your world: your imagination”. Live YOUR Sl as you see fit, and so will we 🙂



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  9. 6 hours ago, Foggypebble Muircastle said:

    But that’s the thing, I use paypal. I’m getting refused before I even get the chance To put in my info and complete the purchase.

    When I had my issue, I was using PayPal.

    What made this even more complicated was - at first - my bank, PayPal and Linden Lab were effectively blaming each other.

    This was after a change of political administrations and evidently someone was interpreting some new regulations "strictly"

  10. I went through something similar some years ago.

    My bank and/or LL’s bank had been reclassified as “offshore” by the US authorities and they were nerfing my purchases.

    Ultimately I changed banks and the problem went away.

    PayPal usually works, unless your source bank is on someone’s “shady” list.

    There are other issues like having connectivity/security issues with your local WiFi that annoy the banks security, but I’m not too in-the-know about that.

    I’d suggest calling your bank and asking them whats-up.



  11. IMHO, it may or may not be porn.

    However, if you are having pixel sex with someone other than your RL Partner and;

    (a) you are in an exclusive relationship 

    (b) your Partner has not said its OK to Pixel other people in SL

    Then you most likely meet the definition of Cheating.

    Sl has plenty of people who are into open relationships/Poly/whatever - so long as everyone knows in advance whats on the menu, then the only possible drama is someone discovering that this is *not* for them.

    Someone who decides sneaking around is the way to go (maybe they like the thrill of taking the risk of discovery) - well; you knew what you were getting into......

    Cheating can lead to conversations that begin like the .gif below and get worse.........


    No judgement here, we all have to live however we can square with our collective consciences....just bear the consequences like a grownup........

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  12. I really want a feature that allows for Community  Naming of avatars.

    ”Social Acclaim” Version

    You pay nothing, any accumulated Warning Points get wiped away and your Friends get to pick a descriptive last name for you that you must keep for a year.

    ”Restorative Justice” Version

    You get all the above as well as an additional bonus “all your vanished inventory is returned to you”. In return, the top three avatars who have filed ARs against you get to pick your last name.


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  13. I’ve been in a LONG term SL relationship and I love the other Human very much.


    ”Are SL relationships the same as RL?”

    Not really, because = Alts

    I’ve been (counting my Original) in SL since 2005. One recurring theme has been; “I thought everything was good, then I learned about my Lover/Partner/SO’s alt and their whole other life - and I feel betrayed.”

    Bigamists are a thing in Real Life, but SL makes it a lot easier for those so-inclined.

    SL can be a great enabler for those who treat their relationships and lovers as Disposable, so my thought is this; if you find someone good - treat them good 🙂

    You can easily stress out over the possibilities, so either not caring or  learning to deal with that is probably the secret of a Long Term SL Relationship.


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