to be honest, I'm perfectly happy with skype or discord being the limit of SL to RL interaction. I haven't met anyone from SL in the real life body odor flesh since my rez day, and I probably never will as far as I know.
Personally, I just assume everyone behind the avatar is the embodiment of everything I consider unattractive. If you expect everyone to be hideous, you could either be correct or pleasantly surprised, but never disappointed.